Money, must be a topic that cannot be avoided in the relationship between the sexes, a relationship wants to go to the end, there will be material participation, however, some people's views on money are in an ambiguous attitude, feeling that love without material is like a mess, but at the same time think that love talks about money is too vulgar, so they are all embarrassed.
In fact, good love must need to talk about money, and those who can go to the end of the love must also have money to participate, so whether it is material or realistic, in short, the importance of money is beyond doubt.
For women, it is happy to have a man who is willing to spend money for himself, but sometimes men "don't open their minds", and they take the initiative to reach out and feel awkward, which requires us to use some skills.
Psychological research has shown that it is enough for a man to take the initiative to spend money for you and use this method well.
Affirmative tone + childish way
Will you ask for it? Or do you make effective demands from men in your relationship?
In most cases, women are either embarrassed to ask men, or the requests they make are invalid, such as "It's raining today, can you come and pick me up, if it's inconvenient, forget it", or "I want to eat cake, if you stop by, buy me a piece, if you don't go along the way, forget it." ”
In fact, such a request is invisibly to create an opportunity for the other party to refuse, if it is inconvenient, it is possible not to buy, and if it is not smooth, it can also not be bought.
When rejected, the other party feels that they are reasonable, and we hold our stomachs, and it is naturally not conducive to managing each other's feelings for a long time.
Therefore, when we make demands, we must be generous in mentioning them, and the affirmative tone plus the way of showing weakness is invincible and tried.
For example, "When it rains, you come to pick me up, and I am afraid without you accompanying me";
For example, "I want to eat the cake you bought me because it smells of love" and so on.
Men are straight-line thinking, many times can not guess what the woman wants to express what the meaning is, but when he sees the affirmative tone, he knows what the woman wants to do, coupled with the must kill and sell cuteness, will make the man have a positive psychological hint in his heart.
Pavlov, a famous Russian physiologist, pointed out that positive psychological cues can quickly lead people into a state of optimism, which can bring about cognitive, emotional, and behavioral changes, making people calm, focused, and more aware.
Therefore, such a way will allow women to achieve their goals and make men willing to give.
The Franklin Effect: The way to make a guy like you more is to trouble him
In this world, some people obviously meet for the first time, but they give people a feeling of seeing each other at first sight, and mutual goodwill will follow;
Some people, even if they have been together for a long time, still don't know anything about each other
The reason why there is such a difference lies in whether people know how to expose themselves when interacting with each other, and if the level of self-exposure is high, the relationship will be more intimate; if the self-level is exposed, the relationship will be alienated, among them, the most critical thing is whether a person can understand how to trouble others.
There is a Franklin effect in psychology, which refers to the way to make a person prefer himself not to help the other person, but to let the other person help himself more.
In the relationship between the sexes, whether women can make demands and make men pay for themselves has become a key to whether the relationship is intimate.
In fact, when a woman spends money on men, she is also indirectly satisfying the man's sense of existence, making him aware of his role in the relationship, so that he is more willing to contribute to the relationship.
The more you pay, the more you get used to it
01) If a person can last for twenty-one days in the time of doing something, then the next thing will become a habit of his, which is the "twenty-one-day cultivation method".
In fact, in the relationship between the sexes, when women let men spend money for themselves through an affirmative tone and a coddled method, then slowly, men will form a mindset in the subtle, feeling that paying for the other half is a matter of course.
Of course, the happiness of love is not obtained because of unilateral payment, but requires each other to be concerned about each other's two-way rush.
02), therefore, while guiding men to spend money for themselves, we should not forget to pay, let men know that their efforts are valuable, let him know that he is also being concerned and cared for.
For the global population, the probability of one person meeting another person is about one in 18 billion, and for two people in love, it is a miraculous probability to be able to come together.
Therefore, what we have to do is to cherish it, cherish the people in front of us, and cherish the present.