Real case: 3-year-old Xiaohong is a smart and clever child, but a recent act has confused the whole family. It turns out that Xiaohong has always been muttering lately and likes to talk to herself. For example, she often said when playing with blocks: "Whoever is destroying my castle, my castle will be built soon." At first, the mother did not care, until the grandmother asked: "This child talks to the air all day, God is nagging, is there something wrong with it?" Although my mother refuted my grandmother, she couldn't say a single reason, and her heart was full of doubts.
There are many more cases like this. Today, let's talk about the problem of children talking to themselves.
1. What is self-talk?
The so-called self-talk, most of them are in the absence of a social object, some children issued some non-logical relationship, no social, some meaningless syllables, words, phrases, sentence combinations, or some poems learned before, inadvertently learned advertising words, watch cartoons when learning cartoons said words, just simple recitation, and has nothing to do with the current situation.
Second, the reason why the child talks to himself
1. Children's language skills are developing
Babies under three years old talking to themselves are not bad performances, nor are they psychological abnormalities, but a process that babies must go through to learn language. The language of man is divided into two languages: external language and internal language:
An external language is the word spoken by a person, and it is an information symbol system that combines the sound and meaning of the exchange of information between people.
Internal language is the information symbol system of the brain's thinking. An inner language is an information process that is based on an external language and results in the generation of an external language.
2. The embodiment of the child's imagination
Preschool babies have a rich imagination, can only imagine the world in a mode they are familiar with and understand, and it is natural to feel that everything has animism.
The friend that the child imagines not only provides him with a sense of security, but also greatly helps the child's verbal expression, communication, and practice of life skills.
Third, how parents intervene in their children's self-talk behavior
1. Play sound games
First of all, be sure to analyze what the child wants to satisfy. Does it need stimulation from the mouth or does his own ear want to hear such a sound? If it is the former, that is to say, the child needs stimulation of the mouth and throat, and then the behavior becomes that the adult takes him to do.
Every little while, I told him, "Please do this with me," and led him to use these parts to make a sound. In this way, he follows you instead of playing with himself.
The advantage of this is that it satisfies the child's needs while developing the habit of obeying instructions and executing them.
2. Repeat the mechanical sound on a specific occasion
There are occasions when the child is nervous, so leave quickly. For example, he does not like to queue, and he has to slowly carry out desensitization training. It can range from a short line, to a long line, to a crowded and noisy line.
Maybe the child knows that we don't like him talking to himself, but if there is a guest in the house, he deliberately talks to himself loudly to get our attention and tell him that he needs to express it in the right way. At the same time, you must know that he is only a child, so it is necessary to give him a certain amount of attention regularly and effectively.
3. Positive high-frequency reinforcement
High frequency reinforces all good behaviors of children, no matter what form of behavior, as long as it is a good behavior, parents should immediately give reinforcement, so that children can gradually increase good behaviors and expand children's interests.
4. Increase cognitive comprehension, language expression, social games, etc
The understanding of verbs, adjectives, descriptive language, demand expressions, interactive games, etc., let children understand from the heart which are good behaviors and which are bad behaviors, which need to be controlled.
4. As your baby grows up, the companionship of peers is as important as the company of parents. Help your baby grow up happily and healthily.
If your baby talks to himself too much and spends most of the day talking to himself, parents should pay attention. It is recommended to go to a regular hospital for treatment.
At the same time, communicate more with the baby, read more books with the baby, if the parents' ability allows, you can also take the baby to contact some English, which can lay a good foundation for the baby's language learning. At this stage, the performance of parents directly affects the parent-child relationship between children and parents, starting from this time, pay attention to communication and develop good communication habits.
Let's stop here today. If your child has other questions such as self-talk, you are welcome to leave a message. I'll reply one by one.