#秋日生活打卡季#
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Married people know that the best state of husband and wife is not that you are swiping your mobile phone, and I am doing housework, nor is it the same bed and different dreams, let alone the two of them not saying a word during meals.
In fact, if I want to say that the best state of husband and wife is that when you talk and my voice becomes higher, then I will automatically lower my voice, instead of working hard with you, because in the end I will only suffer myself.
Maybe you don't understand, why is it yourself who suffers? One is that the relationship between two people will become bad, and the other is that in the end, you may be the one who is dumb and can't say what you suffer.
Yes, if the best state of husband and wife is to tolerate each other, then this marriage must be happy, then this married life must also be happy.
It is true that the best state of husband and wife: just two words.
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Tolerate each other, husband and wife are harmonious, and everything is fine!
You may think that there is disharmony between husband and wife, it is because of money, and it is also because each other is tough.
One is machismo, and the other is a strong woman, so it's normal for husband and wife to be discordant.
However, you are washing the dishes, you are also complaining, I think about it from your point of view, too, you are busy at home all day long, and you never rest, there is no work, and there is no place to release stress, so, be more tolerant!
Or, you also stood up and gave your daughter-in-law a hand, and said distressedly: "Yes, my wife has worked hard, our family is really not able to live without you, you are a great hero of our family, and we will only look forward to you in the future."
That way, your wife will be amused by you.
And when you are not satisfied at work, you often go home and complain: "Recently, that colleague has been looking for me for things, and the boss has often scolded me recently."
And you put down the work in your hands, sat down next to your husband, and comforted: "Don't think too much, don't be too tired, it's really not good, let's change jobs, the most important thing is that we are happy, it doesn't matter if we make less money, hello, our family is good."
See, such a husband and wife tolerate each other, the husband and wife are harmonious, and everything is fine.
02
Tolerate each other, husband and wife are not tired of getting along, and the relationship is getting deeper and deeper.
Sometimes you wonder why you are so tired after getting married.
Sometimes you say a word, your partner doesn't want you for a long time, busy playing with his mobile phone, you see this scene is very depressed, very angry, and very tired.
If you think differently and think about it this way, "Maybe he didn't hear me, maybe he was too obsessed with playing games." ”
Teacher Void Ji said: "When you don't care about anything and let him change it automatically, this is often the way to achieve immediate results."
It is also said in the Analects that only if you tolerate the other party, the other party will be willing to change.
Therefore, husband and wife are too tired to get along and the relationship is not very good, in fact, sometimes they just can't learn to tolerate each other's shortcomings.
You don't like it, I don't like you, and in the end, two more people went to the Civil Affairs Bureau.
In fact, there is no most suitable two people in the world, everyone has shortcomings, no one is perfect, two people can only compromise each other, and two people can only experience running-in.
I see your shortcomings, I accommodate, I see your strengths, I appreciate you, and so do you.
Although life is a piece of chicken feathers, we are all managing and caring for each other, so husband and wife will not get tired of getting along.
Feelings are naturally good.
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Tolerate each other, husband and wife achieve each other, and be soul mates.
Why are some couples able to work out each other? That's because they learned to tolerate each other.
You are tutoring homework, then I will understand your hard work, and I will not ask you to do housework, I am drying clothes, I asked you to help, but you say you don't want to, that's okay, maybe you have your business!
When we have empathy, we can achieve each other.
From your point of view, put yourself in your shoes, there will not be so much resentment, and there will not be so much negative energy.
In fact, the best state of husband and wife is sometimes not necessarily you and me, but after we have gone through dozens of years, we all know what kind of person each other is? But we are still willing to protect each other and treat each other as the most important people in our lives.
Yes, tolerance is only the tip of the iceberg in the state of marriage, but tolerance can make couples become each other's soul mates.
Maybe you think of something else, but because everyone's married life is different, everyone's needs are different, and everyone's resonance is different.
I just hope that we can learn to tolerate each other and from this point of view, we can achieve the best state as a couple.
For the rest of their lives, warm to each other.
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