Text/Old K
2021 is a year of excitement for the entertainment industry.
Yesterday afternoon, Wang Lihong officially announced that he and his wife Li Lianglei ended their marriage relationship.
As a result, at 11 o'clock in the evening, Wang Lihong's ex-wife Li Lianglei published an article that directly exploded on the hot search.
Piao, about P, cheating, using women as fertility tools, counting money, etc.
To tell the truth, although I am not a loyal fan of Wang Lihong, as a post-90s generation, I have always grown up listening to singers such as Jay Chou, Lin Junjie, and Wang Lihong. I remember that there were many of his songs in MP3 before, and he also accompanied me for many days and nights.
Facing such a thing, it also shocked me.
Many loyal fans even shouted: "Blind". Many fans even fell into intolerable, emotional collapse at one point.
The recent increasing number of celebrity scandals that have been made public will have a negative impact on social life and social order and good customs.
Fans, who are admirers or followers of stars, often have a kind of worship, fascination and imitation with stars.
The crisis of social disorder supported by Wang Lihong and other celebrities deserves a warning.
Gaze at the emotional labor and obsession in the perceptual situation, and the fans are intoxicated and do not know where to go.
The "human setting" of the star is just a mask
We see every star in the spotlight is bright and beautiful, but how can someone who is so perfect in reality exist?
You and I are human beings, and celebrities are also human beings, and it is impossible to be absolutely perfect if we are human.
There is a concept in psychology called "false self", which is what we call "mask personality" in common sense.
If a person is easy to be evaluated and criticized no matter what he does, over time this person may need to wear a false mask to the outside world, and in the long run, he will not even know whether the mask personality is himself or the real self.
The "human setting" of the entertainment industry is usually the mask personality of the star, and why the entertainment star pleases the fans to develop their own "personality mask" is what we call the personality. But this is not necessarily what they really look like, the real self is usually hidden under the thick "human design", sometimes even the real self is not allowed by fans, at this time they can only hide deeper and deeper, and even need to self-brainwash themselves to become a mask personality.
But the mask personality is a mask after all, after all, it is not the real self, and whenever they can't do it or encounter setbacks, various problems will arise.
In order not to let yourself collapse, you can only continue to disguise in front of people, but such a split will make many stars overwhelmed, private life disorder, depression defense compensation and other issues are born.
The carnival of fans is a "projection"
Half Moon Talk Magazine once conducted a star-chasing survey of more than two middle school students aged 12-18 across the country, and the results of the survey showed:
42.2% of students have been chasing stars since elementary school, and 52% of students have been chasing stars for up to 3 years.
So why do so many people go crazy to chase the stars? On this question, we still have to see what psychological characteristics most crazy star-chasing people have.
From experience, many so-called "brainless fans" on the Internet will react more strongly after the collapse of human settings, and the characteristics of "brainless powders" are generally relatively young and adolescent students.
Anyone who has studied psychology knows that the characteristic of adolescent personality development is to establish self-identity, and the explanation for self-identity is as follows:
The individual organizes his or her own motivations, abilities, beliefs, and experiences of his or her activities to form a consistent image of the self. It is the individual who tries to unite all aspects of himself or herself to form a whole that he feels is in harmony. These levels include physical appearance, one's past condition, one's current situation, the limitations of the environment and conditions, and one's future outlook.
To put it in layman's terms, teenagers have a need to know who they are and what kind of person they will become.
At this time, idol stars usually set up a person with their own personality characteristics, and at any time in front of the public to show the values, appearance image, personality characteristics and other aspects of this personality, fans will have a sense of identity with this packaged role combined with their own preferences, and then deepen their feelings for the idol.
Many people here may be confused, it seems that not all children are crazy to chase stars, and many adults will also be irrational in chasing stars. What I want to say here is that a person's age and physiological state will change with age, but personality stability and maturity do not necessarily change naturally with age.
There is a phenomenon in psychology that the more immature a person is, the more psychological projections there are.
Therefore, these people often project the ideal outside world onto important objects, and the fans' worship of stars is actually to project their own expectations and the appearance of excellent objects onto them, if the star meets their expectations, it is easier to fall into self-extrication.
What should people who are deeply involved in "artificial collapse syndrome" do?
Of course, there is no "artificial collapse syndrome" in the psychological diagnosis, which is a feature I found according to the current phenomenon.
Such people often fall into self-doubt or even worldview collapse after discovering the collapse of their "love beans" persona, and some serious ones even have depression and anxiety.
So what should I do after encountering this situation?
I think I should first learn to be self-aware and see what the collapse of human design really means to me.
Then we have to examine whether we have projected our own need for perfection into the outside world, to know that no one in this world can have an absolutely perfect human setting, remember that in the early years Jackie Chan said a classic sentence "I have made the mistakes of men all over the world."
Speaking of which, I'm not advocating that it's reasonable for men to make mistakes, I just want to say that you don't fully understand the real appearance of this star after the screen, and many times it's all about your own projection psychology.
Imagine, in the eyes of others, is your person really what you really look like, and who can we really understand another person?
So when this kind of thing happens, you know that people are people after all, whether you chase stars because their skills (singing, acting, dancing, etc.) attract you, or the entire personality of them, if it is the latter, you must be alert, because the appearance that others show you is after all what they want you to see, and no one knows the real appearance.
When you can recognize this, it means that your cognition has reached a certain level of objectivity, your projection is much less, and the "artificial collapse syndrome" is also much less.
Finally, I appreciate that Li Lianglei can tell her many years of painful experience, and the last sentence "10% of life depends on what happens to us, 90% depends on how we deal with it".
It is normal to face all the problems that arise, the key is how we think about it and how we face it will have a decisive impact on the future.
Bless Li Lianglei, and I hope that you and I can live more truly in this world.