Author 丨 粲ran
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Uncle Kai said kaishushuo I tell stories to children every day, and I know the power of stories, as the book "Stories Know What to Do" says: "Stories are like a path to the child's heart." ” But I sincerely hope that the story told by Uncle Kai is not a substitute for your home, but a supplement. The best storyteller must be Mom and Dad themselves. Tell a story to your child every day before going to bed, and this scene is gentle to think about. What's even better is that we can actually try to make up some "exclusive to them" stories for children.
Many mothers are very worried that their children are not good at making friends.
Indeed, rather than playing with children, some children prefer to immerse themselves in their own small world and explore alone.
5-year-old Hehe, such a boy.
He was extremely obsessed with flora and fauna, and was often alone with flowers and plants.
In the face of such children, we often can't help but criticize:
"How do you do that?" Get out and play with the kids! ”
Parents with a better temperament and cultivation, even if they are not so rude, will inevitably have a hard time:
"You don't have a problem playing these, but you can't do it all the time." It's more fun to play with kids, but you didn't have the courage to try..."
How does the child feel when he hears such words?
"I don't like (or I'm not ready) to play with the kids, but my mom just wants me to go."
No matter how gentle our words are, the children still feel: "I am not good enough" and "I can't do what my mother expects", all of which are negative and not recognized.
Such children are either introverted personality types, or just have not yet reached the ability (not ready for the time being), often face such denial, will make their own inner sense of strength gradually weakened, and finally even they believe that they have problems, and can not grow freely.
Worrying about the child will become a curse on the child, let us learn to use fairy tales to bless the child's growth and give him the strength of a lifetime.
Discard preaching Use stories to increase your child's inner strength
Because of my work, the children treated me like a story magician.
I told them that behind every child's name, there was a story.
And the story of He, is the story of "Jack and the Magic Bean":
Jack—the same one as Hehe a million years ago—his mother one day asked him to take the family's only cow and go to the market to get some food. Because there was no food at home right away. Jack is tasked with turning the family's situation around, leading the cattle to the market. A cow can be exchanged for a lot of things. At this time, Jack meets an old man, who tells him that he has a magic bean. Jack believed the old man's words and exchanged the cow for a bean.
Unfortunately, a bean seems impossible to save the family from crisis. Jack's mother was furious and threw the bean out the window. That night, the whole family went to sleep hungry and desperate. Only Jack was still thinking about the beans outside the window.
Early the next morning, Jack opened the window: Wow! The beans really grew into towering vines and grew all the way to the sky. Jack couldn't help but say, climbing up the vines into the sky. He went to the giant's house, hid in the cupboard, took the giant's sleep and snatched the giant's hen that could lay golden eggs, and then returned to the ground safely, so that the whole family could live a good life.
Later, Jack climbed the vine for the second time and went to the giant's house.
He fell asleep on the giant, trying to steal the golden harp that the giant could sing. But this time, the giant woke up! The giant chased Jack and also climbed down the vines. Jack shouted for help. Mom heard that and stood under the vines, and when Jack fell to the ground, she cut the vines with force. The giant, who was still on the vine, fell down, smashed deep into the ground, and disappeared.
Jack's family has since lived a happy and reassuring life.
"Jack and the Magic Bean" is a story that calls for the power of the introverted peace and mind, acknowledging his imagination and dreams.
Jack in the story is not a long-sleeved, socially flexible kid. Even in the reality of the hunger-driven deal, he still believes in fantasy ("the magic bean that can grow the towering vine").
His choices can also be seen in the doubts and rebuttals of the adult world.
However, such a child can achieve his own spiritual legend.
Like many of the most classic fairy tales, "Jack and the Beanstalk" is a story that inspires children to have a conversation with their own inner world.
I don't give and make up a story about a "smart and good communicative" kid.
For example, the family is very poor, leading the cattle to exchange to solve the dilemma, and then relying on flexible communication skills to exchange for the chicken and the golden harp... This does not belong to the sum and.
To be happy and successful is not to become another person, but more importantly, it is the metaphor in the story
Jack must follow the magic beans buried in the ground (symbolizing the subconscious), climb the towering vine (symbolizing the "superego"), and face the giant that lies in his heart (symbolizing the obstacles on the way to self-search and growth).
Fairy tales reflect reality everywhere
Only by summoning up all courage, defeating giants, and bravely finding yourself can we gain the freedom of humanity that is truly heaven and earth.
This is the ultimate problem for all of us, and it's something we can discuss with our children.
For example, for Hehe, a small life has precious persistence, but it has to face strong external doubts. If in this questioning voice, we can give peace and some courage and trust, encourage him to believe in himself more, and face the outside doubts more wisely. Perhaps in this way, he can harvest more stable and peaceful happiness.
Above the clouds are the houses of giants, and in the green are towering vines. Below the vine is Jack's home. Such a story word becomes the word "and" of harmony. Through this word, this story, I would like to tell the harmony that is particularly passionate about plants:
"And, at all times, believe in yourself, in the things you think are right. Because those things may be miracles that belong only to and to one person. ”
The miracle of the story and the miracle of the peace
And and after listening to the story that belonged only to his name, he wrote his name for the first time very carefully and seriously. He wrote his name so big, so hard, that it filled the entire sheet of paper. I was very, very impressed.
When we said, "Jack leads the cow to the market to change food, and an old man says he has a magic bean and wants to exchange it for a cow," I stopped and asked the children if they wanted to exchange with the old man.
Except for harmony, all children in the classroom choose not to exchange.
Indeed, for the vast majority of children, change fruit, ice cream, chocolate... Anything, so many delicious things in the world, are better than changing a bean.
I asked and and.
He was quiet and said, "It's a secret, I'm going to tell it in your ear." ”
I leaned down.
He said to me, "Well... Or change the apple. Swap magic apples. We can eat it first. Take the seeds and plant them in the soil. ”
I looked at him carefully, and my heart was filled with indescribable pride.
Yes, he is the "Jack" who can achieve his own fantasy journey in the future.
I believe that he and he will one day live a "happy life" that belongs to harmony and only accepts and defines one person.
Story A blessing that accompanies a child's life
Not only this one story, but all fairy tales can be emotional inspiration for children to go deeper and deeper into human nature.
Every one of our parents, in every part of our daily lives, a lot of our motivations are instantaneous, such as because of an exam, a ball game.
And when we tell such stories to our children ourselves, they can go beyond a particular logic of this world and give them a longer-term and deeper blessing in their hearts.
They are very quiet beings, like One By One New Year cards, so that children can receive our blessings when they are 30, 40, or even 50 years old.
The child will always be blessed by the mother's very long, very calm, very firm love.
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