At present, on the issue of children's education, many parents feel that they should pursue happy education, thinking that "if the child does not like it, do not force him", and give the child a happy childhood.
But in fact, this poisonous chicken soup is very irresponsible. Happy education will not give children a happy childhood, but only an unhappy life.
Recently, when revisiting "Family with Children", I saw such a clip: Liu Xing and Xiaoyu whispered together, and Liu Mei asked them what they were muttering?
Liu Xing said, "How many of our specialties have not been cultivated by you?" Subsequently, Xiao Yu also answered next to him: "Yes, let the parents delay." ”
Liu Mei was not happy when she heard it, and retorted: "You forgot, since you were a child, your mother has reported this class to you, and she wants you to learn, but you don't learn it yourself!" ”
I thought that Liu Xing would feel ashamed, but I didn't expect that his rebuttal would make people dumbfounded.
Liu Xing's words actually have a certain truth.
For children, because of their young age, their judgment of many things is lack of foresight, which is also what we often call "ignorance", they have no way to take responsibility for their future and life.
As parents, we need to shoulder this responsibility and seriously cultivate and supervise our children.
But if children let them do whatever they want and waste time because they don't like or love to learn, then we as parents are suspected of dereliction of duty, and our children may be delayed by us.
Just like Liu Huan, a singer who pursues happy education, whenever he talks about his daughter Liu Yisi, he will have a sense of regret.
Because he felt that his daughter's musical taste was quite high, he regretted that he did not force her to learn music and wasted her talent.
Therefore, as a parent, instead of waiting for the child to grow up and regret it, you may wish to "force" the child now:
1. Help children discover talents and interests
Cai Kangyong once said such a passage: "5 years old you feel that swimming is difficult, give up swimming, to 18 years old to meet a person you like to ask you to swim, you have to say 'I will not ya';
18-year-old thinks English is difficult, give up English, 28-year-old has a great but english-speaking job, you have to say 'I won't yay'. ”
Although this passage warns us to insist on learning something, so that we will not miss the opportunity again and again.
In fact, it is also telling us as parents not to let children lose their competitiveness again and again in their future.
Therefore, in the cultivation of children's strengths, even if they do not have talents and interests, as parents, we must help children discover "talents and interests" and enhance their competitiveness.
2. Do a good job of planning and conscientiously perform
On the way to help children cultivate talents and interests, you can make a schedule with your children and urge your children to fulfill them seriously.
Through the formulation of the schedule, children can clearly see their daily growth and deficiencies, can better see the direction of their efforts, and can also increase their motivation to continue to work hard.
3. Learn to persevere
In the real world, the fittest can only survive, and only the strong can lead the development of the times. And for the strong, the biggest quality is persistence.
Just like we often lament, why can other people's families cultivate "school bullies", but we can't? A big reason is that we don't let our children learn to persevere.
You know, in addition to a small number of special likes to learn, it is more because of the habit of learning and insisting on learning every day.
Therefore, it is important for children to learn to persevere. Start by sticking to your "likes" to sticking to everything you do.
As the old saying goes: Parents love their children, and their plans are far-reaching! The true love that parents have for their children is to give them the ability to control their future.
Therefore, don't indulge your child with the poisonous chicken soup of "if the child doesn't like it, don't force him", it may affect his life.