Two days ago I saw a private message, what should I do if my child doesn't like to learn? Today I will analyze it for parents:
The first cause is mood swings.
That is, some children have poor psychological quality and will not deal with interpersonal relationships, including relationships with parents, teachers, and classmates. I make myself burned every day and don't have the heart to study.
Some children will get carried away when they have good grades, occasionally do well in the test, and their tails will go up to the sky, but once the next grade falls, the whole person's emotions will also fall into the well. For such a child with mood swings, the parent must first solve his psychological quality problem.
The second type of child belongs to the type of ineffective hard learning.
This kind of child works very hard, works very hard, and every day he is there to read hard, pick up the lights and fight at night, and even hate to "hang his head and stab the strands"... But it is that the results of each exam always make parents stunned and cry and laugh. What is the reason? This is because the child has not mastered the scientific learning method, and learning without methods is stupid, stupid learning, and ineffective learning. If you don't give him a scientific way to learn, this child will never come out.
The third child's situation is learning to "lack ideas".
This kind of child's mastery of knowledge is not in place, and the hard learning is not effective, but it is not so serious, general problems, medium difficulty problems can also be solved, but when encountering high difficulty problems, there is no idea. Many children who usually take the exam at the intermediate level fall into this category. To improve the performance of such children, we must overcome the child's fear of difficulties, work hard to give ideas, and overcome difficulties.
The fourth cause is carelessness.
Some children, usually study well, but when it comes to the end of the exam, they are busy, and they should not be wrong. It is "carelessness", losing three and forgetting four, and children who lose three and forget four are not only like this in learning, but also in life. To improve the learning status of such children, we must first correct their learning and living habits.
The fifth "cause is knowledge.
The problem of this kind of child is that he has not mastered a lot of knowledge at all, usually does not review, does not prepare, does not memorize what should be memorized, and does not remember what should be remembered. For this kind of child, he first needs to correct his attitude toward learning, and then urge him to make up for the unfamiliar knowledge.
The sixth cause is personality rebellion.
There is also a reason why children do not learn well because of "personality rebellion", there are two kinds of personality rebellion, one is born rebellious, is the so-called antisocial personality of children, such people are very few; the other is stage rebellion, such as children who have entered the adolescent rebellious period. There are many such children in the middle school stage. The child who is in the rebellious period is very emotionally unstable, and often the teacher criticizes him and remembers it, and then he intentionally or unintentionally opposes the teacher, and even deliberately does not go to the teacher's class and does not hand over the homework assigned by the teacher. Of course, this kind of child's learning will be affected. To solve the problem of such children, it is more necessary for a child to have a prescription and prescribe the right medicine in order to get rid of the disease.
The seventh cause is the plateau bottleneck type.
Plateau bottleneck is said to a certain height, to surpass it is very difficult, to solve this problem to start from two aspects, one is to reduce parents' expectations of children, can not ignore the child's reality, put forward endless requirements; on the other hand, you can also ask experienced teachers, experts to give children some guidance and guidance, after all, in an already high level, even if you increase 5 points, 10 points will form a great competitiveness. However, in the face of this problem, parents must understand that breaking through the "plateau bottleneck" itself is also a science, which is not something that ordinary teachers can do. Parents should not think that they have spent a lot of money, and they will definitely be able to achieve their goals by inviting famous teachers.
Now many parents envy those children who take the initiative to learn, love to learn, and have excellent grades. Children who love to learn are specifically shown to be particularly interested in learning and knowledge, and even hungry, so that students can take the initiative to learn, think positively, do not procrastinate on learning tasks, and are not afraid of difficulties, willing to study, learning is also easy and natural, full of confidence! There are also many parents who complain: children are not conscious and active in learning, and they always grind and drag their homework, and they know how to play all day long!
So, what exactly does a child love to learn?
For example, in the summer, we often find some fishing enthusiasts on the side of some ponds and rivers, although the weather is hot and there are many mosquitoes, but why can they still insist on fishing? The answer stems from "likes"! The reason why people like to do something is not because of the thing itself, but because of the happy feeling and successful experience brought about by doing it, which is the so-called "sense of achievement"! By doing this, I feel that I am recognized, accepted, cared for, and affirmed, and these four points are precisely the four indispensable internal psychological needs of a person, and only after these four internal psychological needs are satisfied to a certain extent, it is possible to stimulate his strong internal drive to do this.
Therefore, the reason why children love learning is not because of learning itself, but because he can be recognized, accepted, loved, and affirmed from learning.
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