Some people are just afraid of offending people, and as soon as others open their mouths, they will not refuse to come, and they will agree to any request.
Adults, at this age, you really have to learn to say no, especially when others want to "borrow" these three things from you.
If you don't know how to refuse, trouble will ensue. In the end, not only was he looked down upon, but he also had to take a lot of his own resources in vain, and he couldn't get any benefits.
What's worse is that some people have ninety-nine eighty-one twists and turns in their hearts, and you can calculate it clearly, and you have to pay a heavy price for this "favor", which is really more than worth the loss.
01
Borrowing unreasonable money.
Some people, who simply don't treat others as human beings, are arrogant when they borrow money, as if they are planning to empty your savings, and even ask you to help them borrow money.
These people don't want to think at all, don't you need to live your own life?
Borrowing money happens from time to time, and we're not so unsentimental people, but we have to be measured.
Some people borrow money too often, they can borrow eight times a month, and they have to borrow money from you for everything, and such people just use you as an ATM.
If you don't know how to refuse, it will become quite miserable later, and you have to take advantage of the hard-earned money you have saved every time.
There are also some people who have never helped you or lent you any money, but when they are in need, they are very open and ask you to borrow money, which is really inappropriate.
Therefore, before borrowing money, you have to think clearly, whether the money is worth it, and is it easy for you to make money? Did the other party embarrass you?
Those unreasonable requests for borrowing money must be resolutely refused, otherwise you will only suffer in the end.
02
Borrow your connections.
Connections are a scarce resource, which is not easy to obtain, and once you introduce them to others, you have to think twice about the consequences.
Some people ask you to ask for connections, and want you to introduce some important people to him, but does he know how to cherish your favors? Can you really get things done? It's hard to say.
In this case, it is better to be indifferent than to reject it altogether.
After all, some people ask you to help him pull the relationship as soon as they open their mouths, but you have to think clearly.
If he messes things up for his own selfishness, then you won't be able to get off the stage, and you will be discredited on the side of the network, and the result will outweigh the losses.
Introducing people is not a trivial matter, unless you know enough about each other's personalities and feel that it is a win-win situation, it is better not to help than to take it lightly.
In reality, there are always some people who try to borrow your connections to do things, but you have to stay sober and see if this person is worth helping, otherwise in the end, he will mess up, and you will become the one who carries the blame, then you will really be wronged.
03
Borrow your time.
Some people need you to spend a lot of effort to enlighten, coax her, and help her relieve her emotions, and after a long time, it will simply exhaust you enough.
Adults have very little free time, except for work and family chores, there is almost no time left, and there is very little time to relax, which should be cherished.
Interestingly, when you need to complain yourself, these people don't have that much patience to listen to you, either perfunctory or simply not give any valuable advice.
This kind of socialization, to put it bluntly, is one-way, you are giving energy over and over again, and the other party is just borrowing your kindness to vent, and nothing is given in return.
It's normal for friends and relatives to complain about each other's lives, and it's also a way to relieve emotions, but if the process is only one-sided, then you have to be careful.
These people use your kindness to vent their emotions, and in the end, you are left alone exhausted and depressed.
Your time is precious and your mental energy is limited, so don't waste it on people who will only upset you.
Learning to stay away from people who are always borrowing you to consume their time and leave your time for what really matters is the smart choice.
Let my words come into your heart
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