Some people say that marriage is like a marathon, and it takes two people to work hand in hand to persevere to the end. But who would have thought that in this long race, sometimes unexpected stumbling blocks will be encountered?
Recently, the Korea entertainment industry staged a "marriage defense war". Well-known actress Jang Shin-young publicly talked about her husband Kang Kyung-joon's cheating incident, which surprised many people. You know, this couple is a well-known model couple in the circle!
Zhang Shenying revealed her mental journey for the first time in the variety show "My Bear Child". She confessed: "If I say it's not difficult, it's pretending." As soon as this sentence came out, the guests present were stunned. Everyone thought she would be angry and break down, but she chose an unexpected path - approaching her husband to try to repair the marriage that was on the verge of breaking.
To be honest, I was also confused when I heard the news. In today's society, derailment seems to have become "commonplace", but Zhang Shenying's choice is eye-catching. She didn't choose to make a big fuss, nor did she directly announce the divorce, but made her own decision after thinking calmly. This kind of reason and courage is really admirable.
Zhang Shenying revealed on the show that she said some "unexpected things" to her husband. This piqued my curiosity. What kind of words can make a betrayed wife take the first step towards reconciliation? Is it deep love? Or for the sake of children? Or is it that she sees through the nature of marriage?
Interestingly, the host Shin Dongye asked her: "Was there a decisive moment when you decided to protect your family?" Zhang Shenying's answer moved the mothers and guests present. "Even now, I don't regret my choice," she said. The firmness revealed in these words made people applaud her.
In retrospect, Zhang Shenying expressed her position through social media in August. "My husband and I have talked a lot, blamed myself countless times, reflected on myself, and experienced unspeakable painful times, but I am trying to live hard to be a family again, for the sake of my children," she said. There is both pain and hope in these words, and there is a mother's sense of responsibility.
Speaking of this, I can't help but think of an old saying: "If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?" "Family harmony is the foundation of a person's foothold in society. Zhang Shenying chose to forgive her husband, perhaps not only for herself, but also for the sake of giving her children a complete home.
However, this incident has also caused a lot of controversy. Some people praised Zhang Shenying's tolerance and generosity, believing that she made sacrifices for the sake of her family; Some people also criticized her for being too weak and thought that she should divorce decisively. This reminds me of a saying: "The authorities are confused, but the bystanders are clear." "However, is there really a bystander to such a thing as marriage?
Everyone has a different understanding and expectation of marriage. Some people pursue vigorous love, and some people value the daily life of firewood, rice, oil and salt. Zhang Shenying's choice may be her understanding of marriage - a relationship that needs to be constantly managed and repaired.
Then again, forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting. Zhang Shenying's choice to forgive her husband does not mean that she has let go of all her pain. On the contrary, it can be a long and difficult process. How to rebuild trust and how to heal the wounds in the heart will take time and the joint efforts of both parties.
We often say "don't fight, don't know each other", this sentence may also have some truth in the relationship between husband and wife. After experiencing this turmoil, maybe Zhang Shenying and Jiang Jingjun will cherish each other more and understand the meaning of marriage better. Of course, the premise of all this is that Kang Kyung-joon can truly repent and become a trustworthy husband and father again.
In fact, Zhang Shenying's story reminds me of a question: in this society, do we have some kind of prejudice against the word "forgiveness"? We often equate forgiveness with weakness and persistence with stubbornness. Sometimes, however, forgiveness requires even greater courage and wisdom.
Zhang Shenying said that she did not regret her choice, and this sentence made people feel a lot. In life, we are always making various choices, and behind each choice there are our reasons and considerations. Maybe one day we will regret it, but at least for the moment, we take responsibility for our choices and go on with determination.
This event, like a mirror, reflects the complexity of modern marriage. It tells us that marriage is not a fairy tale, but a life that requires both parties to run together. When we have a problem, do we have any other options than divorce? Is it possible to face it in a more mature and rational way?
Zhang Shenying's choice undoubtedly gives us a direction to think about. She tells us with practical actions that the crisis in marriage may not be the end, but may also be a new starting point. Of course, this requires the will and courage of both sides to change.
Life is like a play, and marriage is even more so. In this drama of life without rehearsals, each of us is constantly groping, falling, and getting up again. Zhang Shenying's story may be a reminder to all of us: no matter what difficulties we encounter, we must remain rational and make choices that are responsible for ourselves.
What do you think? If it were you, what would you choose? Do you choose to forgive or leave decisively? Or, do you have any better suggestions? Talk to the people around you and see what they think. After all, the topic of marriage is always worth exploring and thinking about.