"No money to give birth to three children, poor and dead deserve"
How much the mother's words stung her daughter's heart, too realistic
With the opening up of the country's three-child policy, although many rationalists are more resistant to it, believing that the current pressure of child-rearing is too great, and too many children will affect the quality of child-rearing, so the attitude towards having three children is also very negative
However, the other part of the population is very active, almost as if they want to be born
Of course, some people are rich and powerful, but there are also some people who are completely impulsive
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Xiaofei, the daughter of my neighbor Aunt Wang, is a good example of this
After Xiaofei graduated from college, she married a male classmate in the same class, and the couple were ordinary "hit workers"
Fortunately, although the man's parents are in the countryside, there is only one son for Xiaofei's husband
Therefore, after the marriage of the two of them, they also want to have a house and a car, and the little days are very moist
And the two soon became pregnant with the baby, and they were twins
Although Xiaofei has not gone to work since she became pregnant, and the family's economy is not as rich as before, but the overall situation is still passable
Unexpectedly, when the twins were 2 years old, the national "three-child policy" was opened
So Xiaofei's husband proposed to have another daughter and make up a "good" with two twin sons.
And swear by it
"Bringing two is also a belt, regenerating one is also fine"
At first, Xiaofei was still very reluctant, first, she was hard enough to take two children alone, and second, the family economy was indeed not rich enough, but her husband's soft and hard help made Xiaofei gradually move her heart
In the end, Xiaofei soon became pregnant again, and what Xiaofei and his wife did not expect was that the third child was still a baby boy
With the birth of the third child, the originally unfluous family economy is also instantly worse
Although the in-laws in the countryside are happy to help, they are also powerless without culture
Therefore, the burden of life all fell on Xiaofei and her husband
Especially Xiaofei's husband, who earns money to support 5 people, is really a bit unbearable
Xiaofei was distressed about her husband, so she went back to her mother's house to ask Aunt Wang for help, and wanted to ask Aunt Wang to borrow some money
Although Aunt Wang was very distressed about Xiaofei, she was a strong mother, and when she saw this poor look of her daughter, she was angry in her heart, so she bluntly shook Xiaofei
"No money, you still dare to have three children, poor and dead, who can manage you, people don't want to live"
In a word, Xiaofei turned around and left, but Xiaofei also understood that her decision to have three children was really impulsive
Aunt Wang didn't say anything when she saw her daughter gone, and only after a few days did she take tens of thousands of yuan and send the old man to send her daughter personally, in the end, it was still her mother who hurt the child.
It is said that "it is easy to have children, but it is difficult to raise children", but in reality, it is not uncommon for reckless people like Xiaofei and his wife to be reckless
As a result, you can only beg for yourself
As a parent, you must think carefully before deciding to have a child
If the economic conditions do not allow it, it is even more necessary to be cautious, otherwise, not only adults will be stretched, but children will also suffer
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Poor economic conditions, poor physical development of children
Many people will sigh that today's children are really tall and develop really well
In fact, the most fundamental reason is that the current children's family economy is good, from childhood not only to eat and wear warm, but also all kinds of nutritional items are not lacking, unlike China a few decades ago, many families' economic conditions are very backward, and social life materials are also lacking
At that time, many children did not talk about eating nutritional products, and even filling their stomachs was a big problem
Especially in rural areas, it is common for parents to give up their children because they are unable to raise them, and even some families will starve their children to death because they are poor.
In "Children of the Joe Family", Joe's father and Joe's mother had a total of 5 children, and as a result, after the death of his mother in childbirth, Joe's father gave Qiao Simei to a teacher because he could not support the child
It can be said that the economic foundation is the most basic guarantee for raising children, the economic conditions are not enough, the child's physical development will be affected, of course, the current child will not starve to death
However, insufficient nutrition will also affect children, resulting in problems such as short and short children and low intelligence
As a parent, before having and raising a child, we must ensure sufficient economic foundation, only in this way can the child eat and wear warm in the world, and develop healthier and smarter
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Poor economic conditions and poor educational environment for children
Every parent has the good wish of "hoping for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix" when giving birth to a child
However, for children, only grow up in a good educational environment
Only then can they acquire knowledge and skills, and can they become a confident and sunny, excellent adult
Conversely, if parents do not give them enough education from an early age, then the future of the child will not be bright
I remember when I was in elementary school, there was a classmate in my class, and her parents had four children
As a result, her parents did not have money to provide for her when she went to junior high school, because several brothers began to go to high school and the family could not afford it financially
In the end, the classmate had to drop out of school to go to the barbershop to wash her hair, and when I was in high school, the girl was unmarried and pregnant
I met her in my hometown some time ago, and according to her, she now has three children
The eldest is already in high school, and the other one is in junior high school and one elementary school
The family rented a building of 40 or 50 square meters, the husband drove at the construction site, and she cooked at home with the children
Life can't be said to be unhappy, but it must be difficult, so although she is her peer, she really looks much more vicissitudes than those of us who have gone to college
Many times, society is very cruel, if a child does not receive a good education, low education
Then in the future, there will be fewer opportunities to choose a job, and life will be miserable
As a parent, before having a child, you must take this into account, and understand that it is not enough to let the child eat and wear warm
It is also necessary to let children get a good education, so that children can live a happy life and have a secure future
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Poor economic conditions, poor mental health of children
We often hear the saying "money is a person's greatest confidence"
Although this sentence is biased, in reality, if a person does not dress well, eats well, and is always stretched out, then it is inevitable that there will be an inferiority complex in the heart
Especially for sensitive children, if they are always inferior everywhere, the child's mental health will inevitably be greatly damaged
Not long ago, I saw such a video on the Internet, a junior high school student because of his family's poverty
So he was often in a state of inferiority at school, and as a result, the boy had an emotional breakdown and cried and asked his father
"You don't have any money, what are you going to do to me?"
Relatively speaking, those students with better family economies tend to become more focused on learning, more confident and more mentally healthy because they are full of confidence
All in all, as a parent, if you decide to have children, you must be thoughtful
It is necessary to ensure that children can be physically and mentally healthy and receive a good education
Make sure that children can grow up healthy and happy with the love and companionship of their parents
And you can't selfishly bring your children into the world in order to satisfy your fertility desires
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