Turn crying and laughing into your own weapon

In the workplace, the most taboo is written on the face, and the true intention is most afraid of being seen clearly, because if your bottom is exposed, you are most likely to fall into a disadvantage. We should learn to hide our true emotions in our hearts, and use joy and sorrow to stage all kinds of dramas in order to confuse the public and get what we want.

The first reaction of each of us in the face of an oncoming attack or disadvantage is to fight back. In fact, the lethality of such a counterattack is the smallest, because the other party has guessed your approximate counterattack routine, and this counterattack is difficult to achieve the desired purpose.

In addition to such a rectal and rectal way of dealing with each other, there are also silent coping methods, which are more superb and powerful in comparison. Because around the bend, usually people can not catch the pattern of behavior, you can be confident, to give people a surprise, this is the true meaning of thick black science. Mr. Li Zongwu's thick black science not only advocates that everyone should be thick and black, but also need to know how to disguise themselves. Such a discrepancy is an indispensable equipment in life and the workplace. Thick black learning does not make everyone "cry and laugh", but is good at camouflaging their emotions, allowing themselves to play more chess, flexible response, in order to go smoothly.

Li Linfu was a famous adulterer during the reign of Emperor Xuanzong of Tang and Li Longji. Li Linfu was originally a servant of the bureaucracy, a traitor and cunning, and had a deep friendship with eunuchs and concubines, and was always the first to know the emperor's every move. Therefore, every time he was able to play the emperor's wishes and gain the appreciation of Tang Xuanzong. At that time, Concubine Wu was the most favored, and her son Shou Wang Mao was also the most favored by Emperor Xuanzong. Li Linfu was enfeoffed with Concubine Wu huifei and was promoted to the rank of Yellow Gate Attendant. In May of the 22nd year of the new century, Emperor Xuanzong appointed Pei Yaoqing as Shizhong (侍中), Zhang Jiuling (張九ling) as Zhongshu Ling (中書令), and Li Linfu (李林甫) as Libu Shangshu (礼部尚書) and Tongzhongshu Menxia Sanpin (同中書門下三品). Since then, Li Linfu has gradually monopolized power. During his 19-year career as a chancellor, Emperor Xuanzong always believed in him. Li Linfu is a famous traitor, who likes to play with power and talk sweetly on the surface, but behind the scenes, he does everything to the extreme. Anyone who was trusted by Xuanzong would always make friends with him. When he was in power, he would try to get rid of this person, and even the old and treacherous people were often defeated by Li Linfu's men.

Li Linfu is a well-known man with a honey belly sword, he is full of smiles on the surface, but in his heart he is scheming and clever. Although we don't need to copy his sinister schemes, if we can learn the skills of this smiling tiger, we can also make our own ability to deal with the world to a higher level.

During the Warring States period, in order to expand its territory, the State of Qin had to seize the area around the Dangerous Yellow River, so it sent Gongsun Martingale as a general and led an army to attack the State of Wei. Gongsun Martin's army reached the wei state of Wucheng. This Wucheng was originally a place painstakingly managed by the famous Wei general Wu Qi, the terrain was dangerous, the fortifications were strong, and it was difficult to effectively attack frontally, and Gongsun An painstakingly pondered the strategy of attacking the city. When he discovered that Wei Guoshou would be a Prince Xing who had been in contact with him, he could not help but be overjoyed, and immediately repaired a letter, took the initiative to get close to the Gongzi Xing, and said: "Although the two of us are now their masters, considering our past friendship, it is still the two countries that strike the army and make peace agreements." "Nostalgia for the past is overflowing with words. He also suggested that a time be set up for talks and major events. After the letter was sent, Gongsun Martin also took the initiative to withdraw his troops, ordering the Qin army forward to withdraw immediately. Gongzi Xing read the letter and saw that the Qin army had retreated, and he was very happy, and immediately replied to the letter to agree on the date of the talks. Gongsun Martingale saw that gongzi had fallen into a trap and secretly set up an ambush at the place of the meeting.

On the day of the talks, Gongzi xing brought three hundred retinues to the agreed place, and saw that Gongsun Martingale had even fewer retinues, and all of them did not carry weapons, and they believed in the sincerity of the other side even more. The atmosphere of the talks was very harmonious, and the two men recounted their old feelings and expressed the sincerity of the two sides. Gongsun An also set up a banquet to entertain Gongzi Xing, and Gongzi Xingxing rushed into the table. Before he could sit still, he overheard an order, and the ambush soldiers surrounded him from all sides, and Gongzixing and the three hundred retinues could not react and were all captured. Gongsun Martin used his captured retinue to deceive the city gates of Wucheng and occupy Wucheng. The State of Wei had no choice but to cede the area around the West River and ask For Peace with Qin. The State of Qin used gongsun martingale to hide the sword and take the area around The KunShan Mountains lightly.

A simple smiley face can hide real thoughts and intentions, with the cover of the shield, the defense and attack will be more solid and sharp. A smile is actually the best weapon, it can cover up the truth and deceive people.

In addition to laughter, tears are also a tool. The so-called soldiers are not tired of deception, they can hide their knives in laughter, and they can naturally cry for four or two thousand pounds. Sometimes, the "Tear Offensive" is no weaker than the "sugar-coated cannonball", and it has its own magic of softness.

Xiaofei has been in a bad situation recently, because the department under her management has too many new employees to take time to give instructions one by one, resulting in them having enthusiasm but not knowing how to put into the work in the best state. The small meeting of the conference did not stop, she almost said rotten mouth, and even eliminated an employee at the end of last month, but the subordinates did not try to adjust the working state because of this, only sighing that they had entered the wrong department and encountered an iron-faced selfless mother night fork.

Therefore, the boss's opinion of Xiaofei is getting bigger and bigger. Although he understands that new employees need time to develop, the company's business is changing rapidly, and he only values performance and does not care about the process. In the middle of the up-and-down attack, Xiaofei lost sleep at night and had to confide in her friend Xiaolin, who was the financial director of another company. When it comes to the pain, I choke up with tears in my eyes and can't speak.

Xiao Lin asked her if she had ever cried at the company. Xiao Fei said, "How is it possible?" I'm not so timid. ”

"Imagine if two salesmen were standing in front of you with equal product, expertise, affinity. At this time, one of them said that the workplace is difficult, the eyes and nose are red in the emotional place, and you will definitely not hesitate to choose to buy his products and ignore the other one. Effectively showing weakness not only hits the soft part of your boss's heart, but also closes you to your subordinates. Why not give it a try? ”

A week later, at the company's plenary meeting, Xiaofei's department was again named and criticized. This time, Xiaofei did not remain silent, but stood up and stated the objective problems faced by the department and the actual progress it had made. She finally choked up and said, "Everyone in my team is trying to be the best they can, please give us a little time." The venue was extremely quiet, and Xiaofei suddenly found that the expression on everyone's face at this moment was soft, including the stern boss and colleagues who were not friendly to themselves in ordinary days, and the subordinates actually had red eyes.

Afterwards, the boss talked to Xiaofei and said that he did not care enough about her department in the past. Everything went off miraculously, and the relevant departments no longer demanded her department as harshly as in the past. What surprised her the most was that the initiative of her subordinates' work had increased a lot, which was really a leap forward.

Mr. Li Zongwu's thick black science not only advocates that everyone should be thick and black, but also tells everyone that they should know how to disguise themselves. We can usually greet people with a smile, but the thoughts in it must not penetrate through the surface smile, and when encountering an emergency, we can use the "tear offensive" to help ourselves resolve the crisis or achieve the goal.

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