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The TV series with Teacher Zhang Guimei as the character prototype, "When the Mountains Are Blooming" finally ushered in the finale.
However, there is a clip in the play that makes Ten O'clock Jun unable to let go for a long time.
The first batch of female high school students led by teacher Zhang Guimei finally entered the sprint stage of the college entrance examination, but the results were not ideal.
With their current grades, very few girls can go to university.
On the first day of the official start of the third year of high school, Principal Zhang Guimei encouraged the girls to study hard and encouraged them to write down their target scores and the universities of their choice.
After a period of silence, Ning Hua, a girl from the mountains, plucked up her courage and stepped forward, her eyes were shining, and she wrote "400 points, Tsinghua University" on the blackboard one by one.
As one of the top universities in China, Tsinghua University is undoubtedly a dream place for many students.
It represents the excellence of China's higher education and is the ideal academic palace in the hearts of countless students.
But the number of people who can actually realize this dream is very small, and the girl thinks that she can get in with only 400 points.
How much helplessness and sadness are hidden behind this.
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Under the topic, many people shared their feelings:
"This is actually a lack of education, many children should know what they don't know, because no one tells them these common sense";
It was also said:
"It's not that she can't do anything, but the mountain girl who lacks vision doesn't even know where the starting line of the college entrance examination is."
In a word.
Mountains are both scenery and obstacles.
Born in the mountains, grown up in the mountains.
If it weren't for Huaping Women's High School, these mountain girls would never even think about going to see the outside world.
In their cognition, "Isn't the outside of the mountain still a mountain?"
It wasn't until this time that Ten O'clock suddenly understood Zhang Xuefeng's words:
"The children of the poor will reach social maturity at least 10 years later."
The truth is very poignant and helpless.
The lower the child, the later the cognition of society.
Before the age of 20, their minds are basically in a state of confusion, because their parents have too little spiritual and ideological education.
I have no ability to make money, and I don't understand the world, so I can't teach my children anything valuable.
Even some parents always can't control their emotions, and will only erupt into roars and hysterical angry screams for no reason.
They have basically been closed and isolated from the world since they were young, and this gap brings not only material, but also spiritual.
If you look closely at your surroundings, you will find that many children from the bottom background, in the first 3 years of entering society, are basically tormented.
Because since childhood, what the environment has brought them is inferiority, internal friction, and things that they can touch and learn, and most likely they are just some basic skills to make a living at the bottom.
And the psychological quality, eloquence, IQ, and emotional intelligence necessary to enter the society are all not good.
can only rely on one's own hard exploration, endure the cold eyes and ridicule of the world, and taste the hardships and hardships of the world to get a little pitiful life experience.
Best-selling author Wu Jun said a point of view:
The upward flow of life is bound to be difficult, but the door to downward flow is always open.
The process of ordinary people trying to climb is like climbing a steep mountain.
upward, struggling;
Downward, the abyss.
It is really difficult for a child from a bad background to get ahead.
Recently, I watched "Heartwarming Offer 5", trainee lawyer Huang Kai and teaching lawyer Ren Wei have different life trajectories, which once again made Ten Point Jun sigh at the unevenness of the world.
Tutor Ren Wei and Huang Kai ate at the same table and chatted about their respective childhoods.
During the dinner, Ren Wei confidently chatted about his past.
He was born in a family of Peking University, and went all the way from the kindergarten of Peking University to the primary school and middle school attached to Peking University, and then entered Peking University.
To sum it up in one sentence, it is "a dragon of Peking University".
And what about Huang Kai?
He was silent for a few seconds, and what he said next was beyond everyone's expectations.
He was born into a terrible family of origin.
When he was 1 year old, his parents divorced and remarried, and he was seen as a burden and raised by his grandparents.
So he worked hard to become a "small-town problem-solver" and became the first child in the village to be admitted to college;
However, due to the lack of relevant guidance and the growth environment of his childhood, he followed the advice of others in ignorance and applied for the rehabilitation medical major of the medical university.
But when he entered the school, he found that he didn't really like the major.
In the four years of college, he not only studied painfully, but also had to rely on loans and part-time jobs to complete his studies.
Later, he was fortunate to meet an excellent friend who suggested that he go to graduate school.
He barely found some direction, and in this way, while working to make money to support himself, he was admitted to graduate school across majors, and after five years, he almost collapsed before he was finally admitted to Tsinghua Law School as a graduate student.
He was almost 30 years old when he came to the show, and the other interns were several years younger than him.
After the show aired, there was a very sad comment on the Internet:
"Huang Kai has spent 28 years standing at the starting point of the life of a lawyer on the opposite side."
Maybe in the eyes of people in his hometown, Huang Kai is already very good, but behind the excellence, he has no support from his parents, no reliable people to guide the way, and he can't reach a broader resource and platform;
He stepped on all the pits himself, and finally got the result.
One table, two lives, also made countless people sigh.
And this is the unevenness of this world.
Some people are born and stand in front of the starting line;
Since I was a child, I have either been attending various cram schools, or I have traveled to various countries and science and technology museums to broaden my horizons, behave generously and behave appropriately;
Under the leadership of his parents, he has had a clear life plan since he was a child, understands human feelings, knows how to use resources, and walks steadily every step of the way.
Some time ago, there was another defense-breaking post on the Internet.
The children of wealthy families in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai no longer study.
With money and information channels, they don't need to be like their children, crossing a single-plank bridge and changing their fate through the college entrance examination.
And what about the children of ordinary families?
They may have had their first mobile phone when they went to college, their first train ride, their first visit to a museum;
It wasn't until after the age of 30 that I slowly read the complexity of human nature and understood the rules of society.
They have no guidance from their parents, no inclination of resources, and can only explore step by step and learn little by little.
Because of the constraints of the environment, because of the fear of poverty, so short-sighted, can only serve for three meals a day;
As a result, they ignore the improvement of their own cognition and pattern, and ignore the insight into the sophistication of social conditions.
Even, some people have to trade their health and time for money and fall into a vicious circle.
Not long ago, I saw a news on the Internet that Gao Zhanxi in "Metamorphosis" 18 years ago was engaged.
Subsequently, more news about him after participating in the show followed.
In 2011, he was admitted to Hunan Normal University with the first place in Qinghai Science and Engineering;
Then he got a place of only two national defense students and became a national defense student;
After graduation, because of his excellent grades, Gao Zhanxi became a platoon commander of the Armed Police Force;
After that, he rose to the top step by step and was promoted to deputy company commander of the armed police.
From a poor boy to a captain of the armed police, the wheat of his life has really matured.
Eighteen years ago, he experienced an unforgettable "rich man's life".
After seeing the bustle and liveliness of the big city, he returned to his wheat field.
As a result, he became even more convinced:
"Studying is the only way out, and only by being admitted to university can you get out of here."
After walking out of the mountains, he also galloped all the way, not to mention the hardships of the road for the time being.
The boy who said he was an ugly duckling finally turned into a white swan.
Keigo Higashino said:
"Everyone wants to be born into a good family, but we can't choose our parents. Whatever card is dealt to you, you can only try to play it as well as you can. ”
People can't choose their own origins, but a low starting point doesn't mean that we can only lie flat in this life.
But children who don't have an umbrella have to run harder, and they have to run all the way.
One, accept your starting point.
Don't dwell too much on the things that can't be changed, such as the family of origin.
If you can only take a breath by escaping right now, that's fine.
After all, sometimes, we need a little time to heal.
But you can't accept your fate and be a weak person who is led by the nose by fate.
Learn to look sensibly and accept reality.
You have to be brave enough to stand up and live your life to the fullest.
Second, read more books and read good books.
Don't believe in the "uselessness of reading", reading is always the fairest way in the world, and academic qualifications are also the best stepping stones in life.
Its greatest significance is never to get rich overnight, but to help you improve the lower limit of your life.
No matter how poor your background is, as long as you persist, the support policies of the state and society can ensure that a person has the opportunity to receive a university education.
It may be a long way to go down this road, but if you don't take it, you will definitely regret it.
The more books you read, the higher your education, and the wider the world you see, opportunities may soon come.
Third, continue to cultivate your abilities.
Stepping into society is like jumping into a never-ending arena.
You'll have to learn to change tires as you run, constantly adding new skills to your skill set.
Efficiency is your accelerator, and communication is your passport.
Whether you're mastering a new language or learning to solve problems with code, every new skill is your superpower.
Society this university, there is no day of graduation.
You have to consciously learn, observe, and understand how this society works, in order to gain a firm foothold on the big stage of society.
Fourth, maintain a good attitude.
Life has always been equal, but fate is never fair, some people were born in Rome, and some people worked hard all their lives to reach the starting line of others.
But no amount of injustice or prejudice can overwhelm a strong heart.
If you want to live a better life and turn over, the key is to fight for it yourself.
It doesn't matter if you go slower, but don't dwell in the shadows.
If you have a good mentality, the road will naturally be smooth.
Remember, you are not fighting alone, your inner strength is your best partner.
"When the Mountains Are Blooming" has come to an end, and every girl in the play has got a ticket to college.
They are about to start a new journey, but the next road may also be a journey where there is no longer "Zhang Guimei".
Everyone longs for salvation in the midst of adversity;
However, life is not a fairy tale, and not everyone has good luck;
Not every dream in life has the help of noble people.
Only by planting the shade of the trees can you enjoy the shade under the scorching sun.
In the face of the test of reality, we can only strive to be our own savior.
More importantly, you should remember that even if you are not as dazzling as others at the moment, do not pity yourself and give yourself a little more encouragement.
As Mr. Luo Xiang said:
"People who have a bad family of origin are already very good if they are half a beat or a few beats slower. Don't blame yourself. ”
As long as you can work hard to seize the opportunity in front of you, even if you are a few beats slower, you have already outperformed everything.
With a little more positive attitude, I believe that everything will slowly get better.
Light up [Looking], may you get out of the mountain in your heart and create your own miracle.
Author | Rationale