Text/Flying Fish
Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans.
When the children have grown up, the really smart parents will actually tell the children to find a partner, but also look at the conditions, about the other party's character, three views, way of doing things, whether it is compatible with themselves, but also look at the other party's family situation, is the wisest.
Many parents actually want to make a good marriage for their children, so that their children can be happy after marriage.
But there are also many children who don't listen to their parents, they think they are looking for the right person, but they believe in the wrong love, and only after marriage do they find out that the other party's personality is not good at all.
Looking for a partner is actually looking for happiness.
Tell your children that when looking for a partner, you should stick to these three principles, which is wisdom and a foresight for family happiness.
1. Ask about the other party's family background.
When looking for a partner, parents should tell their children to ask about the actual situation of the other party's family, what is the family situation, what people are in the family, what is the family relationship, and where is the hometown.
When you know enough about the other person's family situation, you can be mentally prepared to meet the other person's family, or after you understand the other person's situation, you can also make your own considerations and judgments.
Looking for a partner, not only look at the other person, but also look at the other party's family, love can be two people's ups and downs, but marriage is a matter of two families.
Therefore, tell your children, find a partner, look at the other party's original family, if the original family situation is good, then after getting married, you can also get along well, the other party's family situation is complicated, the relationship between the other party's parents is not good, or the relationship between the other party and the parents is not good, then it will also affect the life after marriage.
A person's personality will also be related to his or her growth environment, and looking at the other person's family background is a condition for choosing a partner.
2. Views on things and how to deal with them.
When looking for a partner, smart parents will tell their children to look at each other's behavior more when dating.
When encountering something, the other party begins to retreat, begins to shirk responsibility, begins to blame himself, and has no sense of responsibility and responsibility, then it is best to stay away from such an object.
A person's attitude towards things determines the character of the other party.
People who are not good at character are better off not to.
Looking for a partner, in addition to the basic material conditions, the more important thing is the character of the other party.
The other party has a pattern, courage, and responsibility, and is a reliable and upright person, so it is worth entrusting his life.
If a person is not motivated to work, has nothing to do at home all day long, and does not seek to be motivated, then such a partner will inevitably suffer a lot of grievances and hardships in his married life.
3. Look at the other party's moral outlook.
When looking for a partner, parents also need to tell their children to see each other's moral three views.
A person who has a good moral concept, has a positive outlook, and treats others sincerely, kindly, and kindly, then he will know how to tolerate you, respect you, understand you, and support you in life.
If a person's three views are not good, then in life, the thing about you may be to constantly deny you, think that you are wrong, compete with you everywhere, and if the other party has moral problems, it is easy to offend others outside, get along with others, and even cause trouble everywhere.
To find a partner is to find someone who is compatible with you, to live together, and to create happiness together.
Therefore, it is also necessary to make sure that the object is consistent with your three views, so that the relationship between two people can be long-lasting.
In short, in the matter of children's choice of partners, parents should appropriately remind their children that they are not in a hurry to get married, and that they should first understand each other's family and the other party's personality.
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