At the beginning of the article, I will first take a look at the background data I wrote about children: please combine the title of each article.
Isn't it a bit confusing? I was also surprised: but when it comes to children, the audience is mostly female friends, and I can't help but ask, where did Dad go?
I think this is the social reality, to use a new word: widowed parenting. Here's what a few moms have to say:
A Mom: My child is in kindergarten, and I am currently picking up and dropping off. The child's father knows how to play games, as soon as he enters the house, he runs to the study, and he knows that he is afraid of noisy us, bought an old expensive headset to wear, I don't know what is good about the computer game, and many times I can't even eat. Let him see the child, it is pure nonsense: last week I had something to let him pick up the child from school, and half an hour after the end of school, the teacher called me: Why don't you come to pick up the child? Hurry up and call him, this big brother also said that I was at the school gate, waiting for a long time, just did not see our son. I asked him which school he was in and he said it was in xx kindergarten. If I were to go to him, I would have given him a slap in the face: I was transferred to another private kindergarten last semester. I've argued and fought, and now I'm too lazy to get angry with him, so let's just raise two sons.
Mother B: My husband just goes out to socialize every day, and basically he can have a meal at home on Monday every week. The child grew so big, he did not accompany the child for a few days. It's hard to be at home, let him take the child to learn to punch the clock, either stomach pain or head pain, with him can not get on the fire. The most infuriating thing is the last time, I took my children to the supermarket to buy vegetables, came back after buying them, and I wanted to cook for the first time, and showed me: let you taste the art of Chef Ben. Thanks to the child remembering my phone, the supermarket called me to pick up the child. I really have a murderous heart!
Mother C: My husband travels for many years, and the time spent at home in a year adds up to about 2 months. When the child was born, it was rare, and I had to watch it on video every day. The child from being able to turn over to being able to climb, talking, walking and running, he missed all of them, and he was proud: my child is smart, learning everything fast, not at all effortless. God knows how much I have suffered. At one point, the child saw him called Uncle, and I really felt quite relieved. Now that the child is older, I am still more relaxed, anyway, I dare not have a second child. By the way, do you know when I was most devastated? That time an old lady upstairs had to introduce me to the object: I see that you are very hard to bring a child alone, I have a nephew here, who has just been divorced, the person is particularly good, the family conditions are good, or I let him come to you to see? I was really crying and laughing: Big Mom, I have a husband. I have no confidence in saying this myself. "Huh? How come I've never seen it before, working abroad? ”。 Alas, it is really better not to have this husband, and to save the angry on fire.
Dads, is this a microcosm of us? How engaged are we as children grow? There are a few people who can say: Children are very close to me, because I put the most energy into children. In most families, mothers bear all the burden of their children.
If you feel like you're doing a good job, then please answer the following questions:
1. How many grades does your child attend? Who is the homeroom teacher?
2. Are you in the parent group at your child's school?
3. What is the size of your child's clothes and shoes?
4. If your child has a problem at home and needs help, is it you who is the first person to shout?
Mistakes should be admitted, and beaten should be well stood. Dads, don't continue to miss the growth of your children, because there is not much time to miss: since high school, basically you have no longer been able to be so close to him, to college, not even the opportunity to meet, when he gets married and has children, you want to meet again, I am afraid you have to make an appointment.
Dads, push away some unnecessary social bar, the wine in the hotel and the songs in the KTV, are not as real and warm as the wife and children hot kangtou. Return to the family, refuse to be a decoration in the family, and truly become a partner and guide on the road to children's growth.