As we all know, Germany belongs to one of the developed countries in the world, and its people live in a relatively prosperous life. Wealthy Germans, however, believed that "no matter how rich you are, you must have 'poor' children."
Their reason is that spoiled children lack self-control and the ability to live independently, and it will be difficult to adapt to society when they grow up, and they will inevitably suffer losses and detours.
When the child grows up, sooner or later he will leave his parents to break into the world. Instead of letting them face setbacks and be helpless at that time, it is better to let them suffer more from an early age and wrestle their ability and ability to face life.
The purpose of Germans to raise children is very different from that of Chinese parents, who pay great attention to "poor children".
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In Germany, many wealthy people have learned that sitting on a family fortune is not necessarily a good thing. If young people are made easily rich, they may be pushed into the abyss of depravity.
Based on this understanding, many German entrepreneurs who have struggled to become rich on their own have changed the concept of inheriting their father's business, and have said that they will not leave all their property to their children and grandchildren, but donate most or even all of their property to charity. The vast majority of children express their admiration and support for such ideas and practices of their parents.
They believe that the property of the parents is the property of the parents and that the parents have the right to dispose of them. As children, you should not expect much inheritance from your parents. As long as you work hard, you may do as well as your parents, or even better. They believe that true happiness comes from their own success.
Tim Heinz, 24, is the son of the chairman of a German transport company with €1 billion in assets. After graduating from college, he and his siblings received only the lowest income per month from their parents' property trusteeship.
In this regard, Tim said: "I have no right to own my parents' money, and I don't want to have it. It is wise for parents to spend their money where society needs it, not to our pleasures. Our parents left us with the opportunity to struggle. One day, I will also have my own property through struggle, and I will get the joy of success like my parents. ”
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Germans are convinced that society is a whole, and that abiding by the rules between people will make life happy, harmonious and stable.
When I was visiting relatives in Germany, I once went to the bathroom on my way to visit the Hamburg Zoo. When I came out, I was stopped by a young lady who asked if I had ever seen a little boy inside. She explained that her son had been in the bathroom for a long time and had not come out yet.
I suddenly remembered that I had just heard a knocking sound in the bathroom, so I turned around and followed the sound. In the innermost part of the bathroom, I saw a twelve- or thirteen-year-old boy who was seriously repairing the lever of the water tank— because the lever suddenly failed and could not flush.
The boy believes that if the toilet he used is not flushed, he is sorry for the next person who goes to the toilet, and he has lost his dignity.
I heard a friend say that when he first came to Germany, he dried his little grandson's shirt on the balcony. His daughter asked him to put his clothes in and dry them at home. She said that drying clothes on the balcony affects the beauty of the community, and homeowners will have opinions because it will affect the customer's evaluation of the residential area.
He went to Germany for the second time, pickled some bacon, and dried it on the balcony. This time, he wrapped the bacon in brightly colored decorative wrapping paper and made it into a trumpet shape, which is very artistic from a distance and up close. One day there was a strong wind and the blown-off wrapping paper fell out of the window of the neighbor's house downstairs. His daughter hurried downstairs to collect the wrapping paper.
Germans pay great attention to the cultivation of children's awareness of rules.
Once, on the lawn not far from his sister's house, an older German boy snatched another little boy's toy by force, only to be seen by his father.
The father of the eldest boy said to his son, "Leon, hurry up and return the toy to Alexander and apologize to him!" The boy named Leon was not yiyi.
Father said, "If you don't apologize, I'll have to apologize to Alexander on your behalf!" After a while, the father seriously returned the toy to the little boy and apologized to him on behalf of his son. Everyone follows the rules to create a better living environment.
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In the minds of Germans, there is the idea that good character is contagious, not taught.
Embodied in the specific moral cultivation, it is not required for children to memorize moral codes by rote, but to require children to understand and understand ethics and morality from the depths of their hearts and daily lives.
Ideological and moral education in German primary and secondary schools is generally referred to as "individual social health education", or "socialization process".
Its purpose is not to let children establish lofty ideals or strive to be heroes who sacrifice themselves for others, but to let them understand the basic principles of ordinary people, how to self-discipline to integrate into society, and become a member of society. "Individual social health education" mainly includes four core concepts: love of life, fairness and equality, honesty and trustworthiness.
German schools generally do not have special character education classes, but offer elective courses on various major religious beliefs in the world, including Buddhism and Taoism. This is considered to be crucial to the cultivation of children's character and self-cultivation.
Not only that, most German schools organize class discussions every week, select some things that happen in school or society, let children express their views, discuss together, and understand and judge right and wrong on their own.
In addition, group play is also an important way. In the process of play that everyone participates in, let the children know how to take care of and understand others, and know how to cooperate with their peers.
German schools also generally encourage children to raise small animals, organize students to chat with the elderly in nursing homes, collect donations for charitable organizations and participate in other public welfare or environmental protection activities, and cultivate children's love and social communication skills.
In the German view, honesty is not an isolated virtue, but is closely linked to self-respect and respect for others, love for life and nature.
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The author's ten-year-old son likes to make his own food, often after school to ask if you can make a cake, as long as you promise him, don't worry about anything, after a while, the cake can be brought to the front for his mother to taste, the taste is quite good.
At one point, he proudly declared, "Mom, today I'll cook." After that, he flipped through the recipes, went to the supermarket with his father to choose his own dishes, and when he got home, he was busy in the kitchen.
From pre-meal soup to apple juice, from dinner to after-dinner desserts ordered by each parent, parents just enjoy. The meal was a very authentic German meal, with boiled pork, potato buns and purple cabbage.
Don't you say, the taste is really authentic. At dessert, the son was holding a popsicle on the side, watching his father and mother enjoy the dinner he made, very satisfied.
Called the domestic mother-in-law to mention this matter, the old lady was also very happy, thinking that the child should exercise. The old lady asked the child what he was doing? Tell your mother-in-law that your son is knitting a small scarf for the little snowman, which is the homework of the school handicraft class.
The old lady is happy, and said that the education method of German schools is very good, which can make children learn different things from primary school, unlike domestic dead reading, and they will not be able to do anything when they grow up in the future, all depending on their parents.
The mother-in-law's words are thought-provoking, in fact, the biggest difference between children living at home and abroad is the different way of growing up. German parents are generally concerned about whether their children are happy at school, whether they like to go or not, and why. Chinese parents, on the other hand, are more concerned about what classes they take today, what they have learned, and how many points they have scored on the test.
Most Chinese children are excellent, smart, hardworking, and have good grades. At the International Mathematical Olympiad held in Germany last year, the Chinese team won the first place in the overall team score. This is the fifth time that the Chinese team has won this championship in nearly six years.
However, Chinese children are under great pressure to go to school and their knowledge is relatively narrow. Some children start from 7 o'clock in the morning self-study, in addition to 3 meals, basically learning, homework to do late at night, carrying two kilograms of rice in their hands can not walk a few steps to shout tired.
A friend took her daughter back to China to visit her relatives, and once her daughter refused her little cousin's request on the grounds that she had no time, which caused the boy to angrily rebuke: "You don't have time!" You are comfortable all day, you have no homework, you can play every day, and you say that you don't have time, do you know what no time is? Look at me to see what it means to be out of time. ”
The Chinese boy only had half a day a week to play. Usually after a full day of classes, but also to participate in countless kinds of cram classes, such as Olympiad mathematics, painting, music, English, etc., after school homework often to do dark or even late at night.
Those cram schools are called "voluntary participation", but in fact every child must pay money to participate, and if they do not participate, they may attract discrimination from the school. Chinese children grow up in such an environment, and the pressure is so great that it is difficult to imagine without experiencing it firsthand.
Relatively speaking, German primary school students are much more relaxed, only half a day of class, and first-grade arithmetic only requires 1 to 20, which seems to be very low. But the Germans are particularly serious, the teacher modifies the homework, the position of the child's writing letters is not corrected, and the teacher's requirements in the classroom are still very strict.
They have a very important comprehensive course, equivalent to a combination of geography, history, humanities, culture, religion, general knowledge, and politics.
The scope of the coverage is surprising, and so much knowledge has been learned in a short period of time. Sometimes there is a presentation in class, and the teacher will give the corresponding questions for the students to find their own information. Therefore, children are very independent from an early age and can also put forward their own unique opinions.
In general, education in German primary schools is relatively easy, and homework can be completed in more than an hour at most after returning home, and there is more free time after school. Seeing them go to the library by themselves at a young age, look up classroom assignment materials on the Internet, and prepare class lectures with care and attention, I feel that they are really mature.
Don't think that such an educational method will delay the child.
In fact, after middle school, there is a lot of homework. Germany is divided into schools from the 5th grade onwards, general secondary school, secondary secondary school and liberal arts secondary school. Only children in the liberal arts secondary schools (about 20%) will be able to go to university with their graduation exam results, and children in ordinary secondary schools will go to vocational schools, secondary schools and junior colleges.
In this way, all children can avoid the pressure of going to college and do their best. There are many courses in the liberal arts secondary school, and talented children can be trained, so the Germans have a large number of top talents in the fields of industry, science and technology.
Children who do not have the talent to read can do vocational training in a certain industry and enter the society early. So Germans are experts in that industry in all walks of life. As for those children who mature late, they can transfer to liberal arts secondary schools from other schools or take their graduation exams, or have the opportunity to go to university.
Of course, there are also many drawbacks in the German education system, and people have also seen this and called for educational reform all day long. But no matter how you change it, German children will still have time to play.
After my friend returned from China, the biggest feeling was: "In Germany, every afternoon, children can be seen playing outside at any time and everywhere. But back in China, there are no children playing on the street. ”
German children play and play, and the knowledge they should master is not less. There are many Germans in the whole society who can do it, so they can produce results. It is no wonder that German politicians discuss issues, are quick-witted and eloquent.
In many aspects such as the automobile industry, chemical industry, medicine, economy, high-tech and other Germany has been in the world's leading position, Nobel Prize winners are not lacking in Germany, some universities have dozens of Nobel Prize winners.
Just look at how Germans lay the foundations of independent thinking in school and how they grow up happily, and you will understand why.