Someone scored 59 points in the exam, and when he learned this score, the whole person was very depressed. Please remember how you feel at this time.
When I learned that 90% of the class did not pass, and the score of 59 was already considered the top 10 level. At this time, you instantly feel that you are very good, level and croaking, pride and pride overflow your chest.
Why is the same score of 59 points producing such a big difference in emotional changes before and after?
The core reason is just that you know that you are in a different position in this small collective, if everyone in your small group is very powerful, and your 59 is still at the bottom of them, then what will you be in your mood?
Slowly, we will find that some people's happiness comes from comparison, and the people around them are worse than themselves, and they will feel that they are happy. On the contrary, it will be painful.
If two people are of the same age and experience, and as a result, others are much better off than him, he will have a strong sense of frustration and unhappiness, and feel that his life is a failure.
Can this contrasting lifestyle really give people the ultimate life experience?
The sage Wang Yangming said: There is nothing outside the heart, and I am self-sufficient.
What he means is inner happiness, which has nothing to do with comparison, but more of vanity. To gain happiness from comparison is to be controlled by contrast, as if you are living in a cage of contrast.
Many people feel that although they were poor in the past, they still miss the past. Because at that time, the gap between the rich and the poor was relatively close, and the living standards of all people were about the same.
And the standard of living at that time was far lower than the current standard of living, in other words, people's living standards have been in the process of improving, and everyone is getting better day by day.
Everyone is always improving, in this case, no one will feel that they will be looked down upon by others who were poor before, on the contrary, everyone has a sense of self-made achievement.
Of course, the happiness generated by this self-comparison is actually a way to obtain happiness by relying on external objects.
With the strength of our own hearts, the way to produce happiness by reducing contrast may give us more good feelings.
