Zhou Xin, a senior psychological counselor, is a non-famous emotional reporter in the original print media, with more than 20,000 hours of character interview experience for more than 20 years, and has helped tens of thousands of men and women who are deeply mired in emotions.
【Readers' Questions】
At noon, my husband suddenly came home, and I was caught off guard.
After eating at noon, the child was still sleepy and was playing wildly in the living room.
I was lying in a daze in the ocean ball pool when someone suddenly opened the door of my house and startled me.
Before I could react, my husband came in with a large bouquet of flowers.
It feels amazing to receive flowers all of a sudden.
"Why did you come back early?"
"After the company activities in the morning, there was nothing to do, so I applied to work from home."
"Is this a flower from the company?"
"Mmmm, I thought there was a vase at home, and you also like flowers, and it looked good, so I took it back."
I happily gave the flowers to the children to smell, and then my husband took care of the children, and I went to the storage room to dig out the vase that had not been used for a long time and put up the flowers.
Since having children, many of our hobbies have been forced to give way, and sometimes we don't even wash our faces at home. But this sudden little sweetness in life, in my opinion, is happier than the original Valentine's Day flowers.
That kind of is a foreseeable fake surprise, this is the unforeseen true romance.
Like what:
Linguistic flirtation
Don't be too serious, there will always be moments in life where you can flirt with each other. Sometimes my husband is overwhelmed and says he wants to vomit, and I say, "Yo, how many months?" ”
Rub oil on each other
We have little time to be alone now, but we still rub each other's oil in the elevator, in the kitchen, in the toilet, etc., while each other passes by.
Haha, you touch me, I'll push you.
Then the child's mother-in-law flashed to her side, and we immediately made a truce! Wait for the night to come back with all kinds of wild roads to "retaliate".
Massage each other
When I am busy with work, it will definitely be uncomfortable to maintain one position all the time, so I will take out the essential oil from the bedside table and give him a private spa.
While pressing, chatting, or if you don't want to talk, you can just quietly accompany each other.
At that moment, love will really flow affectionately between two people.
I believe that this is the so-called mutual affection.
It's not that I want to show off anything, but it's my normal life, and it's just to amuse everyone by saying it.
【Zhou Xin's reply】
We often say that married life needs to be managed.
It's easy to say, but it's not easy to put it into place.
Chinese generally lack a sense of humor, and it is difficult to face everyday vulgarity with a relaxed and fun attitude. Especially in today's situation, many people are stumped by various temptations and have long forgotten their original intentions.
When people come to the world, they have to go through a lot of things, and only when they reach a certain age do they understand that what they worked so hard to want before is not something they have to have by unscrupulous means.
It's great that the good atmosphere you create for the family gets a response from your husband and that he likes the interaction.
In the trivial married life, some different colors are needed, and two people need to interact well for a long time.
Hopefully, the material you provide will give others food for thought, so that they can take a good look at themselves and figure out what they want most.