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Many girls are really being nakedly hurt by their parents, which is heart-wrenching.
Seeing a post, the landlord said that when he was a child in his hometown, he slept in the utility room, while his brother had a separate house. At that time, I felt that the conditions at home were not good, and my younger brother did not care. Later, my parents earned money to buy a three-bedroom house in the city, and the landlord was very happy at the time, thinking that the three-bedroom must have its own room. On the day of the housewarming, it was found that the small bedroom had been converted into a study, and a folding bed was placed in the study. Mom said directly: "Anyway, sooner or later you have to get married, just have a place to live, your brother has a study for convenience." ”
At that time, the landlord was cold, he dropped out of school early to work outside, this new house also funded himself, although he worked outside and did not live at home, but his parents really did not regard themselves as a family since childhood. "When I moved to a new house and saw the room assigned to me and my brother, I instantly saw the true face of my parents."
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="8" > many girls have no room for themselves since childhood, and they have no home after marriage</h1>
Many female netizens below this post have appeared to say that this is their own experience, which makes people feel very emotional and sad.
In some families with sons and daughters, daughters have only the right to live in the room, not ownership. And parents have implemented this concept very thoroughly since childhood, saying to their daughters from a young age that you will always marry out in the future, and your room does not have to be so good. So the daughter has lived in the worst room since she was a child, and when the daughter is just married, the daughter's room may be transformed into a storage room or a child's room. Back to the mother's house, it is estimated that you will have to live in the hotel.
Many girls are born in families with older brothers and brothers, and when they grow up, they will actually have no home, and they are more likely to become complete outsiders after marriage. The mother's family that cannot go back is the norm for many married women, but unfortunately many such girls are still self-righteous, thinking that they are part of the original family, and are willing to be the devil of the brother (brother) and affect their marriage and family.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="14" > girls care not about room allocation, but about the love of their parents</h1>
In fact, the allocation of rooms depends on the actual situation, many families' new houses may be the son's future marriage room, and the children are on the outside of the university, or married, and can't live at home for a few days a year. If the large room is reserved for the daughter, it is also a waste of resources.
When I was about to get married, my family also bought a three-bedroom and one-living room in the city. My parents asked me to choose the room first, I directly chose the smallest room, and I can live in my mother's house several times after I get married. And the younger brother will have a girlfriend later, and he will take the girlfriend home and the room is too small to live in. Even if my brother gets married and buys a new house later, he will start a family later than me, and the room at home will live longer than me.
In fact, many girls don't care about the allocation of rooms. If the conditions in the family are limited, the parents are sparing no effort to cultivate the boys and girls, and every time the children need help, they are pouring out their money, and the parents have given the best love to the girl, then the girl will no longer fight for the property in that room or family. When I grow up, I don't worry about the distribution of materials in my family.
Because girls also know that the conditions at home are limited and their parents have limited ability. And now this society has higher requirements for men to start a family, boys marry wives want a house, and girls have a house and confidence, even if there is no house, they are not worried about marrying, and the pressure of brother or brother to start a family is even greater. When their children are married, parents are materially biased toward their sons, and it is understandable to help them start a family. The fundamental reason why many girls are obsessed with the material imbalance of their parents when they grow up is that girls do not get material things from their parents, let alone love.
[Topic Discussion: Do you have such a family around you? 】
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