Life is often a lot of hardships, and a person's arduous trek is not always a long-term solution, so people choose partners to support each other and help each other. Yet any marriage is a gamble, and if the bet is won, the family is happy; the bet is lost, and the holes are broken. In the Republic of China, there was such a person, he went through four marriages, and the last time he found the person who was destined, but fortunately, he found it after all.
This person is Gu Weijun, and his destined partner is Yan Youyun. When they were married, he was 71 years old and she was 54 years old, a difference of 17 years.
When Gu Weijun is mentioned, everyone should think of the Beiyang envoy who resolutely refused to sign on behalf of China at the Paris Peace Conference, in fact, Gu Weijun's contribution is far more than that.
In that era when weak countries had no diplomacy, Gu Weijun was stationed abroad as a diplomat, not only to fight for the greatest rights and interests of the motherland, but also to mediate with arrogant Western countries. But even under such difficult circumstances, Gu Weijun has made an indelible contribution to China's diplomacy. In the 1930s, a British newspaper also mentioned him, praising Dr. Gu Weijun for his cultivation and calmness and kindness than any diplomat in the Western world.
At the Paris Peace Conference, he eloquently refuted the Japanese delegates and became famous in one fell swoop. However, Japan disregarded righteousness and reason, and even threatened to withdraw from the peace conference, and the situation took a sharp turn for the worse. The Chinese delegation was disheartened, some fell ill and were hospitalized, and some even left the peace conference, but Gu Weijun tried everything to resist until the last moment before the signing of the peace treaty. He was so powerful that he reserved signatures, appended to the treaty, and made statements outside the treaty, all of which were not allowed, forcing China to accept it unconditionally. So Gu Weijun finally made the final decision and refused to sign.
This is the first time in modern history that China has said no to the great powers, changing the situation of contention and eventual concession. People in the Western world did not expect that the mild-mannered Dr. Gu Weijun had such courage, and the poor and weak Chinese people had such backbone.
And Yan Youyun is also a Republic of China strange woman. She was one of the first female students at Fudan University, and her ex-husband was Yang Guangxing. Yang Guangjing was also a diplomat, and when he was the Consul General of China in Manila, the capital of the Philippines, he actively promoted the anti-Japanese war and saved the dead, and raised a large amount of money to support the domestic war of resistance.
After the outbreak of the Pacific War, Manila was in danger, and when MacArthur withdrew, he still reserved a seat for Yang Guangjing on the plane, but he declined. He considers himself a Chinese diplomat, who naturally has the heavy responsibility of protecting overseas Chinese and will never leave his post without permission. Later, he categorically refused the sinister demand of the Japanese to concentrate overseas Chinese, and was imprisoned and killed.
Yang Guangjing's spirit was widely respected and admired around the world, and later macArthur and his wife helped Yan Youyun to live in the United States. At that time, Gu Weijun was also in the United States, he and Yang Guangxing knew each other, and seeing that Yan Youyun's life was difficult, he often helped her, so the two became acquainted and eventually came together.
After the marriage, the two qinser and ming, raised eyebrows together. Gu Weijun regarded Yan Youyun's three children as his own and carefully educated, and later these three children had their own achievements, the eldest daughter became a senior editor, the second daughter became the vice president of General Motors, and the third daughter engaged in real estate development.
Yan Youyun is also a hostess who is good at managing the family, and after marriage, she focused her energy on Gu Weijun's life. She got up at 3 a.m. every day, prepared snacks for Gu Weijun, warmed the milk, and left a note reminding her early husband not to forget to drink milk, which can prevent insufficient nutrition after sleep. He also arranged Chinese and English newspapers for him, chatted with him, arranged poker games for him to have fun...
In his later years, Gu Weijun once said humorously when introducing his health secrets: "Walk, eat less snacks, and take care of your wife." It can be seen that Yan Youyun is really a satisfactory wife and partner. Looking back on Gu Weijun's life, he met Yan Youyun at the age of 71, so he could have a happy old age.
However, if it were not for Gu Weijun and Yan Youyun's leniency toward others, Gu's daughter who was preoccupied with Yan, and Yan's children who did not give in to gu's children, I am afraid that no matter how deep the affection between the two of them was, they would not be able to withstand the wear and tear of grievances. Therefore, in the emotional life, there is no need to calculate the right and wrong to win or lose, more concessions, more tolerance, only in this way can love for a lifetime.
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The Biography of Gu Weijun