Women are born with a love of fantasy, fantasizing that their love can be as romantic as a youth novel, and fantasizing that their lover will never leave her.
If the woman in the marriage is still immersed in this fantasy, in order to ask the man to stay with you for a long time, then you will have a miserable life.
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This is because marriage means something completely different for men and women. It can be said that a man in a marriage will crush your fantasies in minutes.
Because, a man needs marriage because he has needs in the lower half of his body, and a woman needs marriage because she has fantasies in the upper body. Therefore, we will find that as soon as a man marries a wife, he is promoted and becomes rich, while as soon as a woman marries her husband, she becomes a housewife and her life begins to decline.
This is why many women are reluctant to get married now. However, I think that for women, not getting married is really a huge loss. Because they didn't figure out what marriage was.
In fact, marriage is an economic community, and in many cases, the husband and wife work together, one inside and one outside, and the two people may benefit more.
Just like a client in Beijing in front of me, she used to be a flight attendant, since she got married, she has been a housewife at home, gave birth to three children, ten years of marriage, and of course she finally divorced.
When she found me at that time, she said Mr. Zhu, I ended my ten-year marriage now, and then I got 20 million, which I think is too little. I asked, how many husbands do you have? She said that my husband has assets of about 1000000000000000, but has 4000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 I said, "I'll help you get the money." In the end, the assets she got changed from 20 million to 100 million, and she got custody of the child.
So, purely from an economic point of view, is it cost-effective for this flight attendant to get married? It's definitely a bargain.
In that marriage, the thing that women are most afraid of is actually the fantasy of the upper body, fantasy love, fantasy romance, fantasy passion, hoping that the man will always hold his little hand, and then watch the sunrise and sunset together. This is the fantasy of women all the time.
There is an even more terrifying fantasy that men will be loyal for the rest of their lives. However, we have to return to reality, which is cruel and will encounter all kinds of problems and eventually separate.
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For example, Li Guoqing and Yu Yu, they came together because of love, then got married, and started a business together, but they divorced, mainly because the concept of running the company did not agree, and people did not betray, nor did they cheat, the company's philosophy did not agree, and finally divorced, so do you say that their divorce is not cost-effective? It's also a good deal.
For Lao Li, it is cost-effective to divide so much family property. For Yu Yu, it would be more cost-effective to divide so many properties and companies. There is no problem with the combination of daily life and work.
Then you think that he will never change his mind, this is an illusion, this is a lack of understanding of men.
It is precisely because a man will change his mind that a woman marrying him must take necessary precautions. Just like when we start a company, starting a company is risky, and it is possible to go bankrupt and die, and you may lose all your previous wealth. But we have a dream, a team, a risk management, a system, and we manage it every day. If something really goes wrong, we have the ability to solve it, and that's the necessary precaution.
With such a metaphor, you will feel that it is too annoying to marry a man, and I can't rely on a man, so I might as well rely on myself. But have you ever thought that this society is more cruel to women, it is really not easy for women to earn some money, men earn money in exchange for their lives, women earn more money than men, and they may not get the corresponding return.
Then your husband took his life to change, and in the end he was gag early. Aren't you a little rich woman? Isn't it good? There is not a popular saying on the Internet: I have money and leisure, but I don't have a husband yet. One of the happiest things for middle-aged women is that her husband has made a fortune and been promoted, and now that he is middle-aged, he has left a huge inheritance to you, isn't it fragrant? See for yourself, how many billionaires have fallen, isn't it just too stressful.
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A woman's fantasy always wants to grow old, and for the rest of her life, halfway couples can also be.
In fact, what are women most afraid of? It's a middle-aged person, you marry the wrong person, and the fault is that this man never loves you very much, and he never gives you some money to earn. Then you can at least divide it when you get divorced. What's even more afraid is that he not only doesn't love you, but also gives you a debt when he divorces.
What does this mean? It shows that we have made a major mistake in the process of managing marriage, we have always maintained a dynamic balance with a man, and we have always had to evaluate him dynamically, and in this dynamic evaluation process, if we find that this man is not the man you want, we have to stop the loss in time and cut it off.
If a woman wants to see this layer clearly, then it is easy to do, and you can manage the lower half of the man's body.
Of course, a man's lower body is difficult to manage, he has the root nature of a man's animal here, so a man is nothing at every turn, when he first got married, and there was disharmony with you, he went out to find a lover; When you were pregnant, he panicked and went outside to get a PC; When his career was going up, he asked women to support him, he engaged with the employees below, and when he was promoted and made a fortune, he went to the nightclub K T V. He stared at the woman outside, so this man's inferior nature lies in the problem with his male root.
There is no way, all men have the problem of male roots, so it depends on whether the wife has the means to manage it, whether she can find it in time, and whether she can activate the war system in time.
Therefore, you see, a happy marriage is by no means something you can just think about, you need to rely on the right time and place, and it needs to be managed and managed. Reality is cruel and leaves no room for illusion.