In today's society, it is not uncommon for fathers to be like outsiders to "widowed parenting". Many mothers are faced with the situation of having children alone and raising children alone, not only working outside the home, but also need to take care of their children's diet and living after work, which makes many mothers feel physically and mentally exhausted.
("Widowed parenting" refers to the significant absence of one party in family education.) For example, one of the parents is out for a long time, or the parents are around the child, but lack the emotional support of one of them (such as leaving early and returning late, it is difficult for the children to meet, no language communication, etc.).
Last year, a young couple in Shijiazhuang was diagnosed. A woman, aged 26, is already a mother of a child. According to the trajectory of the flow, in the 20 days before the diagnosis, her itinerary trajectory was roughly: taking the child to see a doctor, going to the nursery, buying vegetables, buying fruit, buying steamed buns, repairing mobile phones, and shopping in the supermarket. Even after the community was closed, it was still buying daily necessities across the guardrail.
Her life is all trivial daily life, and the father of the child goes to the Internet café and stay at home at two o'clock.
This mother is like a top, turning around and busy living a day's life, behind this busyness, but missing the trace of her husband. Many people feel sad for this mother. And this family life model is more than this couple.
In a 2019 survey, 75% of mothers spend more than 8 hours a day with their children, not less intense than going to work, while more than half of dads spend only 1-4 hours a day with their children.
The child should have been raised and educated by both husband and wife, but due to the absence of the father, the mother had to take the baby alone, and she could only face anything alone. This is not only a pain for the mother, but also has an impact on the child's growth.
Boys who grow up under "widowed parenting" do not get the attention and love of their fathers for a long time, and are prone to become sensitive and inferior, and do not like to communicate with others. For children, the father is a role model for the child's life, every word and deed will affect the child, if the child is with the mother for a long time, the personality will also lack masculinity.
For a daughter, a father means a source of security. In the company and care of the father, the daughter will become more confident and cheerful. If the lack of father's involvement in growth will lead to the possibility of problems such as early love due to lack of love.
Fathers are indispensable to the growth of children. The healthy growth of a child requires the joint participation of parents. "Widowed parenting" is a deformity of education, an incorrect existence. Here it is also recommended that fathers accompany their children more, do not let you be missing in the child's childhood, and do not dump the child to the mother, evading the responsibility of educating the child.
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