Dr. Zhang Yijun's online certification course for "Children's Emotional Intelligence Education Instructor" is in full swing.
Recently, Class 07 students have just completed their studies on topics related to "Suicide in Children and Adolescents" and "Bullying in Schools".
The profound course content and knowledge system have aroused the sighs and resonance of many parents and teachers, and the students have expressed their feelings.
In this, we found some thought-provoking stories that we couldn't help but want to share with you.
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Neglect the education of "desire for life"
It is difficult for children to have a future
Chen Honglian, coordinates Shenzhen, a 5-year-old daughter and 8-year-old son's child mother.
In my eyes, children are carefree, and they should be the age of smiling unscrupulously, without heart and lungs.
But what would make a child willing to give up his life and jump from the 32nd floor without hesitation, and what kind of despair would make a child jump from the viaduct to death?
I have a niece of my own who jumped from the 32nd floor of my house on March 30 of this year.
I don't know what kind of desperation it is for a child to say goodbye in such a wonderful way at such a wonderful age of 12 years old.
The reason for the incident is that the teachers of the school privately opened cram classes to grab the source of students, and the children were under great pressure.
The teacher insulted the children in front of the whole class, and the children jumped from the 32nd floor of the house because they could not bear the pressure, ending their lives.
If education does not put the promotion of children's "desire for life" in the first place, those topics about grades, prestigious schools, and the future cannot be discussed.
Sometimes I wonder if psychology courses could go to every school, urban or rural; if every parent valued their child's mental health; if the child had problems, they could get help in time; maybe tragedy wouldn't happen.
Therefore, in the follow-up teaching, I pay more attention to the mental health of my children. Do some sincere communication with the child, give the children more positive energy things, and improve the child's resistance.
In Dr. Zhang Yijun's course "Child Emotional Intelligence Education Instructor", it is mentioned how "child and adolescent suicide" identifies children with high suicide risk. The most obvious signs include direct or indirect expression of suicide, accounting for the aftermath, and always indulging in the illusion of death.
When parents find that there are such signs, please pay more attention to the children, pay more attention to the children's hearts, and do not let the flowers of the motherland wither prematurely.
Do a lot of prevention of children's suicidal tendencies and plan ahead. At the same time, in the lesson "Children's Emotional Intelligence Education Instructor", there are also specific practices to deal with children's suicidal tendencies, based on professional psychological theories to help children.
Thinking back to myself, when my eldest son was less than 5 years old, I let him take a course in Go. In my opinion, this fosters a child's ability to focus, think, and empathize.
More importantly, I let my children understand that winning and losing is a very common thing, and slowly strengthen their hearts.
I remember one time, the child lost the game very badly. I told him that everyone has something they are good at and what they are not good at, so winning and losing is the simplest thing.
I also told my children that winning or losing this game of chess does not mean that you are strong or not, and in your mother's heart, you are still the very strong brother. As long as we re-evaluate this problem, the next time this error does not occur.
In this way, the child will no longer be irritable when he encounters learning problems later, and he will find ways to solve the problem, although sometimes it may not be optimal, but it is effective.
I believe in scientific parenting and have always insisted on what I think is right.
The teachers in the office were very envious of me, and they said that my sister was different from other little girls, and her smile was stretched and heartfelt.
The future of the child is in our hands, I want to do more things, I want all the children around me to laugh, laugh lively and cheerful, laugh heartlessly!
Learn to deal with bullying
It is also a survival skill
Ms. Zhan, Wuxi, an 8-year-old, a 10-year-old mother.
Learning the course "Children's Emotional Intelligence Education Instructor" originated from my own 2 children. The school bullying I learned today is also a problem I only encountered a while ago.
My child was punched by another class at the end of the interest class, causing bleeding in the nose. The child did not dare to tell the teacher at that time, but only after seeing me did he dare to tell me what had happened.
Afterwards, I thought I had done a better job, and my son didn't seem to be affected at the moment.
But after today's lesson, I looked back at the incident and found that children who were bullied were first and foremost more introverted; while bullies were grumpy, impulsive, difficult to follow rules, lacked empathy, and were aggressive toward people.
In fact, the campus is a microcosm of society, and the phenomenon of campus bullying is difficult to completely disappear.
Therefore, allowing children to learn how to deal with school bullying early will also help children adapt to the complex society and workplace in the future.
Being a parent and teacher needs to lead your child to act wisely. If the child has witnessed bullying for a long time and is indifferent. Over time, they may mimic wrongly bullied behavior and rationalize themselves.
Children should be told that when they see a bullying incident, they can immediately work with other classmates to stop the bully.
In Dr. Zhang Yijun's children's emotional intelligence education system, how to deal with children's school bullying is proposed:
In addition, after the bullying incident, parents should work with teachers to create a helpful atmosphere in the class. Such an approach is good for the bully, the bullied, and the bystander.
In the face of bullying, they can be guided by school education and psychological counseling when necessary to find out the root cause of dissatisfaction.
Bystanders can also learn from life to help others with actions and practice the right values.
Write at the end
For children who are bullied in school, the life they face is unfair.
Those children who are forced by depression and despair to end their lives are even more involuntary.
And parents and teachers, if they can reach out and help their children when they need it most, may be the warmest and most powerful "education" that can be provided for children.
In this way, as an educator, it is also indispensable to learn theories and knowledge to cope with similar situations.