When people reach middle age, it is inevitable to "talk about money and change color".
Rich people are showing off, people without money are showing off, honest people are embarrassed.
Guan Zhong, a politician in the Spring and Autumn Period, said: "The warehouse is honest and knows the etiquette, the food and clothing are sufficient and the honor and disgrace are known, and the obedience is six relatives." ”
Being a person, with money, can pay more attention to etiquette, understand honor and disgrace, and stabilize various interpersonal relationships.
Money is not the only measure of a person, but we have to talk about money and talk about something else. Without money, everything you say is empty talk and cannot be put into practice.
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Talking about money is the touchstone of love.
When we were just in love, we thought that as long as two people love each other well, even if it is to drink cold water, they are happy. As long as there is love, there will always be bread.
When people reach middle age, they find that love cannot be eaten as a meal. Families without money, contradictions increase significantly.
Someone said: "A family, 80% of the contradictions, are due to lack of money." ”
One of my cousins, Linghua, after getting married, wants to do beauty, and after she becomes beautiful, she will find a way to win over some girls who love beauty, sell the products she has used, and make some differences from them.
Ling Hua asked her husband for five thousand yuan and explained the purpose. The husband was silent for a while, and said with a black face: "So much money, where do you let me go to get it?" ”
Therefore, the contradiction between Linghua and her husband escalated, and they blamed each other.
Although many rich people, at every turn, take out hundreds of thousands. But it is common for poor people not to have five hundred dollars. When a man's pockets have been dry, it is inevitable that he will be disliked; when a woman, who does not make money herself, looks for money from men every day, she will naturally be looked down upon.
There is a saying that goes: "No matter how romantic love is, if it is not implemented in the things of eating, dressing, buying a house, and sleeping, it is a false romance." ”
Husband and wife get along, and when they have money, they talk about "respecting each other like guests and holding hands", otherwise, the feelings are very fragile, and the heart is also very cold.
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Talking about money is the premise of filial piety to parents.
There is such a story in the "Hunan Daily": a girl from Laifeng County, Hubei Province, Huang Cuiyun, when she was 21 years old, worked in Hunan and fell in love with a young man from Cili, Hunan. They are very determined to be together despite the objections of their families.
At first, the issue of the young man's family condition was not considered.
Unexpectedly, fate tricked them. When they first returned to their mother's house, there was a car accident on the road, and Huang Cuiyun was paralyzed ever since. Due to multiple factors such as difficult family conditions and her own mobility problems, Huang Cuiyun has not returned to her mother's home for nearly 30 years after getting married.
Later, Huang Cuiyun's parents came all the way from their hometown to be reunited.
As the saying goes, "Filial piety comes first." ”
For a poor couple, the ability to filial piety to their parents is very limited. Maybe just a few greetings on the phone and a video chat via WeChat. Occasionally some gifts can be mailed to parents. Driving back to your hometown and picking up your parents to your side is difficult to do.
Especially those women who are married far away, it takes a few days to return to their mother's house, and it costs thousands of dollars. The cost of filial piety is really not low.
For rich people, carrying a lot of gifts back to their hometown, when their parents are sick, they can take care of them wholeheartedly, and when their parents can't move, they can ask for a nanny.
Filial piety, first of all, must have "filial piety", and then we must "smooth and smooth profit", and we can't do without anything.
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Talking about money is a bargaining chip for cooperation and cooperation.
For middle-aged people, to apply anywhere, the most concerned is not the conditions of the work, but the treatment of the work.
There are always some people who are willing to pay a higher wage, even if they are excrement workers.
If you don't talk about treatment, then what is the point of going out to work? Everyone has to support their families, and they can't always talk about "free help" every day.
If you are an entrepreneur, then your ultimate goal is to make money fiercely. It doesn't matter which industry you choose, it's the same.
Once, I contracted a fish pond with a friend. At the beginning, my friend said: "As long as you make money, no matter how you divide the money, it is easy to do." ”
At the end of the year, when the dividend was paid, the friend said: "The fish pond is mainly in charge of me, and I should take 80%." ”
I said, "It should be calculated according to how much investment was made in the first place." ”
In a few words, my friend and I got into a very unpleasant fight.
There is a way, brother, clear accounting. If you have a confused account when you cooperate with others, it is estimated that you will not agree and will never talk about cooperation again.
When people reach middle age, no matter which circle you mix in, it is mostly a relationship of interest exchange, if not, then this circle is not attractive to you.
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Talking about money is the face of relatives and friends.
"Rich people have distant relatives in the mountains", when a poor person becomes rich, he may have such a feeling: "Our family's relatives, why are there so many." ”
Once, the door court snubbed Kurama, and later, became famous in one fell swoop, and people who came to visit relatives and friends were endless. Relatives and friends interact more and more realistically.
If you don't have money, maybe your siblings look down on you and even when you need to borrow money, they will avoid you. All kinds of reasons to reject you make you feel very bad.
Make money fiercely, don't care about the attitude of relatives and friends to yourself, and don't just look down and ask for people.
When you have money, whether you can help relatives and friends or not, you will also live with a head and a face. It is necessary to understand that it is human nature to be inflamed and possessive.
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When people reach middle age, they will find that no matter what kind of feelings and that mode of life, they are very realistic, and it is inevitable to be associated with money.
Psychologist Freud said: "The way civilized people treat money is very similar to the way they treat emotions. On the surface, it is serious, but in fact, it is just a gesture. ”
Whether a person lives well or not is not because of money and material problems, but because there are more things hidden behind money, although you can't see it, but the experience is particularly real.
Talking about money generously, although it seems vulgar, you will have less trouble.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.