On January 20, Lanzhou, Gansu, some netizens posted a video about marriage, watching the people in the video, it should be the wedding of some Hui people, many people on the scene wore white hats, the bride wore dragon and phoenix dresses, and reached out to receive the gift money in front of each guest, but they could not see the happy expression on the bride's face.
In the face of this situation, netizens have different opinions. Some netizens believe that the wedding banquet, the original intention is to accept everyone's blessings, and share this happiness and joy to everyone, too much emphasis on the gift, but lost the original meaning of the wedding banquet, and even became "dead to money", so that the wedding banquet completely changed its taste.
On the surface, it seems to make sense. However, objectively speaking, this is a bit of standing and talking without waist pain, after all, no one's money is blown by the wind. After all, the exchange of courtesies should be harmonious.
Marriage is a big deal, we don't have to compare on the gift money, and we don't have to care about how much the gift money is. However, we should also adhere to the excellent etiquette culture of "courtesy exchange" and "light etiquette and heavy return", the ancients said, etiquette exchange.
Here "Shang" is the meaning of advocating, etiquette, etiquette, courtesy, gift money, pay attention to you and me, this is also one of China's excellent traditional culture, long-standing, thick people before the friendship, after all, friendship always has to have a certain material as a carrier of sustenance, which and money flattery, power corruption has nothing to do with.
How to go with the money is also a problem for us.
Every year the holidays annoy me very much, and as I get older, I can drink more and more happy wine.
Some people take three days off and need to go to four weddings. More and more money is also gained, and more than a few friends get married in a month, and the salary is gone. This is a difficult point for many people in the workplace to socialize, and when we have to give money, we would rather have fewer friends.
Therefore, the fact that colleagues marry us and give us money belongs to the big part of interpersonal relations in the workplace. From the matter of marriage to give money to the share, we can see a person's interpersonal point of view, so we must properly handle the matter of marriage with the part.
The customs of each place are different in terms of share money, some places have a lot of money, and some places have less money. According to local customs, we should think about how much money we should give for our share.
In addition, the other party has no personal contact with you, first of all, whether this colleague or friend usually has personal contact with you. As the saying goes: "Share the money can be forgotten, and the debt of human affection must be repaid." "If you and the other party have had a human relationship, then you must pay off this human debt."
How others give you a share of the money, no matter how much or how little, at least you should not show unhappiness in person, which is disrespectful to your friends.
In addition, there is also a way to get married and want to collect more money, and the specific days are also very exquisite. The first promotion of Labor Day, National Day marriage, the temperature is suitable, people are good, and the share of money is easy to collect. But be sure to give advance notice to avoid friends who can't attend your wedding.
Generally, there are two choices for marriage, your parents' home and his parents' home.
My advice is not to be emotional, speak with strength, which is convenient to do in which one, in order to collect more money. For example, Beijing and Shanghai are definitely more suitable than a certain village, and you don't know where it is.
Finally, the key point is that a person is willing to come to your wedding to pay a share of the money, in addition to the right time and place, what is the most important thing? Of course, your feelings are deep enough, and your wedding is tempting enough! So you have to connect more people with you and expand the number of wedding candidates.
From the beginning of preparing to get married, you must go to make friends, make great friends, and never let go of anyone who is likely to come to the wedding scene. In addition, while making friends, we must also pay attention to improving the stickiness of friends to ensure that everyone is yearning for the wedding of your couple.
Just imagine, when friends accompany you through the trough and reach the peak, witnessing the ups and downs along the way, it is not only a grand ceremony of your love, but also the realization of their dreams! Then they will definitely give their share of the money, and they are especially happy that you are married!
In fact, people-to-people exchanges focus on the word human feelings, especially in rural society, the relationship between relatives and friends is more complicated, once a certain link is not handled properly, it is easy to be "chewed on the root of the tongue" by others!
Therefore, in order to maintain a good relationship with others, human expenses are also indispensable. If the once pursuit of "no in and out" is not only contrary to the customs of thousands of years, but also the relationship with relatives and friends may gradually become estranged in the end.
Of course, for the problem of excessive expenditure on human feelings, we also support that as farmers themselves can make some changes, whether farmers or ordinary people, they can not hold banquets and do not engage in malicious comparisons, which is advocated by changing customs and customs.
Therefore, for traditional customs, we must do a good inheritance, such as human relations and other indispensable factors should be maintained, but also to eliminate the dross and bad places, such as high share of money, the practice of feasting, etc., as far as possible to let the good tradition be inherited.
People say, is this the truth?
The topic of this article: Whose money is not blown by the wind, do you think that the gift is still exchanged, if the bride who receives the gift is not happy, it is necessary to give? Feel free to leave a message to share your opinion.
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