All cause and effect are nothing but interactions.
The ancients said: "Fate originates from the circle and is destined, that is, fate."
There will be many encounters in this life.
Whether it's a ride together or a longer period of time together, it's a precious fate.
We look forward to the collision with others, and we are looking forward to a relationship where we can understand each other and understand each other.
A comfortable and warm relationship is important in knowing how to share appropriately, be moderately troublesome, and change positions at the right time.
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Share appropriately
Writer Su Qin once said: "All cause and effect are just interactions." ”
The valley reverberates because of your warm shouts; Narrowing the distance between people,
It's because of the sincerity of sharing with each other.
The desire to share is the highest form of romance in the world.
Whether it is between friends, lovers, or relatives, proper sharing can make a relationship lasting and happy.
Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu are both literary masters and soul mates who have gone through a lifetime.
The two have always had the habit of exchanging letters, and no matter how big or small things in life, they will record them and share them with each other.
Even if they are separated from each other, they will never miss a little bit of each other's lives.
The trivial sharing in these ordinary years has become a preservative for the love between Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu, and it has also achieved an enviable love story.
"When there are few confidants in wine, poetry will be chanted to others."
A really good relationship is the sharing of the same frequency resonance and the tacit understanding of mutual understanding.
In this world, no one will be an island; A really good relationship requires the desire to share.
Bai Juyi said: "The joy of people is also the joy of people." ”
If you are willing to share your life with others, they will be happy to invite you into their lives.
The encounter of two lives can collide with wonderful sparks; Proper sharing will make a relationship go further and further.
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Moderately troublesome
One famous person put it this way:
"If you want a relationship to be long-lasting, you have to trouble others appropriately, which will make others feel present and needed."
Good relationships are all "troubled".
When Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou, his situation was bleak and depressed, and he was open-minded by nature, and he was inevitably sad and depressed.
The company of his friend Zhang Huaimin allowed Su Shi to find a solution in his depressed life.
When he suddenly rose up late at night, Su Shi went to Zhang Huaimin's residence and invited him to admire the moon with him and walk in the atrium.
Interestingly, later generations only thought that Su Shi was "troublesome" Zhang Huaimin.
As everyone knows, Zhang Huaimin at this time is also a degraded person, and he needs to vent and comfort like Su Shi.
It is precisely because of the mutual "trouble" between Su Shi and Zhang Huaimin that the souls of the two collided in this conversation and became lifelong friends.
There are always two hearts in the world calling to each other.
Sometimes, it is your own need to trouble others appropriately, and it may be the need of others.
Properly troublesome others, and accommodating others' troubles, will make a relationship stronger and more intimate.
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Shift at the right time
There is a sentence in "Zengguang Xianwen":
"Blame yourself with the heart of others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiveness."
In a relationship, more understanding and tolerance and empathy can make each other comfortable and closer.
There's a story:
In ancient times, there was a very loving couple, in the eyes of outsiders, they were harmonious and mingling, and lived a fairy life of male ploughing and female weaving.
What is not known is that they also have discord and quarrels.
Once, when the wife was cooking, the husband kept instructing him as usual:
"The firewood is too hot, beware of the vegetables being fried."
"Is there less oil today?"
"Put less salt!"
At last, the wife could not bear it anymore and asked her husband why he was doing this today.
The husband also said calmly:
"When I was plowing the land yesterday, you chattered on the side, not just like what I did to you today, do you know how I feel?"
Only then did the wife suddenly realize that she also realized her husband's situation at that time, and the two became more understanding and affectionate.
There is no perfect relationship in the world, and only in the continuous run-in can we fit each other.
And the key to running in a relationship is to learn to empathize.
No matter what kind of relationship, only by learning to empathize can you live a chicken feather for a long time and never get tired of it.
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Life is a long road, and only those who have given their hearts are the ones who are truly close to them.
The relationship between treating people sincerely and cherishing each other can last and last longer.
A good relationship doesn't need to be deliberately catered to, and it doesn't need you to work hard to maintain.
But a comfortable and warm relationship that never gets tired of getting along must be indispensable to sharing, trouble, and transposition with each other.