Taking care of one child is exhausting, and raising 2 children makes many parents feel exhausted.
But there is such a woman, 10 years to give birth to 6 children, and each child is listening, how did she do it?
In the variety show "Who Comes to Dinner", Guo Shiwei and Xu Hongxun, who live in Taipei, their children are raised by themselves, and watching their experience may give you some inspiration.
01. Treat children equally and be honest with each other
Guo Shiwei is very fond of children, she married relatively late, and when her eldest daughter was born, she was nearly 30 years old.
The eldest daughter is 10 years old with an independent personality, her life ability is very strong, she usually likes to play the piano, Guo Shiwei will also accompany her to practice, she can go to tutoring classes by herself when she is in primary school.
She will make her own bed, will also help her mother take care of her younger siblings, when encountering difficulties, she can also think independently, many times, Guo Shiwei and the eldest daughter dialogue, just like friends chat,
The second daughter is also very independent, 8-year-old she likes to do housework, but also stir-fry herself, is the mother's little assistant, Guo Shiwei is too busy to come, the second daughter will tie the apron to help.
The third is a sad, in more than 90 days, stopped breathing, let Guo Shiwei feel very uncomfortable, fortunately the family understands, the mother-in-law also rushed to the hospital in time to hug her, said to her: "It is not your fault." "The family has agreed to keep the position of the third oldest, so the 5 children are called sisters and brothers and 6 people."
The fourth daughter is very artistic cell, 5-year-old she loves to sing and dance, in the house will practice basic skills such as lower waist, she likes to play with her sisters, but also to help her mother take care of her brother.
The fifth is the son, he is 4 years old, often tied by his sisters with small braids, he is also very cooperative, well-behaved, but he prefers to be with his father, his father can do anything, he feels very powerful, maybe the boy has a hero complex in his heart.
The sixth is not yet one year old, can only be held in the arms of Guo Shiwei, for this child, several sisters and brothers are very fond of, because they witnessed the birth of the child.
Guo Shiwei herself is a midwifery nurse, knows some medical knowledge, and she has 5 times of childbirth experience, when she was six years old, she made a bold decision to give birth in the bathtub at home.
Held by the husband behind him, several children gathered around the bathtub, after the birth of the sixth, they saw the hardships of the mother, and then under the leadership of the father, together to sing a happy birthday song to the sixth.
This way of birth is very special, but it is not recommended to imitate, because everyone's physical condition is different, and everyone still has to focus on safety.
Usually, 39-year-old Guo Shiwei has to take care of her young son, but it does not affect the care of the rest of the children, the house has always been clean, how did she do it?
02. Let the children help each other and share the housework
What Guo Shiwei encourages children is self-reliance.
She would paste a form on the wall, the child did the same housework, you can draw a circle, two circles for a pair of signs, a number can be exchanged for 5 yuan.
So the more the child does, the more pocket money there is.
In life, some parents let the boss do housework, the old assembly feels wronged, using this method, the old assembly is very willing to do housework, but also experience the charm of labor is the value, and younger brothers and sisters will follow the old university, the children teach one by one, have learned to do housework.
This is the secret of Guo Shiwei's family to keep tidy, each child can handle their own affairs independently, and can also help her do some housework within her ability.
Coupled with the fact that her husband is very considerate, she will take over the responsibility of taking care of her children on weekends, let Guo Shiwei go out to play for a day, she can do what she likes, and she will also sit in the bookstore and read books for an afternoon, at that time, she is no longer the mother of several children, but herself.
I have to say that having a considerate husband is the motivation for a wife to be willing to have more children.
See some netizens suggested, let the birth of a child reward how much, such a method can only cure the symptoms, not the root cause, when the task of taking care of the child falls on the wife alone, there is no point in giving more money, because we all need to have our own space, and the need to be respected, not just around the child.
Guo Shiwei, who is respected by her family, also knows how to understand her husband's feelings, and she will let the children line up to meet her father when her husband leaves work, and say to her father: "Daddy, you are hard!" ”
I believe that hearing the children's words, no matter how much fatigue will be dissolved, this is the power of gratitude.
Guo Shiwei did not give the children good living conditions, but she taught the children to work hard and be grateful, which is a lifetime of wealth.
03. The daughter-in-law still wants children, and the mother-in-law suggests not to regenerate
Maybe it was the matter of the third elder, leaving Guo Shiwei with regrets in her heart, and she still wanted to have another child.
The in-laws have different views on this, the mother-in-law means: "Don't give birth again, it's too hard." ”
In the mother-in-law's view, children grow up to study is a big expense, if the family conditions are average, children need financial aid to go to college, as soon as they graduate, there is repayment pressure, they do not want to make children too hard.
Talk about why you have so many children? Guo Shiwei confessed that she lacked love, she grew up in a single-parent family, her mother had children out of wedlock, and she did not have the ability to take care of her, so she sent her to her adoptive mother's house.
Fortunately, her adoptive mother was very good to her, so that she could grow up healthily, but she still longed for the love of her birth mother in her heart, but her birth mother always ignored her love and answered, and also made her understand a truth, raising grace is greater than birth grace, she made up her mind, if she has a child, she must accompany the children wholeheartedly.
She thinks so, and does this, seeing the cuteness of the child, she does not feel how tired she is at all, she wants to have another child, and her husband has always been a supportive attitude towards her, he respects his wife, and he will do his best to give his wife love and security, a happy life after marriage, and slowly heal Guo Shiwei's heart, she becomes happier and happier.
Unhappy families are different, happy families are all similar.
That is the mutual respect and understanding between the family, Although Guo Shiwei's in-laws did not bring children, they would also give some financial support, and would also make a table of meals on weekends and call them back to eat, at the same time, they admired their daughter-in-law, and always praised their daughter-in-law: "My grandsons are very well-behaved, they are all well-taught by the children's mothers, and the daughter-in-law is very hard." ”
I believe that Guo Shiwei will be very sweet when she hears her mother-in-law's words in the mouths of others, this is the power of her mother-in-law's concern, and the wise mother-in-law will praise her daughter-in-law, and the happier her daughter-in-law is, the more prosperous her family will be.
Write at the back:
Raising children is never a one-person thing.
Many families have ushered in the second treasure, and some people want the three treasures, and if there is one more child in the family, it will pay more.
We can't simply plan to have a few children, but couples should think deeply, they have the ability to raise several children, because parenting is greater than life, only if you are fully prepared, in order to let the children get better growth.
Give Guo Shiwei's family a thumbs up, right? Please also tell me your point, how many children do you think is appropriate?