In life, each of us hopes to have a successful career and a perfect life.
So we are busy every day, working hard, hoping to stand out from the crowd and pass all the challenges.
Therefore, our daily life is like a busy spider, desperately weaving webs, desperately hunting, but the web we weave is a network of relationships, and the prey we hunt is the people who help us, because relationships mean wealth, and friends mean opportunities.
However, we have to admit that some people can have a lot of friends, and some people don't have a true friend, in fact, these people who have no friends, in addition to not paying sincerely, the more important point is that they can't speak, and they don't know how to speak in front of outsiders.
So I want to tell you: if you say too much, you will lose, and I hope you can keep in mind the four sentences that you can't say as a person.
01
Don't speak straight in front of people
In life, there are always some people who like to be outspoken and feel that it is a sign of sincerity. But you know what? Sometimes, speaking too bluntly is like a sharp knife, which is easy to hurt.
Especially in front of people, if you are always outspoken, it is easy for people to not get off the stage and even offend people. I have a friend who is like this, he has a very straight personality, he usually says something, and never beats around the bush.
Once, the company held an annual meeting, and everyone had a good time. As a result, a colleague was a little clumsy when playing the game, which left their group behind, and he opened his mouth to say: Why are you so stupid! , which made the atmosphere of the audience particularly embarrassing.
Since then, that colleague has been estranged from him and is no longer willing to confide in him.
In fact, speaking tactfully is not hypocrisy, but respect for others. After all, everyone has their own self-esteem, and no one wants to be criticized in public. Therefore, not speaking straight in front of people is a kind of wisdom and a kind of cultivation.
Life is like a mirror, if you smile at it, it will smile at you; You cry to it, and it cries to you. In the same way, the attitude you have towards others will also determine their attitude towards you.
Therefore, learning to speak tactfully will not only avoid unnecessary conflicts, but also make your interpersonal relationships more harmonious.
02
People don't gossip
Gossiping behind people's backs is something that many people like to do. But you know what? This kind of behavior is not only unethical, but it can also easily get you caught up in right and wrong.
After all, no one can guarantee that your words will not be passed out, and once they do, it is easy to cause unnecessary misunderstandings and disputes.
I have a relative who likes to gossip behind people's backs. Once, she was chatting with a neighbor and inadvertently said bad things about another neighbor. As a result, it didn't take long for the word to reach the neighbor's ears, and the two had a big quarrel, and the relationship was completely stiffened.
In fact, gossiping behind people's backs not only hurts others, but also lowers one's own character. After all, a person who likes to chew the root of his tongue will not be respected by others. Therefore, not gossiping after people is a kind of virtue and a kind of wisdom.
Life is like a play, and everyone has their own role and script. Instead of gossiping behind people's backs, it is better to spend more time paying attention to your life and improving your quality. In this way, you will be the center of attention and not the object of discussion.
03
It's hard not to complain
Who doesn't have a problem in life? But you know what? When you're in trouble, it's easy to turn off people if you keep complaining. After all, no one wants to be around someone who complains all day.
I have a colleague who is very pessimistic and complains when he encounters some difficulties. Once, there was a project in the company that was particularly difficult to do, and he complained in the office every day, saying that the project could not be done at all, the leaders did not pay attention to it, and his colleagues did not cooperate.
As a result, his complaints not only did not solve the problem, but also affected the morale of the entire team.
In fact, when encountering difficulties, instead of complaining, it is better to actively look for ways to solve problems. After all, complaining doesn't change the status quo, it only makes you more negative. Therefore, no matter how difficult it is not to complain, it is a kind of courage and a kind of wisdom.
Life is like a marathon, sometimes you will encounter uphill and sometimes you will encounter downhill. But no matter what difficulties you encounter, you must maintain a positive attitude and move forward. In this way, you will be able to overcome difficulties and move towards success.
04
Rich don't talk crazy
As the saying goes, "Money makes the devil grind." "But you know what? Even if you have money, you can't talk crazy. Because crazy words are not only easy to offend people, but also easy to get you into trouble. After all, there is no guarantee that your wealth will last forever.
I have a friend who has a lot of money, but he loves to talk crazy. Once, he flaunted his wealth and status at a party and said a lot of things that looked down on others, which caused a lot of dissatisfaction among people. Since then, his reputation in the circle of friends has been getting worse and worse.
Actually, having money is not a bad thing, but if you always flaunt your wealth and status, it is easy to turn people off.
After all, wealth and status are only a part of your life, not the whole story. Therefore, having money and not talking crazy is a kind of humility and wisdom.
Life is like a journey, sometimes you will have peaks and sometimes you will encounter valleys. But no matter what your situation is, be humble and respectful of others. In this way, you will be able to earn the respect and friendship of others.
05
Whether you want to or not, we always have to live in this society, we will have family, we will have friends, there will be lovers, but no matter what kind of relationship, you need to manage it seriously, and you need to maintain it carefully.
Family members can give you more understanding, friends can give you more recognition, and lovers can give you more support, but if you are always open-mouthed and don't pay attention to other people's feelings, then no matter how good the relationship is, it will be buried in your own hands.