When old lovers meet, they either hate strangers, or look at ten thousand years, and the old feelings are rekindled, and the people who have loved once met again are always different from the relationship of ordinary people.
This relationship is very difficult to deal with, some people say: remember to eat and do not remember to fight, although the previous love was very painful, but as soon as he appeared, my heart melted again, as soon as he summoned me, my soul was stolen by him, I was too painful, what can I do? What do I do, in the face of old lovers, so that I can not rekindle old feelings?
Some people said: I have been separated from him for two years, I have a hard time calming down, he suddenly contacted me again, he begged me, he explained to me what happened before, I think what he said is very reasonable, all my previous resentment against him, instantly disappeared, I was red circles, crying like a wronged child, in an instant we turned into a jade, he stretched out his arms to me, gave me a little tenderness, I threw myself into his arms again, I still loved him, I surrendered again, we rekindled old feelings, I felt, I die, I can't get out of his feelings anymore.
Some people say: In the face of the old lover, I am experiencing one emotional cycle after another, I have fallen into the painful mud of emotion again and again, I can't extricate myself, after we rekindle our old feelings, we can neither love each other happily, nor can I completely break off contact, my feelings are too sadistic, I really don't know what to do.
Some people say: I think he is my doom, anyway, I can't escape, I don't want to escape, anyway, I am in pain, I will suffer for a lifetime, I really can't get out.
In the face of love, how many people are struggling in pain? In the face of old lovers, what should be done to stop the recurrence of old feelings?
Next, share a woman's experience, and then through her story, summarize the dry goods and methods, share it with you, and help you get out of the sadistic emotions.
I had a very good relationship with him, at that time, we used to love each other deeply, but that past was very short, because we were too young, we would not deal with emotional things, I myself was also a person who loved to suppress myself, my self-esteem was too strong, and my feelings for him would not take the initiative to pursue, so our love did not blossom, did not bear fruit, and finally did not come together, and it was over.
There is a kind of breakup, not because it is inappropriate to separate, not because it is not loved, so after we separated, he has been hidden in my heart.
It is precisely because of this that there is a person in the heart who cannot be put down, and the feelings are like a candle, which has not burned out, so there will be a chance to rekindle old feelings.
He came, he had a greeting, a hug, a little warmth, and even without these gifts from him, I would have taken the initiative to give hugs. Feelings that are not dead, as long as they meet again, will surely rekindle 100% of the old feelings.
The emotions after the compound, just like making a TV series, the second one has begun to be released again, but everyone also knows that the beautiful film, once the sequel is made, generally can no longer reach the effect of the first part, and even, the second sequel is often filmed very badly, one is because it is no longer the previous actor, the second is that the storyline is a bit bad, no matter how to remake, it can not find the previous beauty.
I knew this truth too late, originally after the previous breakup, he was particularly perfect in my heart, but after the rekindling of the relationship, we destroyed all the beauty of the past, we constantly struggled, but also constantly quarreled, I knew his shortcomings, he also hated my shortcomings, and after another love-hate vendetta, we were separated again.
After the second breakup, it was like I had a serious illness, and it took a lot of effort to heal my heart. Seriously, I'm especially afraid that I'll have a resurgence of my old love affair with him again.
Later, I asked myself if I would ever give a hug once again if he appeared in my world again, and I found that through all my past experiences, my answer was that I would never rekindle my old feelings with him again.
Because between me and him, there can be no more future, there is no more happiness, thanks to the help of sister Xin'an to me, she guided me, thought about the following 3 questions, let me completely let go of him:
1, I have my self-esteem, I can not take the initiative to ask him to love me:
I used to love very humblely, and after two breakups, I couldn't possibly not have face, I couldn't suppress my self-esteem anymore.
I was even less likely to explain anything to him, and although I confessed that we still had feelings, my self-esteem prevented me from asking him and loving him.
2) If he apologizes and he explains the past to me, can I still accept him?
I couldn't, because I was too tired, I was facing feelings with him, I was like an old, old, dying old woman, I had no physical strength, no energy, no ability to love him.
I remember the pain of the past, I remember my previous efforts, I don't like "love", I want to live a peaceful life, so even if he says he loves me again, begs me, and pesters me with a dead face, I don't want to accept him anymore.
3, in the face of feelings, I like to put it in my heart, I think this is better, no one hurts anyone:
If there is still a little affection, it does not necessarily have to be contacted, I feel that I think about it in my heart, so that no one can hurt anyone, I feel better, so I don't want to have any contact with him anymore.
Through these three questions, she understood thoroughly and clearly how she should place her feelings with him, and she also completely dealt with her old love affair with him.
She said that since they were no longer in touch, she had adapted to the breakup, and her mood was no longer painful, after all, they were divided and combined, her tears dried up, she said she could not toss up, so she said that her feelings have been completely put down since then.
Through her story, through her experience, do you also ask yourself these three questions: Are you still willing to love someone humbly? He came to beg you, will you still give you a hug? Are you tired of abuse?
After you answer these three questions, you face your old lover, will you still rekindle your old feelings?
As long as you realize love, you will no longer suffer the pain of the rekindling of old feelings.
Understanding is too important, when you are sad, you can carefully understand the love you love.