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Privately, the key point of the Bill Gates divorce is not "how to divide the 130 billion assets", nor is it in Gates's sentence "We no longer believe that we can grow together as a couple in the next stage of life".
The point is, the divorce was proposed by Melinda!
According to the "Gates' divorce documents" published by the US gossip website TMZ, Melinda filed for divorce on the grounds that "the breakdown of the marriage cannot be recovered" and the couple had been separated for a period of time.
As we all know, for such a big capitalist as Melinda and Gates, the divorce is certainly not because of money; secondly, such a pair of world-renowned public figures decided to divorce, and the relationship between the two must have reached the point where they didn't even want to pretend, and they should really have no feelings.
Melinda, who doesn't want to be in a marriage without feelings and love, how cool!
Just like the heroine Mary in "The First Day of the Rest of My Life", one day when she was over forty years old, she suddenly woke up, resolutely threw away her husband and marriage that she had tired of for so long, and embarked on a journey alone to travel around the world and live the kind of life that she controlled.
Melinda, 56, is also fully capable of being herself, rather than just being the wife of the world's richest man.
On Valentine's Day last year, Gates also posted sweet photos of melinda walking around the fruit market with the caption: "I can't find a better partner in this life."
This year Melinda filed for divorce.
What does this mean?
The relationship and feelings of the two in the marriage have been out of balance.
If you want to know how people and people are scattered, time has its own answers.
In 1987, at the age of 23, Melinda joined Microsoft as a product manager. At the dinner, Gates fell in love with the Kochi female elite Melinda at first sight.
In 1994, 38-year-old Gates and 29-year-old Melinda were married on lanai island, Hawaii, and the two had the same view, similar interests, complementary personalities, and were the right people for each other. Then, in order to concentrate on raising 3 children and taking care of the family, Melinda quit Microsoft after marriage and became a housewife.
In 2000, Gates was forced to resign as CEO of Microsoft, and during his low ebb, Melinda pulled him along, and she renamed the charity foundation named after Gates "Melinda Gates Foundation", and the couple worked together on philanthropy.
Since then, the couple has become the best partners, as Gates said, "Now I have Melinda as a fully equal partner, and we work together to meet the challenges to achieve our goals." ”
Such a qinser and song, but after a few years, gradually cracked:
On August 15, 2019, Gates shared photos of the two embracing each other to celebrate Melinda's birthday and call her her favorite person.
However, in an interview celebrating her 25th wedding anniversary in the same year, Melinda said the key to maintaining their marital relationship was "patience."
Isn't it strange that a couple can have such a disparity in marital feelings?
About, Gates said "she was the favorite person" because she gave him unconditional support and inclusion, while what she said "it takes patience to maintain a marriage" is that she has been silently giving and compromising.
A healthy marriage is about balance, not one-sided sacrifice.
In her book, Melinda wrote about her anxieties and worries when she first became a housewife:
"I'm no longer a business executive, I'm a mom of a young child, the wife of a busy man.
I moved into a huge mansion, but I was worried about what people would think of me because the mansion wasn't mine. I want to try to catch up with my husband and keep our relationships on an equal footing. ”
Being a housewife is not an easy task, and being the housewife behind the world's richest man is even more difficult.
In the book, she euphemistically complains that Gates "needs a little training."
Because, once Melinda made a lot of preparations to take her three children out, just when she was in urgent need of Gates's help, he indulged in a book related to Churchill and ignored the hard work of Melinda.
She also mentioned that the two had "quarreled to the point of almost killing each other" when writing their annual open letter for the foundation. Because Gates always wanted to write by himself, and did not consider Melinda's ideas, the two had to write parts separately.
Seeing this, most people's thoughts are: twenty-seven years of old husband and wife, more than half a hundred years old, can you still leave?
After all, too many people around us are living a makeshift life: doing a less satisfying job, casually settling lunch every day, buying discounted merchandise that you don't like so much, and spending your life with the wrong people.
Sometimes the idea of "can't go on like this anyway" comes up, but I'm not sure if it's better to live a different life, so I continue to settle for the status quo.
Remember the 57-year-old self-driving aunt who was all over the Internet?
57-year-old Su Min, who has lived in Zhengzhou for many years, suddenly found that she has been busy for her family all her life, raising her daughter and taking care of her grandchildren, her husband has been with her in the AA system, but he does not bear the housework at all, there is little communication between husband and wife, and it is not like "family".
She planned for a year, driving the hatchback she had saved up for last fall, without saying goodbye to anyone, and driving around the country in a dashing car.
She said to the camera: "I just want to wake up those Chinese women like me, to go their own way, to live for themselves once." ”
57-year-old Su Min is still like this, 56-year-old Melinda is not?
Today's life cannot please me, so I have created another life with my own hands.
My favorite actress, Meryl Streep, once said this when she was a flower armour:
"I don't have patience for things anymore, not because I've become arrogant, but just because I've reached this point in my life – I don't want to waste a little more time on things that make me unhappy or hurt. I lost the motivation to do these few things: please people who don't like me, love people who don't love me, smile at people who don't smile at me.
I decided not to live with mannerisms, hypocrisy, dishonesty, and cheap praise. The bottom line is that I won't have patience with people who don't deserve my patience."
Whether Gates is the one who doesn't deserve Melinda's patience anymore, we don't know, we just know that Melinda has made a decision.
A truly excellent woman should have this kind of transparency and open-mindedness of "I want to be myself, no need to rely on anyone's light" at a certain age, which is the wisdom and confidence tempered by years and experience.
Like Melinda, she knew that "Bill Gates' wife" was not her medal, and that only her own control of her life was most worth living.
Marriage, man, children, and age can't trap the woman with a strong sense of self, even in the near-blooming situation, she can still take a step calmly.
Now 56-year-old Melinda, not confused, not trapped in love, not afraid of the future, not thinking about the past, decided to throw away the marriage that bored her and the husband who made her lose patience, and began the "first day of the rest of her life".
Just thinking about it, it's cool!