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People who really have the ability are all-rounders, no matter which line, they can mix well.
Truly vicious people have two sides, no matter who they are with, they can take advantage.
There is a saying in the countryside: "A dog that barks does not bite; a dog that does not bark bites." ”
Those who expose their emotions to their faces, although it is difficult to see, but others understand at a glance that there is no need to fortify. On the contrary, those who are good at hiding, have a smile on their faces, smear honey in their mouths, and no one knows where the poison is and when it will be taken out.
Today, I want to teach you some of the art of discernment - people with two sides and three knives, have these 4 qualities, please stay away.
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First, like to set almost, hidden catty.
In ancient times, Zheng Wugong wanted to fight against the Hu kingdom.
In order to deceive others, he married his daughter to the State of Hu and became a monarch.
One day, Zheng Wugong asked the ministers which country they were going to annex if they wanted to expand their territory.
Minister Guan Qisi said that Hu Guo was not strong enough and should be able to crusade.
Zheng Wugong was furious and punished him.
After Hu Guo knew about this, he regarded Zheng Wugong as an "ally", and no matter what happened, he would not doubt it.
Later, Zheng Wugong occupied the State of Hu.
As the saying goes, "Brothers are like brothers and sisters." ”
However, some people can achieve "cannibalism", he just borrows the brotherhood, hides his undercover around the other party, and uses "poison oaths, worship" and other ways to get closer to others.
"Know thyself and know the other, win every battle", such a plan, used by people with two sides and three knives, has become a "set of almost", mastering the thoughts and actions of others, and hurting people with dark arrows.
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Second, the suspicion is very heavy, and it is impossible to push the heart.
In "Han Feizi", a story is recorded.
The walls of the rich man's house were washed away by the heavy rain. The son said that if it is not repaired in time, there may be thieves coming. The next-door neighbor said the same thing.
Sure enough, the rich man's family lost its treasure.
The rich man did not think much about who stole the treasure, but suspected that the neighbor was a thief.
"Kindness is treated as a donkey's liver and lungs", this sentence is not unreasonable.
When you and people with two sides, you should not say good things, nor can you say bad things, especially not "good intentions". Any words will be heard by him as "extraneous sounds".
Romain Rolland said, "Doubt and faith, both are necessary." Doubt can destroy yesterday's faith and open the way for tomorrow's faith. ”
Dare to doubt, is not a bad thing, after all, many truths, after deliberation, will become "crooked reasoning", but also to find the truth; for the people around you, you also need to doubt, reduce the chance of being deceived.
However, doubting good people and not being able to push their hearts with anyone is that the suspicion is too serious.
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Third, settle accounts after the autumn, making people invincible.
During the Zhou Dynasty, there was a minister named Mi Zifeng in the Wei Kingdom, who was highly valued by the monarch.
One day, Yako's mother fell seriously ill and died shortly. He falsely preached the holy will and rode in the carriage of the imperial court in violation of the law to see his mother for the last time.
When the monarch knew about it, he believed that "filial piety comes first" and that the minister's fault was forgivable.
In the orchard, Mikoto gave the half-eaten fruit to the monarch. The monarch believes that this is a "blessing of mouth".
A few years later, Yakoto fell out with the monarch. The monarch said that false preaching of holy wills, breaking the rules, and giving the fruit of saliva to others is really a terrible sin.
Everyone has a mouth, which can be said along the way or upside down, and both sides are "truths".
Any unit, the rules and regulations are not static, if you want to punish a person, you can modify the system, and eventually other people's past behavior, let him be punished; any relationship, can turn the face, once the friendship, can become a "one shot two scattered" reason.
Usually, vicious people will encourage you to go in a certain direction, and when you have walked a certain distance, he will tell you that you have "made a mistake", and the wrong ending needs you to bear.
For example, during the Three Kingdoms period, Yang Xiu surrendered to Cao Cao. Because of his intelligence, he could guess Cao Cao's thoughts and was appreciated, but because he guessed the meaning of "chicken ribs" during the march, he was punished.
If the person who is good to you today is not sincere, or the character is very poor, you must stay away as soon as possible, otherwise he will not be polite to you tomorrow.
As the saying goes, "A companion is like a companion tiger." "With people with two sides and three knives, it is probably such a life, trembling every day. You can't walk away, tomorrow there will be mostly "accidents".
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Fourth, wag your tail and beg for mercy, and overdraft the kindness of others.
For a while, in Zhengzhou, there was a grandmother in her nineties who was praised by the surrounding masses for insisting on setting up a stall to sell vegetable buns.
There are some Internet celebrities, in order to make money, pitifully around grandma, using the excuse of buying vegetable buns, filming the production process and recording grandma's "classic quotes". As they filmed, they shouted, "Old irons, brush up on some gifts." ”
For their own selfish interests, Internet celebrities let the kind grandmother suffer for many days in a row, and had to give up the stall and go home to rest.
There are always some Internet celebrities who win the sympathy of others by "selling misery" and then make money with an ignorant conscience.
Life is hard, but there's no need to make money by overdrawing the kindness of others. No matter how poor you are, you must have backbone.
In real life, if you encounter people who wag their tails and beg for pity, you have to be on guard, maybe they are as vicious as "the wolf that Mr. Dongguo encountered, the wounded snake in the farmer's arms".
When you encounter a person who falls into the water, you must actively save it, because he will be grateful; when you encounter a dog that falls into the water, don't care, after it comes ashore, it will immediately shake its body, making you full of dirty water, and even if you don't say thank you, you will run.
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Conclusion.
The heart of harming others must not be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without.
When interacting with people, be vigilant. You can judge whether a person is reliable by observing whether his words and deeds are consistent, whether he has a previous conviction, whether he can repent after making mistakes, his usual moral qualities, what friends he has around him, and his work performance.
At the same time, for people who still have goodness in their hearts and people who have a sense of guilt, you must tolerate him and guide him to be positive. Only those who are heinous are the real enemies.
May you and I be a person who is consistent in appearance.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.