Family Road: Poor do not blame the father, filial piety is not better than brother, bitterness does not blame the husband, anger is not fierce

In this lifetime, we will meet many people, but there are only a few that are really important.

The farther you go, the more you know, and the more people you know, the more you can realize that in this life, what you really care about, and at the same time care about you, is just a few people:

Parents who gave birth to us,

Blood is thicker than water,

Partners in the same boat,

Children under the knees of Chenghuan.

These few people are your whole world.

Therefore, do not blame and blame your parents when you are not satisfied, do not compare with your brothers and sisters when you contribute, do not blame your spouse when it is difficult and unsatisfactory, and do not scold your child when you are emotional.

As it is said in "The World of Man", the poor do not blame the father, filial piety is not better than the brother, bitterness does not blame the husband, and anger is not fierce.

In this way, a family will get better and better.

1. The poor do not blame the Father

There is a saying in the "Book of Poetry, Xiao Ya, Tategi": Mourn your parents, give birth to me.

Poor my parents, they gave birth to me and raised me, and they worked hard.

Maybe you also had self-pity at night, hating yourself for having a bad life, being born in an ordinary family that could no longer be ordinary; hating your parents for being incompetent and not letting you have a golden spoon at birth.

But you should understand that what you don't have, parents are even less likely to have.

What you can't achieve, how can you expect your parents from a more bitter and resource-poor era to stand out, clear the way forward for you, and accumulate enough wealth for you?

As children, we must always have a grateful heart and learn to understand and respect.

Parents go to great lengths to let you learn culture, not to make you dislike them for being uncultured;

Parents save money to let you see the world, not to make you hate them for not seeing;

Parents spend all their money to buy you a house and a car, not to make you hate them too shabby.

Your thoughts, patterns, and comforts today are all built on their increasingly curved backs, forged bit by bit by the blood, sweat, and grievances they have shed.

The son is not ugly, and the dog is not poor.

Accept the ordinariness of your parents, just like accepting your own ordinariness;

Fight for everything on your own, as you say to your children.

Attributing one's fate to the mediocrity of one's parents is an excuse for the lazy and a reason for the loser.

2. Filial piety is not better than brother

What is "filial piety"?

Since ancient times, filial piety has been divided into two types:

Serving at the side of parents, taking care of food, clothing, shelter and transportation, is to nourish the mouth;

Flying far away, achieving something, making parents proud of it, is health wisdom.

It can be the tears shed when worrying about the parents, or it can be silently waiting in front of the hospital bed;

It can be sitting around the TV with laughter, or it can be red in the face when arguing about a topic;

It can be the warmth of spending the weekend with parents, or it can be a transfer to parents in a different place;

It can be at the award ceremony, shouting at the camera: "Today I want to tell my parents in front of the national audience, I love you!" ”

It can also be a person who mutters silently: "I never knew what to say to my mother, I knew that I would make money early and come back to her to cure her old cold legs"...

You see, everyone's personality is different, the situation is different, and the action of expressing filial piety will be very different.

Filial piety to parents, in the final analysis, is for their own "heart", the picture is that they are at ease, and they have no shame. If you think like this, why should you compare yourself with your brothers and sisters and compete secretly?

When parents need it, every child must fulfill their responsibilities and make reasonable sacrifices. Rich people contribute, no money contributes, the burden of life is pressed down, and brothers and sisters share it.

If you always feel that you have suffered losses, or even accuse others of being unfilial, the hearts of a mother and compatriot will be far away.

3. Do not blame the husband for suffering

Some women, once living in poverty, will blame their husbands for their mistakes, believing that their husbands are not useful.

Human nature has an instinct called throwing pot.

When a person is bitter, this pot has nothing to throw. But two people are bitter, often subconsciously want to prove that living hard is not my problem, is the other party's work is not hard, is the other party's inability, is the other party's family is not good, parents and relatives drag too much, is the other party does not understand financial management, always spend money indiscriminately...

In short, we must find a fault from each other, and then throw the suffering of two people at this point, as if in this way, we do not have to bear a little responsibility for the current predicament.

Yang Lan said:

"The bond of marriage, not children, not money, but about the common growth of the spirit, in the most helpless and weak times, in the most depressed and depressed times, there is her (he) to hold up your chin, straighten your backbone, command you to be strong, and accompany you around, and bear the fate together. At that time, in addition to love, the feelings between you also had the righteousness of taking care of each other, the tacit understanding of not abandoning, and the unforgettable kindness. ”

The best relationship between husband and wife is that it is not easy to understand each other.

When the other party makes a mistake, it is not just about insults and blame, but about the other person's feelings, and then stand on the same side with him/her and face the problem together.

As soon as the words of reproach are spoken, there is a right or wrong, and the feeling of love will disappear when two people are pulled to the opposite side in an instant.

Lao Tzu said in the Tao Te Ching, "The journey of the great path is not to blame people."

Not easily accusing is a kind of cultivation, but also a kind of wisdom.

4, qi is not fierce

Some people in life, when the work is wronged, the pressure of life is too great, the mood is not good, there is nowhere to vent, will be angry with the child nameless.

In their hearts, the child is the flesh that falls from their own body, and the murder child is taken for granted, and there is no need to pay any price.

But they forget that for children, the family of origin affects a lifetime.

The famous psychologist Adler said:

"Happy people, with childhood to heal a lifetime; unfortunate people, with a lifetime to heal childhood." 」

As parents, we must understand that children are vulnerable groups and parents are all they have. You are angry, but the child is innocent.

In "The New Language of the World", Kong Rong was killed by Cao Cao because he was too clever. According to the laws of the time, the family members were also required to be beheaded. Someone took pity on Kong Rong's young children and persuaded them to escape. But the child had a clear mind and said, "Under the nest, is there an egg?" ”

In fact, the parents' loss of control, for the child, is not the disaster of "nesting"?

Don't be angry with your children, that's what the most incompetent parents do.

5, a lifetime of sunshine

Weibo big V Zhang Xinnian lawyer said,

"The values of truth, goodness and beauty should dominate, and without the cohesion born of universal values, human beings could not have come to this day." No matter what we have experienced, we still have to believe in it. ”

No matter how many vicissitudes and changes there are in the world, we must still carry longing, reverence, optimism and conscience, do filial piety for our sons, love our wives for our husbands, fulfill our responsibilities for our fathers, and be sincere for others.

Powerful people are not able to conquer anything, but what they can withstand.

In life, the poor do not blame the father, filial piety is not better than the brother, bitterness does not blame the husband, anger is not fierce, a life to the sun, good to others, and finally blessed.