The talk show actor is shocking, but he is not just a domineering name.
In her paragraphs, she is a strong and spicy "deity": her husband was caught up by herself in the first month of college; The talk show was chosen by herself after giving up her stable job; In the first open mic, she began to complain about her husband......
Later, she appeared on "Talk Show Conference", and her jokes about her husband caused controversy. Some people think that she spoke up for married women who have children, and told the trivial matters and pain points in the marriage that are "not enough for outsiders"; Some people think she is too strong, and some people can't get used to her typhoon, with a loud voice and fast speech, "Actresses, you should be cute and gentle"......
These comments used to give way to Jingyun was very entangled, she asked the show screenwriters Liang Haiyuan and Cheng Lu, is it too much to complain about her husband so much? I have consulted with "comrade-in-arms" Bird, what content can I talk about to make the audience like it? She also discussed with her mother and daughter, "They all said that I felt fierce on stage, how can I change it?" As a result, an old man and a young man looked at her in unison, "You, where is the fierce?" ”
"Hahaha...... I don't think it's necessary, just be yourself. ”
In the ongoing broadcast of "Talk Show and Ta's Friends", she condensed her troubles and changes into one sentence and wrote it into her elimination speech: "Some people feel that I am not likable on stage, and they hope that I will change it, saying that actresses should be a little more restrained and cute on stage, I hope they don't say it anymore, I will never change." I think the market will accept spicy and strong women. ”
The most extroverted girl catches up with the most introverted boy
The name Bu Jingyun is the screen name she gave herself when she registered it in the QQ era. The name comes from her childhood "male god", the protagonist of the TV series "Fengyun" based on the Hong Kong martial arts comic of the same name. In her impression, the steps are handsome, cool, domineering, able to fight, and single-minded. Since then, she has never changed her screen name, QQ is called "Bu Jingyun", and WeChat is also called "Bu Jingyun".
This screen name made her pay a little "price". At that time, the QQ names of the female classmates in the class were very dreamy, like "Crystal Love" and "Purple Grape". She asked her classmates: "Why are so many little boys adding you QQ, why no one has added me?" The classmate said, "Your name is this, who dares to add you?" ”
This price is not a big deal, after all, she caught up with her current husband in her first month of college. In the talk show actress's chat podcast "Little Fool", she talked about this experience, the two were college classmates, she fell in love with her husband at first sight, and liked him to be handsome and gentle. After using all his connections to find out that the other party didn't have a girlfriend yet, Bu Jingyun decided to "strike first". The process is just like what she said in the paragraph, on a dark and windy night, she blocked her husband who was studying on his own next night into the corner and confessed directly.
However, the two came together later, and her husband confessed that the effect of the confession that day was not good. Because it was too dark, I didn't know who the girl was. Fortunately, Bu Jingyun chose to strike while the iron was hot, and asked the other party out again the next day and confessed again.
As a result, I went to college in September, and the two of us were together before September. Bu Jingyun described this relationship as the most extroverted girl in the department chasing the most introverted boy in the department. The counselor said, "The difference between your two personalities is too big, don't bully others." ”
complained about her husband, the start of the stage
Soon after graduating from college, the two got married. If it's a fairy tale, this is the end, but life is always unfinished. Even her own husband has a bunch of trivial matters and disputes.
She put it all into her paragraphs. In 2020, a local comedy label in Xi'an released a recruitment plan. Bu Jingyun handed in a transcript of complaining about her husband. She didn't have much hope, but she soon received an invitation from a local club to talk about an open mic.
Before going on stage that day, she was just angry with her husband and cried. The two went out on the street together, and the husband suddenly said, "I'll give you a rose." Bu Jingyun, who knew that her husband was thrifty and slammed the door, was shocked by this, and then she was pulled by her husband to the end of a long line. It turns out that the shopping mall is engaged in activities, and you can get a rose by scanning the code to pay attention.
On the stage, Bu Jingyun put this present into the paragraph, and when it came to passion, she suddenly pointed to her husband in the audience, "Look at the you did"! The audience turned to look at her husband. My husband is not annoyed, he is still smiling.
After the performance, she was recognized by other talk show actors - "Sister, you are too suitable for this".
Is it fair for female players to play against female players?
Four months later, she appeared on "Talk Show Conference 4", which was also about her husband's slamming of the door: she always told herself to take away a disposable toothbrush when she stayed in a hotel, and she also liked to wear autumn clothes underneath, "I was dressed like a white rose in Shanghai at night, and my husband sat next to me in a tight red autumn coat with a round neckline." She went on to say that the autumn coat that her husband had worn for more than a decade had been washed from a round neck to a deep V-neck, "and I sometimes think it's quite sexy." ”
Before the game, she was predicted to be the biggest dark horse of the game, but because she only got the lights of three laugh leaders during the game, she had to accept a one-on-one duel to advance. The object that Bu Jingyun chose to fight against was Zhang Jun. The reason she gave was, "I like handsome guys." As a result, she lost and was eliminated.
As soon as he returned to the hotel, he began to cry. What made her uncomfortable was not that she was eliminated, but that a belief was broken. At that time, when it was time to fight, many spectators and players at the scene were shouting, "Step on Ling Step on Ling (Zhang Step on Ling, another married female player)!" Everyone hopes that two female talk show actors will face off, which makes Bu Jingyun very uncomfortable, "Why are there not too many twenty or thirty male actors of the same type?" Why do people think that only one of the two female competitors on the same track can survive? Why do people default to the fact that female players can only find female players to be fair, and female players will definitely lose if they find male players to face off? ”
Recognize yourself and be yourself
During that time, Bu Jingyun's joke also encountered some controversy. Some people think that she is complaining about her husband, which is too much; Some people think that she is not independent enough and that she is a traditional woman......
After the game, Bu Jingyun rebelled. She decided to "abandon her husband and daughter" and become an "independent woman". During that time, she rented a room in Shanghai to talk about talk shows full-time, but when she was watching videos with her husband and daughter at night, she cried every day and was homesick. In those 8 months, Bu Jingyun felt that he had not made any progress, and the only thing he could see clearly was that he was a person who could not leave his home, "I used to feel that saying that I loved my family was very inconsistent with the modern definition of an independent woman." But I just love my husband, children, and mother, and I also like the feeling of a family of more than a dozen people living together. I figured it out, there's really no need to listen to some voices on the Internet and force yourself to become that kind of free, lonely person. Recognizing myself and living in my most comfortable state without screwing is my goal.
"Actress go up and shine"
Bu Jingyun decided to go back to Xi'an and make his own talk show label - he likes talk shows. This is also based on her observation of the talk show market, "80% of the talk show audience in the country is actually women, but 80% of the market is occupied by male actors, why can't we give female talk show actors a little more chance." ”
Will the female manager have any different impact on the talk show label? Bu Jingyun observed, "The female manager will do a theme performance for all-female talk show actors. In other talk shows, everyone defaults to either an all-male lineup or only one actress. Of course, it is not excluded that in addition to Beijing and Shanghai, it is difficult for you to get together two female talk show actors in the same performance, and there are too few girls in talk shows. ”
There is a line of slogans hanging at the entrance of the "Like talk shows" club, "Actresses go up and shine", and the achievement of this goal requires the cooperation of the manager, actors, and audiences. Bu Jingyun remembered the scene of the first talk show female-themed performance in Xi'an that he planned - "Girls Without Limits". What surprised her was that although it was an actress show that day, 1/3 of the audience were boys, and some people were in wheelchairs and crutches, "I think the audience really needs to be cultivated, as long as you plan and manage it carefully, you can cultivate a group of audiences who really want to listen to actresses tell jokes." ”
What makes her even happier is that the women's special session also attracted groups of people who had never come to talk shows before. "In the past, very few women who had families came to talk shows, and my own classmates, they would say, 'I really want to go to your show, but I have to stay home with the kids.'" After the women's session was opened, some mothers brought their children to watch, and some daughters brought their mothers to watch. When I saw those aunts smiling and wiping their tears on the side stage, several of our actresses were very moved, in the environment of the era in which they grew up, it was impossible to complain about their husbands and fathers like that, right? We felt like we had a voice for them. ”
Take care of teammates, "like a sister like a mother"
In this year's "Talk Show and Ta's Friends" program, she took Shanhe and Zhao Yue to participate in the competition. In the words of Shanhe, "Sister Bu's care is all-round, like a sister like a mother"
Before the game, she reminded them, "After the two of you are on the show, you must first calm your mentality, we are now 'artists', we are not offline actors, you are cold offline acting, and the acting is bad, just those 100 people know that you are not acting badly, but if you are on the show, whether you act well or not, you will hear thousands of voices questioning you, you have to be mentally prepared." ”
She helped Shanhe and Zhao Yue adjust their jokes. In the past, Shanhe often ridiculed himself for being fat in jokes, saying that he had body anxiety, and he asked, "Shanhe, are you really anxious?" Or do people around you say that you are fat, and you also think that it is wrong to be fat? ”
At that time, Shanhe was holding a large cup of milk tea in her hand, she thought about it and replied: "Sister Bu, I'm actually not anxious." ”
"If you are not anxious, you can write according to whether you are anxious, and there is no need to ridicule yourself according to the audience's preferences."
In addition to the competition, her reminders are anytime and anywhere, "Don't eat indiscriminately, what should I do if I have diarrhea during the race", "Don't drink cold drinks, what should I do if my voice is hoarse", "Don't always look at your mobile phone when you take a taxi, you have to look at the driver's status, they will be sleepy late at night" "Let's move, don't be afraid of spending money, I'll open a single room for the two of you, and sleep peacefully at night"
The two of them replied weakly: "Sister, I'm afraid of ...... black"
There are too many reminders, and Bu Jingyun will also feel that he is verbose, and the "mother's taste" is very heavy, but he is not at ease if he doesn't say that he is, "I have no experience of success, but I have enough experience of failure." If I step on a pit and you two step on it again, then the scolding I received in the first two years of competition will be in vain! ”
In Bu Jingyun's eyes, Shanhe and Zhao Yue are two "little friends", sincere, but they are both afraid of life. "Shanhe used to collapse when he received a bad review on Xiaohongshu, and when Zhao Yue talked about talk shows offline, he didn't dare to answer the audience." But both of them are very passionate about talk shows. Shanhe said that when she was studying in Korea, returning to China to talk about talk shows was the driving force that supported her to continue studying. Zhao Yue changed his fate through a talk show. Zhao Yue said in the joke that the first time he took the high-speed train was because of the talk show, which was the first time he went out of Shaanxi Province to perform in other places, and the other party's boss bought him a ticket. On the high-speed train, he was reluctant to sleep the whole time, and kept taking pictures of the scenery outside the window with his mobile phone. The first time I took the high-speed train, I realized that the tunnels were all black, but they were not the same black. When he got off the high-speed train, Zhao Yue's mobile phone was out of battery, and he kept sighing, "The talk show is so good." How can there be such a good job in the world? ”
"Talk show is such a magical job, it allows ordinary people like Shanhe and Zhao Yue to go on the stage to talk about their lives and change their destiny." Bu Jingyun said.
The troubles of a married woman's life are also worth talking about
This year is also the third time that Bu Jingyun has stepped onto the talk show arena. With two years of offline experience, her material content is more diverse. She said that she watched divorce variety shows and couldn't empathize with the distress of the rich, "Emotional problems in marriage are trivial matters, and more labor distribution issues"; She envied the relaxation of the eldest brother next door in the genderless toilet, obviously separated by a board, but the eldest brother's toilet process was as she saw with her own eyes; She complained about some mothers' parenting concepts, "Obviously your children are bullying other children, and you still run to tell others, 'My brother is not bullying you, he actually likes you, but he doesn't know how to express it'"; She also felt worthless for her mother, complaining that her father "can't provide any emotional value, but also enjoys the value of my mother's labor", such parental love "My mother's breath is natural gas, and my father is a walking lighter"......
The four paragraphs, although they have created the best record in history for Bu Jingyun, in fact, every time she fights, her votes are not high, and they all belong to "passing the test". In fact, she already knew the reason, "Before the competition, the choreographer suggested that I should not talk about children's topics, and the audience may not like it very much." ”
Most of the audience are young people in their 20s, and they don't know what they like to hear, but she feels that the life troubles of married women with children are also worth talking about. "Most of the troubles in a married woman's life come from the family, and this kind of trouble has been ignored before, and everyone thinks that the affairs of the mother-in-law and mother are not a thing, and they are the responsibility of women. But why on the talk show stage, men talk about the difficulty of taking a taxi and fitness can resonate, and women talk about husbands, family, and children have become a very niche and non-mainstream topic, I don't understand. "When Bu Jingyun talked about the child, he came to the stage with an elimination speech in his pocket." I thought that even if I was eliminated, I would have to talk about children. ”
The spotlight on women's issues is just getting started
Compared with previous years, the number of female talk show actors this year has increased significantly. More and more women are picking up the microphone and talking about menstruation, marriage urging, husbandry, patriarchy, gender stereotypes, female inheritance, etc., which have always been considered "niche", but in fact they account for about 1/2 of the population.
Bu Jingyun feels that this aspect proves that actresses are indeed capable, as long as there is a stage, they can shine. On the other hand, the focus on women's issues is just the beginning. The mature talk show market should also include a broader world seen from a woman's perspective.
"Men and women see the world differently. Once, my husband and I rode home on an electric car, and we saw a big brother on the road, he rode the shared bicycle saddle was gone, and the eldest brother was there to ride, riding two stops, and my husband took out his mobile phone while looking at it and took a picture of his back, 'This big brother is too skilled'. I watched as tears came down my face. What I think is, he still rides so hard without a saddle, which is so sad, whose father is he and whose son...... You see, men and women see the world differently, don't they? ”
Text/Beijing Youth Daily reporter Zu Weiwei
Editor/Qiao Ying