Friends have often complained recently:
said that his daughter is becoming more and more sensitive, always paying special attention to what others say, and sometimes even secretly crying because of some trivial things.
He also feels that his daughter is becoming less and less confident, often feels that he is inferior to others, and always looks at himself in a negative light.
After all, girls are naturally delicate, sensitive and vulnerable, and easily influenced by the outside world.
Therefore, in the process of growing up, you must give them enough of these 4 things...
First of all, it is to give enough encouragement
I don't know how many parents are really aware of this.
In fact, girls are naturally more timid than boys, and if this is not consciously cultivated, it is easy to withdraw when they grow up and lack the courage to speak up for themselves.
- This kind of thinking often hurts children!
Because the world is sinister, others will not bully you because you are kind; On the contrary, if the bad guys see your weakness, they will become even worse...
Many "unspoken events" profoundly prove this problem.
It's not that those girls are incapable of breaking the oppression of the wicked, it's that they've grown up with a habit of retreating.
It is precisely because of this that the wicked have chosen these people as targets.
Therefore, it is especially important to develop the courage of girls from an early age so that they can protect themselves.
Of course, it is necessary to teach them not only to "recognize injustice", but also to have the courage to resist.
In this way, they will not become victims of cowardice one day in the future.
02 Give yourself a chance to express yourself
In addition, while cultivating the courage of girls, it is also necessary to give them enough opportunities to express themselves.
Many parents tend to ignore this point, always thinking that girls should be obedient and well-behaved, and even feel "ignorant" when they raise objections.
However, it is precisely this kind of thinking that inhibits girls' desire to express themselves, making them easily aggrieved in the face of injustice or conflict.
Take my relative's child,
She often said, "I'm used to backing down. As long as others have different opinions, I always feel that something is wrong with me. ”
In school, she never defended herself, and even in the face of obvious misunderstandings and accusations, she only suffered silently.
This situation not only affected her self-confidence, but also caused her psychological problems, and even had to suspend her studies for treatment in the end...
It was really sad and sad that she was originally a beautiful girl, but she ended up in this situation!
03 Give the right view of money
To put it bluntly, let children understand "what money should be earned and what money should not be touched"!
At the same time, it is important for them to understand the cost of "quick money" and how to stay sane in the face of temptation.
Only in this way can they have clear judgment in the face of various temptations in the future, and will not be easily deceived by superficial interests.
Take the "naked loan incident" that caused a lot of noise a few years ago, those girls ended up falling into the trap of bad institutions because of their lack of a correct view of money.
This has not only severely affected their economic situation, but also caused great damage to their lives and reputations.
Although this is rare now, similar problems still exist, and the temptation is never far away.
For example, you can work with your child to make a savings plan and discuss financial issues.
Help them learn to allocate their funds wisely and avoid making impulsive decisions due to the temptation of the moment.
At the same time, it is important for them to realize that long-term planning and stable returns are far more reliable and important than high short-term returns.
Only in this way, when they grow up, can they effectively avoid falling into various money traps, keep their bottom line, and live a safer and more stable life.
04 Give enough mental toughness
Because girls themselves are very fragile, if they are not trained well in this area, they are easy to suffer blows and thus collapse.
Take last year's "Jiangxi Female College Student Suicide Incident" as an example, in fact, it was a conflict with her roommate, so she went to the extreme.
In fact, this is a very small matter, whether it is asking for a dormitory change or communicating with the teacher, it can better solve the problem.
As a result, "one died", which is really a pity!
However, it also reminds us that we must do a good job of frustration education.
Parents should not help their children with everything, but learn to let them face challenges head-on instead of solving problems directly.
For example, we can guide them to analyze problems and find new ways to solve them....In this way, girls develop strong resilience as they gradually gain experience.
After that, only when you grow up do you dare to face all kinds of problems!