Soong Ching Ling was the wife of Dr. Sun Yat-sen, who once followed Dr. Sun Yat-sen to fight for the revolution and began a revolutionary career that lasted for 70 years. He has been baptized by democracy since he was a child, unswervingly followed Dr. Sun Yat-sen in defending the Chinese republican system, fought bravely, and had a high status and reputation at home and abroad.
The world calls Dr. Sun Yat-sen the "father of the Republic of China", and as his wife, he is naturally crowned by the world as the "Mother of the Republic of China".
When people think of Dr. Sun Yat-sen's wife, they will naturally think of Soong Ching-ling, but his original wife is not Soong Ching-ling, but Lu Muzhen.
Lu Muzhen, a woman who dares to love and dare to hate, has a kind heart, is simple and generous. Lu Muzhen is a native of Xiangshan, Guangdong, who has lived in a family of scholars since childhood and received a good education. Under the education of her parents, Lu Muzhen is hardworking and capable, and the first-hand female worker is even more praised.
In ancient times, they all paid attention to marrying wives and sages, so like Lu Muzhen, a woman who was industrious and capable, kind-hearted, and did a good job of craftsmanship naturally became a rare good daughter-in-law in everyone's eyes. In addition, the Lu family and the Sun family are of equal origin, the two families are also familiar with each other, and Dr. Sun Yat-sen's parents also like Lu Muzhen. Therefore, the two families hit it off, exchanged Gengti with Dr. Sun Yat-sen and Lu Muzhen on their backs, selected the date, and set the lifelong events of the two people.
Although this marriage is a door-to-door match, a match made in heaven. However, the feelings of the two parties were ignored, as victims of arranged marriages, in fact, the lives of Dr. Sun Yat-sen and Lu Muzhen were far less happy and loving than the two families imagined.
Lu Muzhen came from a family of scholars, and received the education of her parents in every word and deed, and although her parents often went to the United States to do business, they were still extremely conservative and feudal in their thinking. Therefore, Lu Muzhen still has the figure of a woman in the ancient feudal society, and in her view, it is the duty of a woman to teach her husband and son.
In addition to trying to take good care of the husband and children, it is also necessary to deal with the relationship with the husband's family. In order to wear shoes to look good, Lu Muzhen also inherited the feudal bad habits, wrapped his feet from an early age, and practiced three inches of golden lotus.
Logically, such a woman married home to live a life without incident is also a good life, Lu Muzhen has a good personality, does not love life affairs, and is careful and thoughtful, and can also take care of the family in an orderly manner. If it is in an ordinary person's home, it must be a beautiful talk.
But Dr. Sun Yat-sen is no one else, he accepts advanced ideas, culture and knowledge, and is single-mindedly focused on the revolution and the salvation of China, so the two people can only be described as respectful and respectful.
Not long after the marriage, Dr. Sun Yat-sen left home and went to the South China Academy of Boji Hospital to begin studying medicine. Because Dr. Sun Yat-sen was directly educated in the West in his youth and had the experience of living overseas, he quickly came to prominence in Boji Hospital and met many like-minded friends.
Because Dr. Sun Yat-sen is often busy outside, the two people have always been gathered less and more. However, as a wife, Lu Muzhen is undoubtedly qualified, and she has been doing her best to take care of the family, because in the education she received, the duty of a woman is to take good care of the family, take care of the people in the family, reproduce for her own husband, and pass on the generations.
It is also with the existence of Lu Muzhen that Dr. Sun Yat-sen can run outside without any worries and realize his ideals.
Originally, Dr. Sun Yat-sen wanted to save China by studying medicine, but after the outbreak of the Sino-Japanese Sino-Japanese War, he deeply realized that treating diseases and saving people could not change China's current situation, and to save China from being invaded by Western powers, it was necessary to come from the root, and it was better to treat people than to heal the country, so he began to engage in revolution.
Because Dr. Sun Yat-sen had a great mission, he entrusted all the affairs of his family to Lu Muzhen. Every time he came home, Lu Muzhen would sew clothes for him by hand so that Dr. Sun Yat-sen could wear them more comfortably.
Every time he came home and saw that his mother was taken care of so thoughtfully and meticulously by his wife Lu Muzhen, he was very grateful that there was such a capable Xiannai helper in the family, especially when he saw that most of the clothes on his mother's body were sewn by Lu Muzhen himself, and Dr. Sun Yat-sen's heart was full of gratitude to Lu Muzhen. But it's just gratitude. The heating up of the feelings of the two people should also start from the serious illness of Lu Muzhen's father.
Lu Muzhen was able to take care of her mother-in-law, who had nothing to do with her, so meticulously. Naturally, she was more dedicated to her own biological father. In 1888, Lu Muzhen's father, Lu Xianyao, fell seriously ill, and Lu Muzhen and Dr. Sun Yat-sen, who had received the news, went to visit and take care of him.
Dr. Sun Yat-sen had been busy outside before and had never cared about the situation at home. This time, he only saw the side of Lu Muzhen's virtuous and virtuous, Lu Muzhen was in front of his father's bed, serving wholeheartedly, never leaving a step, even the cooked soup medicine, she also fed her father spoonful by spoon, never pretending to be a person, that filial piety touched Mr. Sun Yat-sen.
After a long time together, the two people finally had feelings, and Lu Muzhen also conceived a child for Dr. Sun Yat-sen.
Originally, Lu Muzhen's life was very plain, as a housewife, she only needed to take care of the relationship between her family and neighbors. However, Lu Muzhen married an unusual person, and she was doomed not to have a smooth sailing.
In 1895, Dr. Sun Yat-sen revolted in Guangzhou, but because of insufficient preparation, this uprising ended in failure. In order to suppress these revolutionaries, the Qing government issued a wanted and heavily rewarded Dr. Sun Yat-sen and other revolutionaries.
This information soon reached the home of Dr. Sun Yat-sen, and for a time Lu Muzhen was flustered, and she had always played the role of a housewife, never in contact with society, and did not know the situation outside. Therefore, when she encountered such a thing, she did not know what to do, and could only pack her bags as quickly as possible and prepare to flee to another place to take shelter first.
However, Lu Muzhen, who never went far away, did not know where to flee. Thankfully. The Qing government did not understand the situation of Dr. Sun Yat-sen's hometown, and also wrote the name of his village wrongly, and did not find Lu Muzhen's village at the first time, so that Lu Muzhen's escape had more time.
After several turns, Lu Muzhen and they went to Honolulu and defected to Sun Yat-sen's brother Sun Mei, which temporarily settled down.
Dr. Sun Yat-sen also took the opportunity to flee to Japan, and while fleeing, he unswervingly propagated the revolution and continued to work hard to overthrow the Qing government. After the storm passed, Sun Yat-sen returned to Honolulu from Japan and was reunited with his family.
The two people were finally reunited again, and Lu Muzhen's hanging heart could finally fall, since she learned the news that Sun Yat-sen was wanted, she had been worried and afraid, afraid of Sun Yat-sen's accident, and now seeing Sun Yat-sen's unharmed appearance, she was completely relieved.
Although Lu Muzhen and Dr. Sun Yat-sen are husband and wife, the relationship between the two people is more like a close relative, Mr. Sun Yat-sen is working hard outside, working hard for the country, and paying for the people; Lu Muzhen is single-mindedly taking care of the children, taking care of the mother-in-law, and taking care of the family.
Although it cannot help Dr. Sun Yat-sen's revolutionary cause, it can solve Dr. Sun Yat-sen's worries. This is the way two people get along, there is no love, no wind and snow, only gratitude and affection.
Married to Dr. Sun Yat-sen, Lu Muzhen's life is destined not to be too calm, to twist and turn. As the elder brother of Dr. Sun Yat-sen, Sun Mei naturally had one heart with his younger brother, and in order to support his brother's revolution, Sun Mei took out his family property to support the revolution.
It didn't take long for Sun Mei's family property to be exhausted. Without an economic foundation, Sun Mei was no longer able to take care of Lu Muzhen's family's life, and forced to do so, Lu Muzhen could only take her family to run to Hong Kong again.
Along the way, Lu Muzhen must take care of her elderly mother-in-law and young children, and she must always pay attention to the situation around her, and she must immediately transfer when she encounters danger. These are all great tests for Lu Muzhen. She had never experienced this before, and she gritted her teeth and survived.
With the planning and efforts of Dr. Sun Yat-sen for many years, finally in 1911, the Xinhai Revolution broke out. In one fell swoop, the Qing government was overthrown and the feudal rule of China for thousands of years was ended, and because of Dr. Sun Yat-sen's leadership ability and years of revolutionary experience, he was elected as the provisional president, which was unique for a time.
This uprising not only overthrew the feudal monarchy, but also allowed Dr. Sun Yat-sen to no longer have to flee around, to settle down in the country, and as his family, Lu Muzhen could also end his life with Dr. Sun Yat-sen.
After working hard for so many years, Lu Muzhen is finally bitter and can live a stable life. On February 15, Lu Muzhen came to Shanghai with her children, which was welcomed by many people and affectionately known as the "Mother of the Republic of China".
Although lu Muzhen is very happy to be welcomed by so many people, behind the happiness is a strong sense of discomfort, uneasiness and incompatibility. Lu Muzhen was taught from an early age that women do not show their faces and take good care of their families.
In the face of such a big scene, Lu Muzhen is more restrained and uncomfortable, and no one has ever taught her how to face these things. It was also this experience that made her realize the gap between herself and Dr. Sun Yat-sen.
It is said that the end of the husband and wife is from the beginning of the estrangement, the original marriage of two people is the fate of the parents, and there is no emotional basis, plus the ideological culture accepted by the two people is not the same, there is no common topic. Now Dr. Sun Yat-sen has been making progress, accepting advanced knowledge, and his insight is not comparable to that of a housewife like Lu Muzhen, and the gap between the two people is getting wider and wider.
For those events that she often had to attend, Lu Muzhen felt physically and mentally exhausted, and her heart was rejected, but she had no choice. You can only try your best to play the role of a good wife.
The success of the Xinhai Revolution did not last long, and because of the failure of the revolution, it once again went to Japan. This time, Dr. Sun Yat-sen met Soong Ching-ling in Japan, and compared with Lu Muzhen, Soong Ching-ling was more suitable to be Dr. Sun Yat-sen's revolutionary teammate.
First of all, both people accept advanced ideology and culture, and what Soong Ching-ling has always accepted has always been the concept of democracy and republicanism; secondly, both people are revolutionaries who are willing to dedicate themselves to the revolution; finally, the two people have common topics, and in any way, Soong Ching-ling's ideas coincide with Dr. Sun Yat-sen's.
When two excellent people meet and have a common goal for each other, it is always easy to attract each other.
But at this time, facing a problem, Song Qingling's origin and the ideas she received since childhood, she has always believed in "one life and one couple". If you want to marry Dr. Sun Yat-sen, then Mr. Sun Yat-sen must first divorce. Although it was during the Republic of China period, divorce was not so common in that era.
Although Lu Muzhen has realized the gap between herself and Dr. Sun Yat-sen, she wants to find an excellent person to take a concubine for Mr. Sun Yat-sen, she does not mind sharing her other half, and she has never thought of divorce.
But when Lu Muzhen saw the letter written by Dr. Sun Yat-sen and asked her if she would like a divorce, Lu Muzhen still wrote back to express her willingness. Just like participating in various social gatherings at that time, although she was unwilling, Lu Muzhen had no choice.
Lu Muzhen clearly knew that Dr. Sun Yat-sen was a person who made a big cause, and his heart was full of the world, so he needed someone to support him and help him, and it was obvious that this person was not himself. Since you don't have the ability, let it go.
Although she did not receive too much higher education, Lu Muzhen made a decision in this matter that many people could not do. Since he could not stand next to Dr. Sun Yat-sen, Lu Muzhen chose to be perfect, willing to let Dr. Sun Yat-sen run to a better person and find his love.
The divorce was agreed, but The family of Mr. Sun Yat-sen did not agree, they felt that Lu Muzhen had silently dedicated herself to the family for more than thirty years, and had not made any mistakes, and should not be exchanged for such a result, or Lu Muzhen came forward to persuade them, so that Dr. Sun Yat-sen could get his wish and marry Soong Qingling.
Lu Muzhen told others that she had no knowledge, was still wrapped in her feet, could not speak foreign languages, could not cope with those socializing, could not help Sun Yat-sen, and he needed a more suitable person. Behind these words should be more Lu Muzhen's feeling that she is not worthy of Sun Yat-sen's helplessness and heartache.
The last thing Lu Muzhen can help Sun Yat-sen is to help him smoothly with Soong Ching Ling. So in order to help Sun Yat-sen clear the obstacles, she also told her son to get along well with Soong Ching Ling and respect this elder.
In 1915, Sun Yat-sen and Lu Muzhen negotiated a divorce agreement in Japan, ending their marriage to Sun Yat-sen. At the age of seventeen, the young and beautiful Lu Muzhen married Mr. Sun Yat-sen, who was only one year older than herself, and took care of her husband's family for more than thirty years, leaving her most precious youth in the Sun family.
At the age of forty-eight, she divorced Sun Yat-sen, and the marriage of more than thirty years came to an end. For Lu Muzhen, this marriage brings her more than waiting, and now she can no longer wait and worry, which is not a good thing.
In this marriage, it was she who intervened to dissuade those who opposed it and agreed to Sun Yat-sen's search for love again. Lu Muzhen is not unloving of Sun Yat-sen, on the contrary, because he loves too much, he is willing to fulfill it, for Sun Yat-sen, in order to help Sun Yat-sen realize his lifelong ideals, and for the sake of the overall situation of the country, he is willing to find a better destination for the other party.
After the divorce, Lu Muzhen lived in Macau many times, although at the time of the divorce, he told Sun Yat-sen that both parties could find a life partner to continue their lives. But Lu Muzhen clearly intends to spend her life alone, and although she does not pay much attention to current affairs and politics, she is not opposed to her children engaging in politics.
For Lu Muzhen, a close relative, Sun Yat-sen has never forgotten, often writes to her, and also bears Lu Muzhen's living expenses, so that Lu Muzhen's old age can be more comfortable.
His son Sun Ke did not forget Lu Muzhen's kindness to him, and all aspects of his life were taken care of, and a squad of soldiers was sent to be responsible for Lu Muzhen's safety. In 1931, Sun Ke founded the Sun Yat-sen Memorial Middle School, and also specially set up a "Muzhen Hall" to commemorate it.
After the outbreak of the War of Resistance Against Japan, Lu Muzhen often joined her sister in the anti-Japanese struggle and cooperated with the army led by the Communist Party of China.
In general, although Lu Muzhen was alone after the divorce, there were still many people who cared about him, especially the care and care of the eldest son. Lu Muzhen's later years were full of warmth, and she lived in Macau until eighty-five, ending her life.
Lu Muzhen's marriage, for her husband, for her children, for her family, for her relatives and friends, but never think about herself, many people feel that Lu Muzhen let go of the elegant and relaxed, but do not know how much courage it takes, how long it takes to heal.