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China is a country of etiquette, and there are many rules in our traditional culture that teach us how to treat people, although some theories were born thousands of years ago, but it is still very popular today, and the wine table culture is one of the social ways that have been inherited to this day.
As the saying goes, people take food as the sky, and food is not only necessary for people to survive, but also can bring each other closer together or complete a business.
If a person's table manners are excellent, then he will make a good impression at the dinner table, and then get more good feelings in the process of interpersonal communication.
When you have dinner with others or attend a banquet hosted by others, you must keep in mind the basic table manners, and when the etiquette is in place, interpersonal relationships are more harmonious.
People with high emotional intelligence can always do the right things in the right place, while people with low emotional intelligence especially like to do these 4 things when they are guests in other people's homes, and they will know it at a glance.
1. Bring no gifts to the banquet
Most people understand interpersonal etiquette from their parents, because they saw their parents' actions when they were young, so they naturally learned some in the process of growing up.
Chinese has its own set of rules for doing things, whether it is entrusting people to do things or simply reuniting, when visiting others, you must bring some gifts to express your sincerity and heart.
Since the visitor has brought a gift, the person being visited naturally has to politely shirk it when receiving the gift, such as some common polite words: "People can come, what gifts do you bring?" "But is that really the case? The answer is no.
Even if your best friend invites you to his house, you can't come to the door empty-handed, because it is too perfunctory and will make the other party feel embarrassed and disappointed.
In fact, the owners of the feast did not covet this gift, they valued the wishes of the visitors, even if the things were not valuable, as long as they were careful.
When the host of the banquet feels your serious attitude, the relationship between the two of you will naturally go further.
There is a branch of interpersonal interaction in psychology, which in turn reveals the truth about human interaction. Anyone in interpersonal communication is asking and obtaining, on the one hand you get resources from others, and on the other hand, others get resources from you, so you come and go, help each other, and long-term relationships come from this.
But if you blindly take it, but never respond, no matter how deep the feelings between the two of you, sooner or later it will be exhausted.
In contemporary society, many people say that interpersonal communication is too exhausting, especially after getting along with others, it will be exhausted.
The reason why people hate socializing is not that they hate making friends, but that they can't get positive and equal feedback from socializing, if all interpersonal relationships are polite and reciprocal, equal pay, I believe that no one will not love social.
Second, easily evaluate the dishes
Directly commenting on the taste of the meal will not appear that you are frank, this kind of action will only embarrass the owner of the meal, if the other party is sensitive, it will misunderstand your meaning.
When attending the dinner, everyone must praise the delicious food as much as possible, rather than deliberately pointing out the defects of a certain dish, if you always complain about the taste or texture of the meal at the dinner, the transmission of this negative emotion will make others think that you are a complaining and uncultivated person.
Even if you are intimate with the owner of the meal, you should not criticize the dishes in front of everyone, but should make reasonable suggestions in a joking or more appropriate way after the fact.
Third, really treat yourself as a guest
Some people are often very restrained when they visit a friend's house, sitting is not, standing is not, in this case, the host usually says some polite words to alleviate the awkward atmosphere, so that you can enjoy the treatment of guests with peace of mind.
But we need to be clear, don't be at ease with yourself as a guest, in the case of conditions permitting, we should also take the initiative to invite friends to the home as a guest, or help friends to do some small things when being a guest, whether it is to take out a garbage or put a bowl and chopsticks, these small details can make you add a lot of points.
Fourth, did not give back to the other party in time
All relationships require you to come and go, give to each other, if you accept the other person's payment for a long time, and you don't have any expression, then the other party will feel that the relationship has brought him too much burden.
If a friend has already invited you home for dinner or a guest, you should also entertain him in the same way afterwards so that he can feel that we value the relationship.
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).