There is a passage in "Jane Eyre":
Love is a game, and we must always be equal and evenly matched with each other in order to be dependent on each other for a long time. Because an opponent who is too strong is tired, and an opponent who is too weak is tired.
In a relationship, there is always a need for two people to grow together.
You need to learn to love someone well, not always thinking that the other person will come to love you. In a relationship, men and women have different ways of thinking, men prefer vigorous love, while women prefer the company of a long stream.
In a relationship, the more you want the other person to love you, the less the other person will cherish you.
If you want a man to love you, you have to make yourself a worthy person first. When you get better and better, you will naturally meet the right person.
- You have to be good, not good because men love you
If you want a man to love you, then learn to make yourself better and let him see your shining point. He loves you because he is attracted to you, but it doesn't mean that he will always love you, because a man's love has a shelf life.
When a man doesn't love you, he thinks you're not good enough, so he leaves. If a man really loves you, then he will give you all his time and make you a better person. In fact, in a relationship, men and women think differently. If a woman always complains about her other half in front of men, saying that her other half is not good enough, then men will not want to be with such a woman more and more.
So in a relationship, a woman has to learn to make herself good, so that the man will love you more.
- You have to have your own opinions, not be attached to Him
There is a saying, "If you bloom, butterflies will come." ”
A person can only attract better people when he is independent. When a woman is always attached to a man in her relationship, the man will feel that the woman has no value.
In a relationship, a woman should not always be attached to a man, but should have her own opinions. Women have to learn to be independent so that they can become more attractive.
When you become better and better, those excellent men will naturally be attracted to you. In a relationship, only two people who are evenly matched can go to the end.
- You have to be independent and not always dependent on him
Many women always like to cling to their men and follow them wherever they go.
This kind of behavior is actually very bad, because you will only make him feel that you can't live without him.
In a relationship, if you always want the other person to love you, it will only make the other person feel that you don't have a life of your own.
If a man really loves you, then he will definitely respect your choice instead of blindly controlling you.
Men need a certain amount of space in love, but women can't rely too much.
The best way for a woman to want a man to love herself is to make herself more independent.
When a woman becomes independent, she will have her own life and her own pursuits.
When a woman becomes independent, she will naturally be liked by more men.
So in a relationship, don't rely too much on a man. You have to learn to live independently and do something you love to do.
If you stick to him all the time, then he will only feel that you are not free.
In a relationship, women have to learn to be independent, and when you become independent, men will cherish you more.