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I met Xiaoqin in a study class, Xiaoqin is a military sister-in-law, and her husband is from the army. Her husband has a good relationship with her, chatting and exchanging phone calls every day, and her husband's salary is almost all handed over, because there is food, drink and clothes in the army.
But the only bad thing is her husband, because the army is far from home, and she can only go home twice a month, and she can only stay at home for a few days at a time.
The two of them already have a son, and the son is 6 years old, and during this time her husband has been doing ideological work for her, wanting her to have a second child, but Xiaoqin is very hesitant.
Because her husband has been in the army for a long time, the children in the family can only be brought by herself, so she feels that it is not an easy task to take the children.
She sighed with us: "People with children are generally reluctant to have a second child, and if they don't have a child, they desperately give birth to a second child." ”
Online saw a 985 graduated 31-year-old mother, already has a 4-year-old girl, but now do not want to have a second child, this mother summed up the reasons why she did not want to have a second child and a third child, very realistic, but also very heartfelt.
Why are today's young people reluctant to have two or three children? It has to do with "widowed parenting" and work stress
★ From the moment of pregnancy, the child defaults to the mother
When pregnant, the fetus is in the mother's belly, and the mother's joys and sorrows will affect the health of the fetus, and the mother must also shoulder the heavy responsibility of ensuring the health of the fetus.
After the child is born, the mother needs to breastfeed the child to promote the healthy growth of the child.
After quitting breastfeeding, mothers should also tell stories to their children, read picture books, and cultivate their children's healthy growth.
In this process, many families are basically "male outside, female inside", dad is responsible for making money outside to support the family, and mom is responsible for having children at home.
Many women now also go out to work on their own, but the burden of educating children will still be mostly on women.
Recently, Gu Ailing was caught in flames, and we found that behind the medal harvester of Gu Ailing is the companionship and dedication of her mother!
And when we go out, most of the people we see playing with our children are also mothers.
★ High pressure to work
In today's companies, women are used by men, and men are used as livestock, which is the norm.
During this time, a hot search hanging on the hot search list was delayed, that is, an auditor of a large company, because the intensity of the work was too large, resulting in sudden death.
In fact, the work pressure of women in many positions is also extremely high.
★ Women also need to have their own space
Now that women's consciousness has begun to awaken, girls in addition to being trapped at home, they will also compete with men in the workplace, and even many women's ability to work is not worse than that of men, and they can also shine in the workplace.
And the more children there are, the more they will take up the mother's time, work and family balance, which is not very realistic.
Therefore, mothers do not want to have a second child and a third child is to have more time to pounce on their careers, so that they can make their careers more fulfilling.
In addition to her achievements at work, my mother also hopes to have a little of her own leisure time when she is free.
If there is only one child, then after the child goes to kindergarten or primary school, the child's mother can still have a little time of her own, you can watch movies, accompany girlfriends, chat or go shopping, brush short videos.
But if there are two or even three children, then the mother's free time will be squeezed out and there will be no space for herself.
Therefore, the country is to let go of the second child and the third child, but if the mother is willing to give birth, the most important thing is to let the father take on the heavy responsibility of child-rearing.
If the mother is pregnant, the father can accompany the mother to go to the maternity examination every time, after the birth of the child, the father coaxes the child to sleep, makes supplementary food for the child, takes the child out to play, so that the mother just does not have to bear too much in addition to the breastfeeding, I believe that many mothers are also willing to have two children and three children, what do you think?
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