People live for a lifetime, and there will always be some close people by their side.
Parents, partners, children, sometimes make us feel that the purpose of our existence is for them.
However, parents will leave one day, partners may betray, and children will fly away sooner or later.
In the end, the only one who can accompany us to the end is ourselves.
It's a pity that many people live their whole lives, busy pleasing others, busy taking care of their families, but never learn to get along with themselves, and don't understand how to keep themselves from being confused and helpless when they are alone.
The most important thing to learn in this life is how to get along with yourself, after all, this is the longest relationship.
01
If you overdraw yourself, you need to learn to take proper rest.
In real life, many people desperately overdraw their energy for work and family, and end up exhausting themselves physically and mentally.
There is an acquaintance in my circle of friends who was so busy all day after giving birth to his second child that he had no time for himself.
Just imagine, just had a second child, the housework is piled up, plus taking care of the eldest child, how can you not be tired these days?
This excessive sacrifice is often already overdrawing ourselves, and we often ignore it.
The physical examination report is getting worse and worse, the body is blessed, and the emotions are even more internal friction due to long-term exhaustion and depression, and the heart is gradually depressed, these are all warnings of overdraft.
A wise person should learn to stop, take proper care of himself, and give his body and mind a little respite.
Life is not only about desperately consuming yourself, but also about learning to "maintain" while consuming.
If your body is broken, no amount of effort will help, so try to find someone to share it with, try to lower your goals, and give yourself some time to rest so that you can walk longer.
Don't always think about sacrifice, you must know that sacrificing yourself in exchange for not necessarily happiness, but more exhaustion and helplessness.
02
Think more about yourself and don't lose yourself.
In reality, many women often give everything they have for the sake of their families and for those so-called secular concepts, and as a result, they lose their time and space, and eventually lose themselves.
The first thing to consider in the decision at each stage of life is yourself, don't ignore your own feelings and needs, so that when you look back in the future, you will not have regrets.
I know many women who, after getting married and having children, have dedicated all their time and energy to their families, only to find that they have less and less sense of existence and are becoming more and more empty inside.
In fact, satisfying one's own needs is not selfishness, but injecting oneself with the motivation to live.
Only on the premise of living well and happily can you better love others and take care of your family.
Otherwise, a long period of sacrifice and repression will only make people feel numb, miserable, and eventually lose interest and hope in life.
Learn to care for yourself so that you can find true balance and happiness in your busy life.
03
Ignoring the merits will only lead to self-deprecation.
I saw a post before, there was a girl who was very depressed about herself, saying that she had a bad education, just a second book, a salary of more than 5,000, and her appearance was also very ordinary, and she belonged to the kind of passerby who would not leave an impression when walking around the street.
In this way, I really didn't leave any benefit for myself.
After seeing it, many well-meaning netizens went to her homepage to leave a message, telling her that her dress was beautiful, she looked good when she smiled, and she felt good when she took pictures.
She didn't realize this, and she never thought she had these advantages.
In reality, many people don't love themselves at all, put themselves in various evaluation systems for a long time, feel that they are not good enough, not worthy of love, this kind of mentality for a long time, will only treat themselves harshly, it is a pity.
Most people only see their own shortcomings, ignore the parts that are praised, and always feel that they are worthless.
In fact, most people are always immersed in self-criticism, and the more they look at it, the more they feel that they are worthless, and as a result, they are getting worse and worse for themselves.
This kind of harshness to oneself not only makes people lose the joy of life, but also slowly makes people live like they don't like the most.
Instead of this, it is better to try to see more of your own strengths and truly learn to love yourself, so that life can be more colorful and warm.
Let my words come into your heart
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