Women often bear much more than men in the marriage market.
Especially divorced women.
When most people hear that a woman is married for the second time, they put on colored glasses.
Those who can be successfully matched with second-married women are basically second-married, or the conditions are relatively poor in all aspects.
Of course, it is not that there is prejudice against the second marriage, but that the pressure and challenges of the second marriage will be greater.
Even if you start a family, you will face many difficulties.
The main thing is that it is also difficult to find someone who is sincere to themselves.
Many divorced women are reluctant to find a man anymore, even if they are alone with children, life is very tired, and the pressure is very high, they resolutely do not look for it.
Today I will share two examples from my side, which are real cases that really happened.
One is my cousin.
My cousin and her ex-husband divorced because the other party had bad habits and owed a lot of gambling debts, which overwhelmed the whole family.
After the divorce, my cousin took her nephew and lived with her aunt and uncle.
My cousin makes a living by working, my aunt and uncle are old, and the family lives very hard.
After the divorce, I met some people on a blind date. As soon as I heard that my cousin was carrying a son and was in high school, I screened out a group of people.
Because the next thing that means going to college is a big expense.
In the future, I will have to bear the heavy responsibility of marrying a wife, buying a house, and the bride price, these practical factors have made many people retreat.
I have also come into contact with a few people, but they are not sincere, they all have their own calculations, and they are very calculating about money.
And when the child is older, it is difficult for him to accept a stranger again. When you get along with each other, there will always be some friction, and if you get along with each other, it will be over too many times.
Now my cousin doesn't want to look for it anymore.
Rather than being wary of each other and calculating with a person, it is better to live alone.
Raising a child alone is more stressful, at least comfortable.
The other one is my neighbor, Sister Qin.
She is beautiful and has no shortage of men to chase. But it's not ladylike to meet people.
Her first husband was handsome, very good at rhetoric, and very good at coaxing girls to be happy.
Under his offensive, Sister Qin was moved, and the two got married and started a family.
After getting married, I found that the other party was not doing his job properly and had no sense of responsibility.
After giving birth to a child, she ignored the child and messed with flowers and grass everywhere.
In the end, the marriage ended in divorce.
At the time of the divorce, Sister Qin was 34 years old, and her daughter was awarded to her.
Two years later, I was introduced to my second husband, and the other party's family conditions were good, and Sister Qin felt that she could still find a man with such conditions after being divorced, so she burned high incense and remarried after a period of contact.
But this marriage is not happy, the other party has a very bad temper, loses his temper at every turn, drinks a little wine and upsets the family, and does something to her.
The marriage lasted four years and ended again.
After two failed marriages, Sister Qin was completely disappointed in her marriage.
In the past, I was not independent ideologically, and I felt that it was too difficult to live alone with children after divorce. I want to find someone to rely on.
Later, I found that if I just looked for it with such an attitude, it would just be from one abyss and then into another abyss.
Sister Qin has a formal job and is fully capable of supporting her children, so there is really no need to wronged herself and commit herself to others.
Why do women want to remarry? The reasons are none other than these.
1. The financial pressure is high, and I want to find someone to share it.
2. Living alone is too lonely and wants to find someone to rely on.
3. I still long for love, and I long for someone to love and love myself.
But these are very difficult to encounter in a second marriage.
In the second marriage, most of them have calculations in terms of money, especially with one child each, and they all think about their own children, and it is difficult to balance the bowl of water.
After a failed marriage, people will become a little selfish, it is difficult to treat each other wholeheartedly, and sincerity is even more difficult to find.
Therefore, it is difficult to get what you want in the second marriage, but it is just to make do with it.
If two people live together, if they just make do with each other and don't have love, it is easy to have chilling moments.
Rather than being wronged in marriage, it is better to live alone. Man, the tiredness of the body is far less than the tiredness of the heart.
Life is a little hard and tiring alone, at least the heart is happy, there is really no need to find a man to partner with.