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Marriage is actually a major life event for everyone.
Every parent should remain a little rational and sober when facing the major events of their children's marriage, not to beat mandarin ducks, and not to be too casual.
In fact, every parent hopes that their children can meet a good marriage, have a happy family, and not have to worry so much about themselves, but also be able to enjoy happiness and family happiness.
When a child gets married, it means that he has a family, and the relationship between the family and the family is based on the marriage of the child. Because of the children, the in-laws and families can't avoid getting along, so there are some contacts.
Therefore, when getting along with the family, it is necessary to pay attention to proportion, you must know that some words cannot be said if they are rotten in the stomach, and there is no benefit to the marriage of the children.
Therefore, get along with the family, don't say these 3 sentences in the stomach, don't hurt the harmony of the two families!
1. Don't say things that expose people's scars, which is disrespectful to the other party.
Get along with your in-laws, and in the communication, you should also pay attention to what you can say and what you can't say, and it is important to know how to respect your in-laws and speak well.
The in-laws can't talk well, and they start to target each other when they don't agree, and they begin to expose their shortcomings, and the tone of their words is very heavy, which will hurt people's hearts, then the in-laws will become more and more noisy, and they can't adjust the contradictions, and it is easy to lose harmony between the two families.
The words of a wise man, Lucky Star Chinese Restaurant the breeze blowing on the face, warm but not hurting, this is the charm of speaking well.
Get along with your family, no matter what happens, you must communicate well, try to talk as much as possible, don't expose the shortcomings, don't sprinkle salt on the other party's scars, and don't hurt people's self-esteem, so that you can have a pattern and be decent between your in-laws.
If the in-laws get along, you always look at me unpleasantly, I see you unpleasant, they are more serious with each other, they are embarrassed by each other, and they can't talk well, and finally the relationship between the two families is stiff, and it is the children who are embarrassed.
2. Don't say anything that looks down on the other party.
Getting along with the family, since it has become a family, then it is a relative, and in general, it is a family.
So between the in-laws, even if the other party's conditions are not as good as yours, even if the other party's family background is very ordinary, just an ordinary working-class or peasant family, and you are from the city, then after the child gets married, don't target the in-laws, don't be obsessed with the family conditions of the in-laws, and don't say something in front of the in-laws that look down on everyone.
Even if you are not satisfied with the family situation of your in-laws, don't say that you look down on others, you look down on your in-laws, in fact, you look down on yourself, and the people who say others are often the most unstructured.
To be able to come together, in fact, it is all fate, in this life there is a fate to become a family, then it is necessary to love each other, respect each other's lives, tolerate and accept each other's living conditions, and get along with each other amicably, which is the most decent way.
Between in-laws, we must understand that being convenient with others is convenient for ourselves, and doing a good job in the relationship between in-laws and families is to achieve the happiness of our children.
3. Don't talk too much about your family's housework.
Every family has a difficult scripture to read, when you know some things that happen in your in-laws' family, when the other party doesn't ask you, you don't have to ask more.
In the face of family affairs of the in-laws, it is best not to interfere, let alone make decisions for the in-laws, and do not tell others about the affairs of the in-laws.
Many times, when there are conflicts between in-laws, it is because they do not have a good sense of proportion with each other, that is, they are nosy, love to interfere in other people's affairs, and if they stretch their hands too long, they will be disliked.
If the other party needs your help, then try your best to help, if the other party does not explicitly ask you for help, then don't care.
Between in-laws, talk less about housework, don't comment and remark, so that they can get along comfortably.
Between in-laws, do not complain, do not complain, do not interfere with each other, and keep a little distance, in order to have a friendly relationship.
If you really encounter something, you should be reasonable, don't quarrel, talk well, don't be impulsive, and stabilize your emotions is the best way to get along.
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