Love is like a mobile phone plan, everyone wants "unlimited data", and preferably "free calls". But the reality is often that the pay is not proportional to the return, some people fall in love, and they can't wait to use all the "traffic" on themselves, and the other party can only silently endure "weak signal and slow network speed". Today we are going to talk about those zodiac sign women who are "unscrupulous" in love and eager to squeeze the other half dry.
First up is our Lion Queen. They are born with a kingly aura, and they are the focus of the crowd wherever they go. In love, they are also used to being spoiled as princesses and enjoying the treatment of the stars holding the moon. Don't get me wrong, they are not the kind of little girls who only enjoy, they will also give, but their giving is more like a "gift", with a sense of superiority of "you see how good I am to you".
They will buy expensive gifts for their significant other, but only if the other person meets their needs first. They spend time with their significant other, but activities must be arranged according to their preferences. All in all, falling in love with a Leo Girl is like playing a "kryptonite game", you have to keep investing money and energy to keep the relationship running.
For example, I have a friend Nana, who is a typical Leo girl. When she is in love with her boyfriend Xiao Li, she always asks Xiao Li to be on call. Once, Nana suddenly wanted to eat skewers at three o'clock in the middle of the night, so without saying a word, she called Xiao Li and asked him to get up and buy it immediately. Xiao Li said sleepily: "Honey, it's so late, I'll buy it for you tomorrow, okay?" "
As a result, Nana directly blew up: "What? Can't you even do this little thing? Am I not good enough for you? Xiao Li had no choice but to get up and buy skewers. When he bought it and brought it to Nana, he found that Nana was already asleep. The next morning, Nana also complained to Xiao Li: "Why are you so inconsiderate, let me eat skewers in the middle of the night, and you are not afraid that I will gain weight." "Hearing this, I feel tired for Xiao Li.
Next up is our little Libra fairy. They are elegant and charming, pursue fairness, and are recognized as good people in the circle of friends. But it is such a seemingly harmless zodiac sign, but it has an amazing "talent for taking" in love. They won't blatantly ask for it like the Leo Woman, but will use a subtle and silent way to make you willingly give everything for them.
They will often complain to you about the pressure of work and the troubles of life, so that you can't help but want to comfort them and take care of them. From time to time, they will mention what they want, but then say, "Forget it, it's too expensive, don't buy it", and you can't help but want to fulfill their little wishes. Over time, you will find that you are already trapped in it, and you can't extricate yourself.
I have a colleague, Xiao Zhang, who is a Libra girl. Her boyfriend, Xiao Chen, is simply a "Libra harvester". Xiao Zhang would always say to Xiao Chen: "My dear, I've been so tired from work lately, and I feel so stressed." When Xiao Chen heard this, he would take the initiative to take on housework and cook for Xiao Zhang.
Xiao Zhang will also say from time to time: "I saw a bag, I like it so much, but it's too expensive, forget it." Then the next day, Xiao Chen would silently buy the bag back. Xiao Zhang would be pleasantly surprised every time he received a gift: "Oh my God, how do you know I want this?" You're so sweet! Actually, this is intimate, it is clearly a "routine".
The final finale is the Pisces dreamy little princess. They are gentle, kind, empathetic, and natural masters of love. What they are best at is to stimulate each other's desire to protect, so that you can't help but want to hold them in the palm of your hand and love them. They will often be coquettish with you, saying things like "what would I do without you" to make you feel like you are their only support.
They will often cause small problems that will make you have to drop what you are doing to help them and make you feel like you are indispensable to them. Falling in love with a Pisces woman is like falling into a gentle trap, you know that they are "tricking" you, but you still willingly jump into it.
I have a college classmate, Xiaomei, who is a Pisces. Her boyfriend, Xiao Gang, is simply a "Pisces nanny". Xiaomei will always "go wrong" at critical moments. For example, she is about to meet an important deadline and the computer suddenly breaks; She was going to an important interview, and suddenly she couldn't find her clothes.
Every time, Xiaogang has to put down the work at hand to help her solve the problem. Xiaomei will be moved every time and say: "I really don't know what to do without you, you are my hero." It sounds sweet, but over time, Xiao Gang has become a 24-hour standby "firefighter".
So, how do we respond to these "taking" behaviors?
First of all, learn to communicate. Many times, the other person may not realize that their actions are burdening you. Instead of suffering in silence, be honest about your feelings. For example, you can say to your Leo girlfriend, "Honey, I love you and am willing to do anything for you." But it's a bit difficult to buy skewers at 3 o'clock in the middle of the night, can we negotiate a more suitable time? "
Second, learn to set boundaries. Love is not a bottomless giving, but a process of mutual respect and mutual achievement. If you feel that the other person's request is beyond your ability, don't push yourself. For example, to your Libra girlfriend, you can say, "Baby, I know you like this bag, but I can't afford it right now." Why don't we save money together and buy it when we can, okay? "
Again, learn to reflect on yourself. Sometimes, we unconsciously portray the other person as a "taker" and ignore that we are also taking. For example, you may feel that your Pisces girlfriend is always causing trouble for you to solve, but have you ever thought that maybe she just wants more attention and company from you?
Finally, it is also necessary to understand that love is a matter of two people. If you feel like you've been giving and the other person is taking, then the relationship may need to be revisited. A truly healthy relationship should be one in which both parties are trying to think about each other and are paying for the relationship.
Write on the back
Love is a course that requires constant learning. Each of us groping our way through this course will inevitably make mistakes. It is important that we keep an open mind, be willing to admit our own shortcomings, and be willing to give the other person a chance to correct them. Only in this way can we continue to grow in love and finally find our own happiness.
True love is not to take, but to give; not possession, but fulfillment; Not control, but freedom. No matter which zodiac sign you are, as long as you understand this truth, you are already on the right path on the path of love.