On the Mayday of 1919, the ancient City of Beiping was already full of greenery.
This year, 18-year-old Liang Sicheng and 14-year-old Lin Huiyin, under the arrangement of Liang Qichao, had a lifelong meeting; Liang Qichao and Lin Changmin were originally close friends, and now the marriage of children can be described as close to each other.
Advanced and enlightened thinking also made the two not regard this meeting as a traditional arranged "blind date", but helped the two young people build a bridge of communication and understanding, and the final direction of feelings was dominated by the two young people.
But there is no doubt that such a meeting is incomparably romantic, and the elegant Liang Sicheng has a heartfelt appreciation for Lin Huiyin's elegance and freedom, and Lin Huiyin also has an inexplicable kindness and steadfastness to this gentle talent who is four years older than himself.
As fathers, Liang Qichao and Lin Changmin are naturally also very satisfied: for them, this marriage is the most standard door-to-door pair in terms of talent, knowledge and family status, and it is also a surprise kiss.
Therefore, when Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin's relationship had come to fruition, Liang Qichao was very pleased, and he wrote to his daughter:
"I also love Huiyin, I have treated him as my daughter, a very lovely daughter... The old man's eyesight is very good, and Huiyin will be my second success. ”
But it was this incomparably complete marriage that was strongly opposed by Lin Huiyin's future mother-in-law, Li Huixian.
Li Huixian is the wife of Liang Qicheng Ming media, and she is also a famous lady who was born.
As a talented woman in the late Qing Dynasty, she was familiar with ancient poetry from an early age, wrote a good article, and was proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting.
She was born into a famous family, but also discerning, because she appreciated Liang Qichao's talent, in that conservative era of emphasizing "the words of a matchmaker", she bravely said - "Non-Liang Qichao is not married!" ”
It can be said that her talent and boldness are even worse than Lin Huiyin.
After marrying into the Liang family, Liang Qichao had been wandering for many years because of his failure to participate in the change of law; in the most difficult time, it was Li Huixian who supported the crumbling Liang family, and it was also Li Huixian who gave Liang Qichao important support and help with his superior wisdom.
It is also for this reason that Li Huixian's position in the Liang family can be described as one and the same.
Many times, the hostility between women is often unclear; maybe it is the comparison of talents, perhaps the gap in years, perhaps the strength of the relationship, or maybe there is no reason at all...
In the case of Li Huixian and Lin Huiyin, the two did not have any intersection.
The longest time together was Li Huilan's brief stay in Lin Huiyin's first meeting with Liang Sicheng.
But it was this meeting that became the beginning of Li Huixian's dissatisfaction with Lin Huiyin.
Liang Qichao was satisfied with Lin Huiyin's talent and elegance, but Li Huixian thought that Lin Huiyin was too good at rhetoric; this lively and free communication style seemed to run counter to Li Huilan's much-anticipated "Zhishu Dali".
Since marrying into the Liang family, Li Huixian has taken the teaching of her husband as her responsibility; so in her concept, a woman should stand behind her husband and provide her husband with the help she can, rather than imposing foreign labels such as "alone" and "advanced" for herself in a noisy posture.
The fact is also doomed that such expectations cannot make Lin Huiyin compromise at all.
As the eldest daughter of the Lin family, she knows what kind of woman she wants to become since she was a child; as a talented and talented woman, she cannot kidnap her own value and marriage, as an advanced and independent young woman, she needs to grow up in marriage, rather than let marriage become a siege city for a good life...
Two very different ideological concepts are doomed to irreconcilable contradictions.
Especially after seeing Lin Huiyin's intelligence and chattiness, almost annihilating his son's sense of existence, Li Huixian had the most firm idea: he could never accept Lin Huiyin marrying into the Liang family, nor could he accept that his son Liang Sicheng would henceforth submit to a weak woman!
[Liang Sicheng was hospitalized in a car accident, Lin Hui scrubbed because of him, and his mother-in-law angrily rebuked him after seeing it: Not keeping the way of women]
What really made Li Huixian burst into dissatisfaction was Lin Huiyin's meticulous care for Liang Sicheng.
On May 7, 1923, Liang Sicheng rode a motorcycle bought from the Philippines and took his younger brother Liang Siyong to participate in the "May 7th National Shame Day" parade, when they rode a motorcycle across Chang'an Avenue, they were hit head-on by a speeding Beiyang sedan.
When the motorcycle was overturned, Liang Sicheng was crushed at the bottom, and his younger brother Liang Siyong was thrown out far away; when Liang Siyong got up, he found that his brother Liang Sicheng was unconscious.
After the doctor's diagnosis: Liang Sicheng's right leg is very seriously injured and needs to be in the hospital for at least two months.
After hearing this news, Lin Changmin also rushed to the hospital with his daughter Lin Huiyin.
Even though both parents were with Liang Sicheng, Lin Huiyin had been sad and haggard because of this car accident.
At this time, the two had been in love for a year, in order to take care of the injured Liang Sicheng, Lin Huiyin took leave from school, stayed by Liang Sicheng's bedside every day, fed him, changed his clothes, helped him turn over, enthusiastically talked to him, joked or comforted him, and often read newspapers to Liang Sicheng.
Just as the so-called hardships see the truth, because of this disaster, lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng's feelings have been heating up; at the same time, the two young people have also begun to realize that the original love is not only the romance of the wind and snow, but also the responsibility and responsibility of knowing each other.
The lover was injured, and Lin Huiyin came to take care of it, which was a very normal thing.
But even if this starting point is good, when it comes to Li Huixian, who rejects Lin Huiyin, it has become a fatal thing.
One day, Li Huixian and her husband went to the hospital to visit their son, but they bumped into Lin Huiyin wiping the sweat on his son's back.
This move completely angered Li Huixian, who did not want to see her, and despite the presence of nurses at the scene, she was so angry that she angrily rebuked:
"You're not out of the cabinet yet, men and women are not intimate... The Republic of China advocates openness, but it is not unruly..."
Such harsh and harsh words naturally also stung Lin Huiyin's heart.
In the face of this accusation from her future mother-in-law, Lin Huiyin endured the anger in her heart and hurriedly left the hospital.
But this unspoken act, in Li Huixian's eyes, was even more out of line.
It is also because of this incident that the contradiction between the two people has completely reached the extreme.
The emotions and dissatisfaction that surged underneath only needed an opportunity to ignite; even though Lin Huiyin did not want to have a head-on confrontation with his future mother-in-law, he could not hide from the good drama that fate had arranged long ago.
[Lin Hui's relationship with Xu Zhimo has been hotly discussed, which has completely intensified the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law]
In 1924, the Chinese literary circle ushered in Tagore's visit to China to give a lecture, but this incident also completely intensified the contradiction between Lin Huiyin and Li Huixian.
A more accurate description should be: Li Huixian completely lost the favor of his daughter-in-law Lin Huiyin.
In May of that year, invited by famous figures such as Liang Qichao and Lin Changmin, the Indian poet Tagore, who had just won the Nobel Prize in Literature, went to China to give a lecture.
As a proud disciple of Liang Qichao, Xu Zhimo naturally undertook Tagore's personal translation work, and the elegant and talented woman Lin Huiyin was responsible for arranging Tagore's speech schedule and other matters.
This will inevitably lead to: Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin are almost left and right, inseparable all day.
The frequent contact for several days, in addition to making Xu Zhimo feel the presence of love again, also let the eyes of the world re-focus on this incomparably matched talented beauty, so that the beautiful Kangqiao past also began to circulate everywhere.
For Li Huixian, who did not want to see Lin Huiyin, such gossip made her unable to accept it, even if Kangqiao's past was mostly Xu Zhimo's wishful thinking, but this also made her unacceptable.
The most inflamed thing is the birthday party held by the Beijing cultural circles for Tagore.
In this event, the crowd prepared tagore's drama "Zidra" for performance, and Lin Huiyin and Xu Zhimo happened to play a couple with deep feelings on the stage, because the plot was too moving, and the audience was also impressed and shed tears for their acting skills.
The endless admiration made Li Huixian listen particularly harshly.
She could not accept that the Liang family had ushered in such a daughter-in-law who "did not keep the way of women", and she could not accept that the so-called independence and career pursued by Lin Huiyin were based on the completion of her son Liang Sicheng's "loss of dignity".
Even if her husband Liang Qichao carefully persuaded him to make peace, the stubborn Li Huilan still stuck to his bottom line.
In order to cut off the thoughts of her son and husband, she even threw out such a sentence that people did not dare to refute:
"Let her into our Liang family, unless I die!"
But it is this resolute obstruction that also brings a sense of sadness.
Later, under the pressure of his wife Li Huixian, Liang Qichao could only try his best to postpone the marriage; in order to ensure the stability of Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin's relationship, he arranged for the two to study in the United States and hold a wedding when the time was ripe.
He wanted to use time to resolve these thorny contradictions, but he did not expect that the way time was solved has always been blunt and cruel.
In 1928, Li Huixian, who was not in good health, eventually died of cancer.
The departure of his wife gave Liang Qichao a painful blow, but it also made the marriage peak that was in a dead end turn around.
Without strong intervention, Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin, the couple, finally stepped into the palace of marriage.
An elegant and gentle Talented Daughter of the Republic of China, a Polite and Introverted Architectural Talent, the combination of the two sensationalized the entire Republic of China; since then, the two beauties, because of the same career aspirations, know each other and cherish each other in a plain as water marriage, and finally deduce a most romantic Republic of China story.
【Words at the end】
Looking back at Lin Huiyin's twisted relationship with Li Huixian, there are also some unspeakable fears.
Black and white are always too absolute to judge who is right and who is wrong.
For Lin Huiyin: she receives a Western-style education and advocates equality between men and women in the West; whether it is marriage or choosing friends, she hopes that women can have the rights of men; especially in marriage, those traditional concepts of husband and son are heavy shackles for her and the absurdity of the old era.
But for Li Huixian: she was also born into a famous family, but the environment in which she grew up was in the late Qing Dynasty, where the feudal atmosphere was strong; although she was talented, even though she was intelligent and decisive, the deep-rooted educational concept and the constraints of the three from the four virtues also brought her invisible shackles, that is, to take the husband and godson as her responsibility and take care of housework as the foundation.
The two women, who are also legends, both adhere to the responsibilities entrusted to them by the times; only because of the differences in the times, they have created huge differences in ideas and concepts; and because both of them are decisive and free personalities, they are stubbornly guarding their beliefs and living in the wonderful world they believe, so that no one will give in and submit to defeat.
Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been difficult to break and difficult to discuss, but it is often the root cause of contradictions that is often a conceptual gap created by the times.
Many times, it is our unwillingness to face and solve, and eventually let the contradictions grow freely like vines, becoming obstacles that overwhelm family affection and marriage, leaving a place for trivial marriages.
If you can take two steps back and give each other enough respect in the way of "not crossing the thunder pool", you will be able to exchange for true harmony!
Did Liang Sicheng ever love his second wife, Lin Su? The dying confession is true love, which also makes 10 years of staying together even more absurd
Author: Chu Shi
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