#文章首发挑战赛#
introduction
"Whoever builds meritorious deeds begins with moral character. Those who have always been knowledgeable and can take on great undertakings must first establish a foothold in their conduct. —Xu Shichang
Moral character is the foundation of life. Since ancient times, people who are knowledgeable and can achieve great achievements are all people of noble character.
To be a man of virtue and not to do things lacking virtue is the eternal philosophy of life left down by the ancients, and it is also the ancient precept summarized by the ancestors for many years.
The ancients said: "A gentleman, a villain." "People who lack virtue are not worthy of deep friendship, and it is best to stay away.
So, in social life, how do we discover the moral character of the people around us?
"People who lack virtue can know at a glance": People with bad moral character can know by looking at these four aspects
01. He is very dishonest and often lies.
Words must be honest, deeds must be loyal. - Confucius
Confucius admonished his disciples that they must be honest in their words, not lie, and that they must be loyal to justice and not sneaky.
Therefore, to see whether a character is good or not, you can observe the content and tone of his speech.
If a person speaks very dishonestly, often likes to be secretive and lies, then there must be something wrong with the moral aspect of such a person.
People who like to lie tend to be weak-minded, and their faces and expressions will be very unnatural, their eyes will be erratic, and their hand movements will be more.
People who are hypocritical and inconsistent in their words and deeds are not trustworthy, and there will be no noble people to help them.
02. I like to talk about other people's private affairs behind my back, tell right and wrong, and reverse black and white.
If a person often likes to talk about other people's private affairs behind his back, tell right and wrong, and reverse black and white, then most of such people have a problematic moral character.
If you have lived in the countryside, you may have felt that there is always a group of people in the village, who sit in the open space at the head of the village when they have nothing to do, and are especially keen to discuss the affairs of other people's homes.
Some people with ulterior motives can't see the good of others, and many things often change when they come to their mouths, and this is how the so-called "gossip" comes about.
In the unit, there are often some such people who like to talk about the strengths and weaknesses of others behind their backs, and they will stand on the moral high ground to judge others when they have nothing to do with themselves, and they seem to be full of justice, but in fact, what they do is lacking in morality.
Therefore, we should be wary of such people in our lives, try not to disclose our own family affairs to them, and keep a distance.
03. Never only consider your own interests, and will not take into account the feelings of the people around you.
One of the main manifestations of people who lack morality is that they never think about their own interests in doing things, and do not take into account the feelings of the people around them.
In the past, there was a colleague in the unit, and he was the first to rush to ask for any benefits, and in order to evaluate the title, he had to fight for any honor, and he had already received a lot of benefits, and he would not let some of them be given to other colleagues, which was very selfish.
Although he seems to be more enterprising on the surface, he will not take into account the feelings of the people around him, only take care of himself, and eventually his popularity will be lost, everyone has a bad impression of him, and he has encountered difficulties at work, and no colleagues are willing to help, but the more mixed up the worse and worse, and the career path is getting narrower and narrower.
04. Treat your parents very unfilial, and you will only blindly ask for them.
To judge whether a person's morality is lacking, you can look at the person's attitude towards their parents.
If a person treats his parents very unfilial and will only blindly ask for it, then this person's morality must be lacking.
Nowadays, there are many "gnawing old people" in society, and when they are in their 30s, they still ask their parents' pensions to help them repay their mortgages and car loans, and they don't pull out a dime, such children are really sad for their parents.
The ancients said: "Filial piety comes first". Of all good deeds, filial piety comes first.
Obeying filial piety can let us know the etiquette of respecting the order of inferiority, and let us know the principle of "the grace of a drop of water should be repaid by a spring".
Filial piety is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation for thousands of years.
Filial people are often people who know how to be grateful, who can repay their kindness and will not be disobedient.
Such a person, when he arrives in the workplace, can often get help from nobles, and his career will go more and more smoothly.