"Titanic": "A person can fall in love with many people in a lifetime, and when you get the happiness that truly belongs to you, you will understand that the pain together is actually a kind of wealth, which allows you to learn to better grasp and cherish the people who love you." ”
In our lifetime, we will always meet a few wrong people, and we will always have to suffer several injuries before we can realize how long we have been stupid and naïve. Some of the hurt in the relationship is sometimes given to the other party by the other party, and sometimes it is self-inflicted.
Falling in love with someone, what you experience is the feeling of desperation; missing a person, you know how to cherish the next person.
Before entering the palace of marriage, I hope that you are well thought out and not gambling with anyone. Don't make fun of your own lifetime of happiness because you can't afford to lose.
01, unblessed feelings.
My mother was a college teacher and taught English. Unfortunately, her only daughter, me, did not do well in English at all. My father opened a small company with an annual income of about seven figures. Maybe it's because my father and mother are so good, so I seem to be extraordinary and ordinary.
When I was a child, the most common sentence I heard was, "Look at how good your parents are, you have to learn from them." "The more people around me say this, the more rebellious I become. I don't want to be a frame of reference for anyone, including my parents.
When I was in college, my mother originally asked me to apply for her school, so I didn't do it. I was able to stay away from my parents, how could I give up this great opportunity? So, I applied for a third-rate university in a second-tier city thousands of miles away. My grades have been bad, there is no room for choice, and I am satisfied with having a university to take me in.
I had a relationship in college, and my boyfriend's family was from the countryside. The year I graduated, I took my boyfriend home to meet my parents. After the boyfriend left, both father and mother had a calm face.
The father said, "You are our only daughter, and my only hope for your mother and me is that you can be happy, happy, and happy." But he, we all don't think we can make you happy. The mother also said, "Is his grade not very good?" He couldn't understand my simple English conversations. ”
In fact, my feelings for my boyfriend are average. Now that my parents are opposed, my rebellious character has come up again, "I am married to his person, and what does it have to do with his achievements?" Besides, will we be happy together, that's a matter later, and you will guarantee that you will not look at the wrong person? Do you have the power of an unforeseen prophet? ”
After returning to school from home, I decided to go to his city with my boyfriend to work and live. It wasn't long before we moved in together.
02, uninvited guests.
My father and mother came to me, and I was a little cold to them. Maybe I'm trying to prove something to them, like that the boyfriend I chose is right, like I can mix better than them in the future.
When I found out I was pregnant, I was completely confused. I asked my boyfriend what to do, and he said, "You ask me how do I know?" At that moment, I felt as if my father's words were correct, and it seemed as if this man really couldn't give me happiness. I was pregnant, and he didn't even have the slightest commitment and responsibility.
At this point, my mother suddenly called me, and in the past she would only say things like "Daughter, you come back, my parents are worried that you will suffer over there." This time she said to me, "My precious daughter, I figured it out with your dad that as long as it's your decision, we should all support it." Life is your own, the choice and initiative are in your hands, we will respect you. I hope these words from your parents will not be too late for you. ”
I cried very sadly on the other end of the phone. I choked up and said to my mother, "Mom, I'm pregnant and don't know what to do." The mother said, "Daughter, don't be afraid, your father and I will book a plane ticket right away." ”
After the parents came, they had a good talk with their boyfriend, who said he was willing to marry me and let me have a baby. Although his parents were skeptical of him, mu had become a boat, and Bongzi's marriage was the only choice.
03, wedding seconds into family banquets.
The wedding was held in my hometown. The in-laws have no financial ability, the bride price is only meant to give 10,000 pieces, and the wedding house, wedding car and so on are all from my family. I don't really care about this, my heart has been hesitating, is this man really what I want to marry? Or is it to be angry with my parents, so I have to marry him?
I don't have a clear answer in my heart. Touching the baby in my belly, I am very sure of one thing, I may not love the man very much, but I really love this child.
On the day of our wedding, I met my mother-in-law for the first time, an old lady who looked very shrewd. When I changed my mouth, I obviously called "Mom" very loudly, but my mother-in-law still said that she couldn't hear. I knew she meant it, and the guests were laughing, which made me feel like a joke.
After passing this pass, the mother-in-law said, "In our hometown, the daughter-in-law has to bow three times and nine times when she sees the mother-in-law, come on, daughter-in-law, I am waiting." "I glanced at my boyfriend and saw that he, like everyone else, was making melon eaters.
I think my mother-in-law is deliberately humiliating me, and there is still such a tradition. I stood still for half a day, and my mother suddenly rushed to the stage and said, "Dear family, three prostrations and nine prayers are not impossible, the man's family must always have a decent expression." How much is the change fee you are prepared to give? Is there any three gold? Real estate, jadeite, jewelry, deposits and so on, how much do you bring? I didn't want to say that this wedding was done by our family, and your family didn't have a penny. The bride price is 10,000 yuan, the wedding house and the wedding car are all bought by our family, why don't you talk to everyone about these things? ”
The mother-in-law said, "Your family is willing to do this because they are worried that my son does not want your daughter." Your daughters are pregnant, who else can you marry without marrying my son? ”
The mother sneered, "It is true that my daughter is pregnant, but we are not married to your son." Old lady, go back to your countryside and plant your land, your grandson will follow our family name in the future, and I promise you will never see him in your lifetime. The mother said to her son-in-law again, "Take your mother home, don't be embarrassed here." Boy, auntie bless you with always someone to chase, lonely to grow old. ”
"Also, today's meal, just when I invite all my relatives and friends to dinner." My mother dragged me away. Until then, I had never known about my college professor mother and her little-known "shrew" side.
04, your marriage, should not be angry with anyone.
You can not see the person your parents asked you to marry; the person whose parents do not agree with you to marry must think twice.
Every parent wants their daughter to be happy for a lifetime, they do not have too high requirements for their son-in-law, and great wealth and nobility are no longer the expectations of today's parents for their daughters. Compared with money, happiness and happiness are priceless.
Today's topic
If you were me, would you gamble with your parents?
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