On the day that seaweed found a job, Haiping made a large table dish for seaweed to celebrate seaweed finding a job, and Seaweed raised a glass to thank Haiping:
Sister, thank you for taking care of me like a mother for so many years, in my heart you are more important than my mother, you can rest assured, I will make a lot of money in the future, I will definitely repay you!
Seaweed came to this city, all because of Haiping, she worked hard to enter the university of Jiangzhou, in order to be able to be with her sister Haiping, because in Seaweed's heart, Haiping is the main backbone of her life, and only with Haiping can she feel at ease.
Before that, my mother had planned to let seaweed enter the university in front of the house and stay by their side, and seaweed faced the big house of her parents and the family on the one hand, and the ten square meters of her sister and snail on the other, and resolutely chose her sister, because in her heart, her sister was more important than her mother.
Seaweed is not like Haiping, full of energy in her bones, she has a cowardly personality, she is bullied and only knows how to cry, she does not want to tighten her nerves every day, just for a chicken feather life, seaweed hopes to live a lazy life.
For such a personality as seaweed, it is not suitable to stay in the big city to live, return to hometown, rely on the relationship of parents, be a small civil servant, drink tea every day, read the newspaper and so on, and return home to have hot rice and hot dishes, but it is more suitable for seaweed.
But seaweed stays with her mother, insecure, which is related to her growth experience from childhood to adulthood, the reason why Haiping is more important than her mother, but also the values formed in childhood, seaweed's mother is a good teacher with three views, is a good grandmother.
But for seaweed, she is not a good mother, the reason why seaweed has embarked on a path that harms others and harms herself, her mother has also made a pusher.
Supernatural, just want a son
Seaweed appeared in this world, it was an accident, if calculated according to age, she should not exist, when the mother was pregnant with a ring, so the mother always said that the two small holes in the back of the seaweed were poked by the contraceptive ring.
When my mother found out about the fact that there was seaweed, the seaweed was more than 4 months old, and Haiping was 7 years old. In the era when family planning was strictly grasped, the fate of seaweed was to be washed into the toilet, so when the seaweed was four months old, parents planned to get rid of their children.
Seaweed's parents are both primary school teachers, law-abiding, as two red flags raised, abide by the norms of good citizens and good workers, neither of them thought of leaving seaweed behind.
A few days before my mother was ready to go to the hospital, I intentionally or unintentionally asked Haiping, do you think it is good to have a younger brother and sister? At that time, Haiping had begun to understand things, and she said that she wanted a younger brother, in the era of only children, many small partners did not have younger siblings, and Haiping felt that having a younger brother was a very proud thing.
Although the parents of seaweed are good employees who abide by the law and the law, but in their bones they still like boys, the mouth of the child is the most accurate, Haiping said that it is a brother, maybe it is really a boy, if something happens, if Haiping can have a tall and strong brother to protect, how safe it should be:
People always have old times, in case we are old and die, the children in the future are one by one, not even the help of a relative. Who are you looking for when you're having trouble? I think you still have a brother and sister in this generation, and when you get to Haiping's children, uncles and aunts, cousins and cousins can only look up the dictionary.
For this child, seaweed is the price of the mother's five years of ineligible to be advanced, the father's two-level salary reduction, plus no matter how hard he tries, he cannot be promoted. Sacrificing half a day, it is still a handsome piece. When the seaweed came out, my mother cried.
For Haiping, her mother is sincere to love and educate, from a young age to develop a self-reliant and self-reliant character, responsible, when the mother is not there, always very sensible to take care of the sister, to the sister under the strip, tutor the sister homework, take the sister to sleep at night.
And the mother to the seaweed, always seems to have some hostility, because the arrival of seaweed delayed the future, it seems that the less you see the seaweed, the heart will be slightly more comfortable, the seaweed also understands things, the mother simply threw the seaweed to the care of the seaweed.
Hai Ping has a strong personality, belongs to the control personality, everything is rushed to do, do not let the sister do it, over time, seaweed has become a person who can not be independent, will not do anything, all day long behind the sister as a fart worm, no opinion, no personality.
After Haiping was admitted to college and came to Jiangzhou, seaweed became a fallen leaf that could not find roots, and her heart was very uneasy, her parents planned to keep her around, and she could accompany herself when she was old in the future, but seaweed wanted to go to Jiangzhou to find Haiping, as long as she was around Haiping, she could be at ease.
Seaweed always thinks that she is not wanted by her parents when she was a child, if it is not Haiping, she may have been flushed into the toilet, in the heart of seaweed, mother is not a symbol of warmth, but always makes her feel afraid of people, there is a detail, it can be seen that seaweed is afraid of mother.
Near the college entrance examination, seaweed in order to be admitted to the famous university in Jiangzhou, lit a flashlight to hide in the bed to read, was caught by her mother, she was frightened, did not dare to say a word, the mother split her head and covered her face is a rebuke, seaweed is not willing to explain.
It can be seen that seaweed has always been resistant to her mother in her heart, and she would rather come to Jiangzhou and squeeze in the small broken house of ten square meters with Haiping, because with Haiping, she can sleep with peace of mind, and with Haiping, Seaweed can release her lively nature.
For the sake of your sister, you can sacrifice yourself
Haiping to seaweed, that is really good nothing to say, seaweed came to this big city, life is not familiar, and Haiping crowded in that hut, Haiping took her to see high-rise buildings, to see the style of the big city.
Seaweed university four years of money, part of the or Haiping province to eat frugal use for her, Haiping usually eat some leftovers, but every weekend, seaweed to come, seaweed will spend a fee to buy seaweed like to eat fish, they are reluctant to eat, just cheat seaweed she does not like to eat, by Su Chun point broken, Sea ping will be shy.
Seaweed graduated and can't find a job, Haiping will give seaweed a reassurance pill, you can rest assured that you live here, you can't eat, you can't drink, until you find a job, seaweed doesn't have to do anything, just need to find a job with peace of mind.
In the life of seaweed, the sister seems to take the role of the mother, and the mother always seems to be a little estranged, when the sister buys a house and encounters problems, even if the seaweed herself is not able to help the sister, she also has to find ways to make the sister feel at ease.
So when Haiping borrowed money from Seaweed, Seaweed fell out with Xiaobei twice for money, and Seaweed's relationship with Seaweed and Seaweed really let Seaweed die for Seabed. Because, the life of seaweed is given by Haiping.
Therefore, don't say that Haiping just wants money, it is to die, and seaweed is also willing to give. Seaweed couldn't figure out how to see his brother fighting for money on TV, but he remembered that his brother donated his kidney to his brother. She thought at that time: "As long as Haiping needs, I can give the heart."
In order to help Haiping raise money, Seaweed found Song Siming, betrayed her feelings with Xiaobei, and exchanged her body for sixty thousand yuan for her sister, she did not feel aggrieved, but felt that she could use her own value to help her sister solve problems, which was a kind of return for her sister.
After Seaweed and Song Siming were together for money, they did not deliberately hide from Haiping, after Haiping knew, she helped Seaweed to hide from her mother, in this matter, Haiping saved her own selfishness, because Song Siming helped her, and Song Siming is a rich and powerful person, there are many uses in the future, this patron can not be lost.
The best point is that Song Siming is not a bad person, Haiping thinks that this will not hurt the seaweed, the seaweed only needs to hide xiaobei, and Song Siming has played enough to turn back in time, and marry Xiaobei, there will be no impact, so that you can continue to enjoy the benefits brought by Song Siming, but also do not delay the future of her sister, Haiping feels that this is the best of both worlds.
As long as Haiping has been in trouble, seaweed will never be able to leave Song Siming, so she is getting deeper and deeper, and even dares to fight with Song Siming's wife, when Mrs. Song found seaweed to persuade her to retreat, seaweed also found her sister as a backing, planning to fight with Mrs. Song to the end.
In the face of Mrs. Song, Seaweed was straight and strong, and did not feel half guilty because she was sneaky and Song Siming, and she did not feel that she had anything to be sorry for Mrs. Song, she felt that it was her own ability to get Song Siming, and Mrs. Song did not get it because she did not have that skill.
After the daughter went astray, there was no severe stop
Seaweed just wandered between the two men, while accepting Xiao Bei's goodness, while accepting the material that Song Siming brought to her, after the seaweed and Song Siming's affairs were exposed, her mother was very angry, and she questioned the seaweed:
Seaweed, the man just now, is your relationship with him abnormal? I see that he came back with his arms around you, did you break off with Xiao Bei? For so many days, we have only seen him once, Xiaobei this child has always been very enthusiastic, usually call us back! Why did we come this time and instead become estranged? You don't say I can guess a rough idea, but seaweed, I tell you, Xiaobei is a good child, people are so reliable, can't say scattered, people want to talk about feelings! You must not be confused!
Seaweed's mother knows that her daughter stepped on two boats, but also only called Xiaobei to come to the house for a meal, to leave, did not stop seaweed and Song Siming to continue to contact, seaweed since childhood is a no opinion, as a mother, when the child goes the wrong way, it is necessary to help them correct in time, but the mother of seaweed did not, but chose to let the seaweed deal with it by herself.
As a result, the way seaweed is handled is to lose their happiness, do Song Siming's full-time primary three, pregnant with Song Siming's child, for such a long time, seaweed parents have not cared about the dynamics of seaweed, until the seaweed belly can not be hidden, the mother of seaweed only consciously asked: Is the child Xiaobei's?
As a mother, this is how dereliction of duty, when the child became a little three, stepping on two boats, she did not stop in time, the child is not normal, she did not care about greetings all the time, and even she did not inquire, song Siming is what identity, is it married, she angrily asked the seaweed:
When do you plan to get married, or are you afraid that your family will oppose you and have secretly obtained your marriage license? He has a wife, right? He's not divorced yet? How long do you get married? How long has it been?
Teaching and educating people all her life, the best at observing the psychology of others, seeing the answer of seaweed is vague, she immediately guessed that Song Siming is a married man, she guessed that Haiping has been hiding from her with seaweed, and seaweed mother slapped Haiping angrily:
It's all a good thing you did, I handed her over to you, you just give it back to me? Something so big happened that you gave her back to me like that? When I let her go home, you wouldn't, do you still deserve to be a sister?
Although it is angry words, it is all facts, but the truth behind the facts is that she pushed her responsibility as a mother to Haiping's body, she forgot that the role of mother is irreplaceable, Haiping is good, she can only be a sister forever, she is far away, she is also a mother.
The best way out for seaweed at this time is to beat the child out, leave the city, go back to a new place, find someone who deserves to be himself, and be a dignified person, but when the mother says these words of advice, the seaweed is no longer the obedient child who was there.
The seaweed mother regretted it, and could only secretly weep and blame herself: they all blame me! Blame me!
For the relationship between seaweed and Song Siming, seaweed mother saw the essence at a glance, and she told Haiping:
There is no free lunch under the sky, how can a person not try to return the favor to you, he has a plan, a picture of your heart, a picture of your body, yes, Song can mix to his current position, must have a different ability and means, you and seaweed are confused by his appearance, he is a public person, he will do things for the public, his rights are given by the people, the little help you get should have belonged to yourself.
Why does he like seaweed? Does he really like seaweed? He is enjoying the glory that the rights in his hands bring him, like him, the glory is suppressed for a long time and he will get sick without release, is he not giving a secretary to an official, then in the unit at home can not be too ostentatious, have to bow down, then how can he reflect his success? Seaweed is just a means for him to show off his success.
Seaweed also said that she loved him, I see that she loves not Song herself, but song aura illuminated, to her desires, all nodding their heads a kind of cheerfulness, if seaweed does not know this, she will suffer a big loss in her life, there is no good result, she is my daughter, I want her to be happy, but look at her now this obsessive look, I can't do anything, this is my failure as a mother.
I have taught and educated people in my life, and there are fewer disciples than Confucius, but I teach to teach, but I can't teach my own daughter, I am a mother, I am willing to make my daughter safe and sound, always happy, but seaweed in difficult times, when hesitating, I don't know anything, let her struggle alone, my heart is so painful!
In the end, as her mother said, there was no good result, and this was not only the tragedy of seaweed alone, but also the pain of her elderly parents for a lifetime, such an ending, not the fault of anyone, it was a combination of many mistakes, the fault of parents' improper education, the fault of Song Siming's infidelity to marriage, the fault of Haiping's greed, the fault of seaweed's stupidity, and the source was from childhood education.
Seaweed receives more family education, which is from Haiping, but in fact, Haiping's three views are not very positive, many words have taken the seaweed step by step, resulting in the illusion that the marriage is not happy and the marriage is not worth it, so that the seaweed gives up the little shell that loves her, and chooses to give her passion and stimulation song Siming.
And the root of all this is because of the mother's dereliction of duty, the mother of seaweed is a person who has three views and knows how to educate children, and the two children she taught, one Haiping and one Ran Ran, are very independent people.
From childhood to adulthood, Haiping thinks about relying on her own efforts to fight for what she wants, and she really can't use some external forces, but it doesn't mean that with the help of external forces, she can relax.
So even though Haiping was favored by Song Siming, she has been trying to enhance her abilities, a chemical engineering graduate, trying to be a clerk, in order to be able to earn extra money, teach herself English, and then teach foreign students.
It is precisely because of Haiping's spirit of endless life and continuous struggle that she can boldly say when the opportunity comes: I can. And this self-reliance is the result of the mother's education.
Little Ran Ran, still being spoiled at an age, Grandma exercised her ability to eat on her own, so that she could develop the ability to stand on her own, so little Ran Ran was very polite and could understand the reason.
When Haiping returned home, Ran Ran secretly took her mother's money, and her grandmother's education was very relaxed, neither harboring the child because of coddling, nor rude punishment hurting the child's mind, but following the rules and inducements to reason with her, and then punishing her.
And Haiping is different, the strong character makes her want to do anything, ran ran if she let Haiping educate, she will definitely be taught by Haiping to be like seaweed, no one to take care of even cooked rice.
And this is not Haiping's fault, because her fashionable and has not yet formed the right values, she is not deliberately trying to teach bad sister, the only one who is at fault is seaweed's mother, her education of seaweed, not failure, but dereliction of duty.