Text: Ying's mother
Mo Yan's masterpiece "Frog": A woman's status is born from giving birth to a child, a woman's dignity is also born from giving birth to a child, a woman's happiness and glory are also born from giving birth to a child, a woman not having children is the greatest pain, and a woman not having children is not a complete woman.
Such a passage is a wise saying in the minds of many men, and even many women use such a passage to ask women.
Two days ago, 37-year-old Xiao Jingteng married his girlfriend who has been in love for many years and is also his agent Lin Youhui, and this marriage has been blessed by many friends.
But he was also ridiculed by some netizens, because Lin Youhui is 14 years older than Xiao Jingteng, and he is 51 years old this year, for women, 51 years old has basically entered menopause, and some women may have menopause, so netizens ridiculed: This is too scary! It's all menopausal!
Netizens still think that the main significance of women is to have children. Indeed, from the traditional point of view, marriage is to start a family, marriage is to have children, especially from the ancient genes, a man wants to pass on his genes, when he is looking for a woman, he will subconsciously look for some women who can give birth to better offspring.
Therefore, we will find that when most men are looking for a wife, one of the key elements is to be young, because young means that they are more fertile.
Most women will find that they have a lot of choice to marry before the age of 30, but after the age of 30, the choice space gradually becomes smaller, because many men require women to be within the age of 30, which is actually because women's reproductive age is relatively short, and women's fertility is lost relatively quickly.
For example, if a woman wants to get pregnant before the age of 35, she may be ready to conceive in three months, but after the age of 35, she may not be able to conceive for a year.
After the age of 40, natural conception is even more difficult, and many women reach the age of 50, menstruation begins to be disordered, in fact, it is into menopause, at this time the quality of eggs is greatly reduced, basically fertility has dropped to the freezing point.
From the interview between Lin Youhui and Xiao Jingteng, we know that they have been together for nearly 20 years, and they have been in love for more than ten years, and the two will be photographed together by reporters from time to time.
That is, the two people are really in love, Xiao Jingteng is eager to give Lin Youhui a home, and desperately wants to disclose the relationship between the two people, but Lin Youhui takes into account that Xiao Zhengcheng is a public figure, and always feels that he is so much older than Xiao Jingteng, and the two of them may not be able to grow old together, so they keep delaying it.
In the end, Xiao Jingteng proposed directly to Lin Youhui in front of many friends, he wanted to fulfill his promise, don't let Lin Youhui be alone at the age of 50, and the two will get married a year later after the announcement.
And Xiao Jingteng and Lin Youhui have been together for more than ten years because their relationship is relatively stable, and the two have discussed the topic of having children countless times.
Xiao Jingteng also knows that the reproductive age of women decreases with age, and he also knows that the older he gets, the more pain he will endure when giving birth to a child, so he has always told Lin Youhui that he doesn't want to have children, because he doesn't want Lin Youhui to bear the pain of having children, and he hopes to adopt a child in the future.
So Xiao Jingteng really loves Lin Youhui and thinks about things from her point of view, and Lin Youhui really loves Xiao Jingteng, because when the two of them were together, Lin Youhui was only in his 30s, and Xiao Jingteng's career in his 20s had just started, if the two got married and had children, it would definitely affect Xiao Jingteng's career, and Lin Youhui was also worried that Xiao Jingteng was just a momentary passion at this time.
When Xiao Jingteng was in his 30s, the two were in love, it was the period when Xiao Jingteng's career rose very rapidly, Lin Youhui was also worried that it would affect Xiao Jingteng's career, so he never made it public, let alone married, nor did he have children, as she grew older, all because she loved Xiao Jingteng, she didn't want to stop Xiao Jingteng's progress, but hoped to put wings on Xiao Jingteng to let him fly.
The love between the two of them may not be the same as the world, regardless of age, regardless of whether they can have children.
In fact, Lin Youhui is an agent with very strong work ability, even if she doesn't get married and don't have children, she can live a good life.
Li Yinhe is over 70 years old, looking back on her life, she has no regrets about Dink, nor does she regret not having children.
Li Ruotong, the most classic little dragon girl in "The Legend of the Condor Heroes", is also in her 50s this year, but the aunt of the tomb sect still looks very young and beautiful, she is not married and has no children.
Some women should not be defined by secular childbearing, their uterus use is firmly held in their hands, they can have children if they want to, and it is okay if the uterus is idle if they don't want to give birth.
Maybe it's because of such women that men have to work harder, because only men are strong enough to match better women, don't you think?
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