Women who are addicted to men and have a "sense of distance"

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We all hope that we can play with ease in love, the person we meet is a good person, can be held in the palm of his hand, and the feelings will never be tired, as sweet as ever.

But what we have to admit is that no matter how much we love each other at the beginning, there will always be a period of coldness after being together for a long time, and the relationship between two people will never return to the original state.

When we are in love, we will always do our best, pour our greatest enthusiasm into him, pour out our hearts and lungs for him, project all our body and mind on him, and want to stay with him all the time.

I always think that as long as I am good enough for him to see his sincerity, he will get the same return, but the final result is often counterproductive, and when you put in a hundred and twenty years of strength, he will withdraw more and more.

Feelings are like playing a tug-of-war, when you put all your efforts into it, he will also do his best to pull in the opposite direction, and eventually the distance between the two people will only be more distant.

Love is not the more you invest in the more you gain, nor is it that the closer two people are, the sweeter the feelings, and sometimes keeping a proper distance can make him love you more.

There is such a principle in psychology called "sensory adaptation", which refers to the phenomenon that the stimulus continues to act on the same receptor, so that the sensory threshold changes, resulting in an increase or decrease in the sensitivity to later stimuli

The feeling adaptation that exists in the relationship means that when two people are too closely sticky together, over time, they will breed fatigue and no longer maintain enthusiasm for each other.

It turns out that feelings need to have the right distance to maintain long-term enthusiasm. Women who want to keep men addicted to you need to keep in mind the importance of "distance".

Maintain a sense of alienation at the beginning of the acquaintance, and do not easily fall into a relationship

Some people, once the opposite sex releases a signal of liking to themselves, they will immediately open the door of the atrium and welcome the other party in.

Afraid that if you are a little sluggish, the other party will lose patience and no longer like yourself. He smiles at you and immediately walks toward him, he takes a step toward you, and the remaining ninety-nine steps do not require him to act, and he will rush to the past.

You think that such unreserved love will make him see your actions and love you more, in fact? Your overzealous enthusiasm has already made him look down on you in his heart, and those who are hooked at the first touch are really cheap.

Of course, maintaining a sense of alienation is not to teach you to hold up your proud head, let the other party bow down and please you, there are also some women, who take themselves very seriously, thinking that the other party is completely impressed by their own charm, a noble and cold look, easy not willing to show their liking to men, not willing to take the initiative, just sit and wait for the other party to please.

Such an overly arrogant person will not be liked, knowing that no one will give up dignity to love someone, and if you have not responded, he will leave sooner or later.

Girls should maintain a sense of alienation at the beginning of their acquaintance with the opposite sex, not a look of indifference, nor ignoring him, but to give back appropriately, but never take the initiative, occasionally give him a candy to eat, but let him be elusive, do not easily agree to his pursuit, appropriately lengthen the pursuit of the battle line, do not let him easily get, so that he can satisfy his appetite.

Maintain enough restraint in getting along, do not talk about it, and do not have intimate physical contact

There is a saying that an unclear beginning will only end in an unclear way. There are some people who are only ambiguous about you for a while, and you are the only one who mistakenly thinks it is love.

Many times we are blaming some people for being ambiguous and addicted, blaming them for obviously not liking it, but they have to take the initiative to stir it, but in fact, you can't control the behavior of others, and the only thing you can control is yourself.

Feelings always have to come and go before they can go on, and if he comes to you and you ignore them from beginning to end, I think he will not continue to waste time on you.

It is also possible that he sent a message to different girls, and only you alone gave him a response, and then there was a follow-up story.

He tickled your finger slightly, and you blushed shyly, him. Send you an ambiguous message, you will immediately give a reply, he said a love word to you, you are completely immersed, he touched you with his finger, you immediately took his hand and had intimate contact with him, so how can he cherish it?

Easy to get is often not cherished, and many of the hurt in feelings is caused by their own lack of reticence. You break the physical and psychological distance between two people so easily, and in the end it will only make him easily abandon you.

Before formally establishing a relationship, keep a certain distance from him, be measured when chatting, do not easily be provoked by him, do not easily have physical contact, limb distance is the best way to protect yourself, the more he does not get it, the more addictive he will be.

In love, know how to keep a distance, and no matter how much you love, don't be too sticky

The best feelings are intimate with each other and independent, and then love a person do not let the relationship between each other fall into a state of zero distance, too tight love, like a rope pulled to the critical value, easy to break.

Love requires a certain sense of distance to maintain enthusiasm forever, if two people stay together 24 hours a day, in the long run. It will make love quickly fall into a frozen state, there is no longer curiosity about the other party, he no longer has something to interest you, then love is difficult to maintain.

Many people like to eat spicy hot and drink milk tea, but if you eat spicy hot three meals a day and drink three cups of milk tea a day, it will not take long for you to become disgusted with them.

I know that you, who are in love, want to see him every minute and every second, and want to know his whereabouts all the time. But what you have to know is that the two of you still have a long time to go, and it is not only limited to the twilight in front of you, but the distance for a while is to let the two of you go on a longer-term basis.

Men in love will be very eager for free space, will not like a girl who sticks to him all the time, and the more you rely on him, the more you will let him quickly see everything you have, so that there is no longer a strong desire to continue to explore. Know how to keep your distance and create a little mystery, and he will continue to be addicted to you.

Distance produces beauty, this sentence is really there, and even the most beautiful thing, if you live with it for a long time, will always be bored.

The distance is open, the contact time is limited, and it will breed unlimited reverie in the heart, and the expectation is deep.

Nourish love like a flower and invest energy continuously, but remember not to water it too much, it can be counterproductive and root rotten.

Know how to open and water at intervals, give the flower some opportunity to grow on its own, and it can flourish.

Give love a little more space, give each other time to breathe freely, and know how to maintain a sense of distance, so that he can continue to invest, and finally it is difficult to extricate himself.

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