Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they are bound together entirely because of a man, of course, this is also a kind of fate. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along happily, they will really be as close as mother and daughter, and they will feel very happy with each other. But if you don't get along well, you may not be as good as ordinary people, or even like enemies.
Getting along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also a skill, not just a good heart. Most of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will have friction more or less, but the ugliness of the family cannot be publicized, and everyone does not say it to the outside world.
It is precisely because it is easy to have contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is called a problem throughout the ages. There are many reasons why it is easy to have contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the most important two people are not together because you like me, I like you, it is completely passive together, naturally easy to have contradictions.
When many girls first married into their in-laws' families, they were full of hope and wanted to be a good daughter-in-law. As a result, I got along with my mother-in-law, but I found that I was completely wishful thinking, too young and too naïve.
The mother-in-law has rich experience in life, plus she was originally the hostess of this family, so for the daughter-in-law, she has an absolute advantage. Some mothers-in-law are not accustomed to their daughter-in-law, or cannot accept the transfer of their son's love to their daughter-in-law, and their psychology is unbalanced, so they find trouble with their daughter-in-law, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law arises.
In fact, the best way to get along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to maintain a certain distance, and don't be too fanciful about the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can really be as close as mother and daughter. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who are as close as mother and daughter do exist, but after all, they are a minority, and it may not necessarily be your turn. There is a word called "far away and near smell", keep a distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, rare to meet, just polite.
The daughter-in-law treated her mother-in-law as a mother-in-law, and the result was very disappointed
Before Xinyue got married, she always listened to colleagues say all kinds of bad things about her mother-in-law and complained that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was difficult to get along with. At that time, Xinyue felt that colleagues also had problems themselves, and they always said bad things about their mother-in-law, could the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be good? After she got married, she would never say bad things about her mother-in-law like her colleagues, and she would have to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Later, Xinyue fell in love, she followed her boyfriend to meet her future in-laws, felt that her mother-in-law was very good, spoke very kindly, and she believed that she would be able to get along well with her mother-in-law. Therefore, after getting married, Xinyue lived with her in-laws, and her mother-in-law was reluctant to be separated from her son.
Xinyue strives to have a good relationship with her mother-in-law, often sends things to her mother-in-law, helps her mother-in-law to do housework, etc. The mother-in-law was also good to her on the surface, and she could do whatever she wanted, but Xinyue always felt as if she was separated by something, and she couldn't say clearly what was separated.
Xinyue is to sincerely bring out a heart to treat the mother-in-law, but the mother-in-law does not seem to be like this. Between Xinyue and her husband, the mother-in-law is obviously biased towards her son, there are delicious things, etc., always give to the son first, the son does not want, she will give to the daughter-in-law.
Xinyue comforted herself, people are mother and son, mother-in-law is partial to her son, this is also deserved, she can not be too calculating.
One day, Xinyue came back from work and met two aunts in the community. These two aunts are friends of the mother-in-law, Xinyue wants to go over and say hello to them, the two aunts are chatting, did not see Xinyue come over.
When Xinyue approached, she heard them talking about her. One of them said that the current daughter-in-law is very lazy, and the daughter-in-law of my family does not do any housework. Last time Liu Cui said that her daughter-in-law also had this virtue, and occasionally pretended to help her mop the ground or dry her clothes.
Another said that Liu Cui said that her daughter-in-law was still very hungry, and she had to eat everything well, and she refused to do it herself. Every time she talked about her daughter-in-law, Liu Cui always sighed. In fact, the daughter-in-law of my family is similar to the daughter-in-law of both of you, and the current daughter-in-law is very selfish...
The Liu Cui they said was the mother-in-law who was happy with her heart. Xinyue originally wanted to greet them, but after hearing these words, she did not say hello and turned away. After returning home, xinyue became more and more depressed the more she thought about it, she never went out to say bad things about her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law ruined her reputation outside.
Xinyue was very depressed, and when her husband asked her to take her clothes, she said in a bad voice: "You can't take it yourself, you don't have a long hand?" ”
The husband saw that Xinyue seemed to be in a bad mood, so he didn't say anything more and prepared to take it himself. At this time, the mother-in-law came in with the clothes that her son wanted, and said to Xinyue in a bad voice: "I am angry outside, go home and take my husband out, this is not OKAY!" My son has never been angry. ”
The mother-in-law said and glared at her heart sternly. If it had been in the past, Xinyue would have tried to convince herself not to bother with her mother-in-law. But today she was really upset in her heart, although she did not quarrel with her mother-in-law, but in her heart began to reposition the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Since then, Xinyue has gradually distanced herself from her mother-in-law in her heart, and she has finally experienced the feelings of her colleagues before marriage. People's hearts are separated from their stomachs, and the mother-in-law is a mother-in-law, not a mother-in-law. If you have to treat your mother-in-law as your mother-in-law, if your mother-in-law doesn't think so, then your daughter-in-law will only be disappointed.
Later, Xinyue and her husband moved out to live alone, and she was afraid that if she lived with her mother-in-law for a long time, she would have a mother-in-law war like others. When you are still polite and polite, then continue to maintain a polite state, if you quarrel and then separate, it is not good.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should maintain appropriate distance
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should maintain an appropriate distance and not get too close, otherwise it is easy to expose their shortcomings and make the other party feel dissatisfied. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not satisfied with each other, it is easy to have contradictions, and once there is a contradiction, there will be quarrels.
The quarrel between mother and daughter will pass after the quarrel, but if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, they will remember each other. As long as there is a quarrel between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, there will be knots in the hearts of both parties, and the relationship will not be harmonious.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can not go too far, after all, it is a family, to help and take care of each other. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law go too far, they can't take care of each other, and they have no feelings, what is the difference between this and outsiders? Between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, there is a man who loves together, so the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have no way to do anything.
Distance will cause beauty, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to maintain a proper distance, that rare meeting will be a lot more polite. Even if there is dissatisfaction with the other party, because the contact time is less, it will pass if you put up with each other, and you will not be too calculated.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not expect too much from each other
There is a saying that the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment. If you expect a lot from someone and they don't live up to your expectations, then you're particularly disappointed.
The same is true between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you have great expectations of your mother-in-law, thinking that you can treat her as a mother. But in fact, there is a difference between the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law, and you can say whatever you want to say to the mother-in-law. But you do the same to your mother-in-law, even if the mother-in-law says on the surface that she does not care, there will still be mustard in her heart.
Mother-in-law should not expect too much from her daughter-in-law, and daughter-in-law is not the same as her daughter. After all, you have not had a daughter-in-law, you can't ask too much of your daughter-in-law, and everyone must learn to think differently. The mother-in-law is the elder, can not be too calculating with the younger, only the loving, tolerant and kind mother-in-law will be more liked by the daughter-in-law.
Therefore, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not expect too much from each other, keep a normal heart, and do whatever they want. Expectations are not too high, there will be no disappointment, there will be no big gap in psychology, and it is easier to accept each other tolerantly.
In short, the family and everything is prosperous, for the harmony and unity of the family, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must get along well. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, it will also have a promoting effect on the marriage relationship, and the whole family will be more harmonious and happy!
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