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As the saying goes: the grace of a drop of water should be reciprocated by a spring.
But if someone else wants to borrow your house to get married, will you borrow it?
The answer may be half and half, that is, half of the people are willing to borrow and half are not willing to borrow.
Humanity cannot stand the test.
01
The incident happened in a resident's house in Jiangsu, the mother found her daughter and said that her younger brother was getting married, but the house was not settled, and I hoped that I, as my sister, would help.
My younger brother is 35 years old this year, and he still has no girlfriend and has never talked about a girlfriend.
Finally, his cousin-in-law introduced him to a girl, who was a relative of his cousin-in-law, a 33-year-old leftover girl who was willing to marry.
But at this time, my family's old house only has 4 one-story old houses, and the house built in the past eight years is already as old as a dilapidated house.
Other girls went on a blind date, and when they saw such a house, they immediately shook their heads, "I don't even have a house, how can I get married!" ”
Fortunately, the girl introduced by her cousin-in-law is old, and she doesn't want to choose, so she asks for a bride price according to local customs, buys a set of 3 rooms, and a car, and she is willing to marry.
Such a requirement is not too high. The local bride price is only 12-150,000 yuan, and she asks to marry other men in the same village, and others are happy, but she wants to feel that the character of the cousin-in-law (my brother) is trustworthy, and her parents-in-law are also kind.
However, the seemingly low requirements stumped my parents, and they could barely afford to buy a car, a bride price, a banquet, and sell a house.
Therefore, my mother can only come to ask my sister for help and let my younger brother get married, and then they have discussed it, so that the wedding can be held on National Day.
02
To help or not to help? I'm struggling.
When I was young, my family was okay. A family of 5, my brother and me, my parents, and my grandmother.
My parents worked outside, and my younger brother and I lived with my grandmother in our hometown, which was a one-story house built by my parents when we were young.
Around 90 years, I was able to live in a building, and I was relatively wealthy in the village.
But the good times didn't last long, my father smashed his foot at the construction site, leaving sequelae, and he walked with a limp. After that, he couldn't go out to work, and my mother worked hard to support our family and provide for me to study.
As an older sister, I was very sensible and studied hard, but I only graduated from high school and came out to work.
I thought I was going to send my younger brother to school, but I never thought that my younger brother was very playful and had no interest in learning, and after graduating from junior high school, he followed the villagers to work in the factory.
The younger brother's salary is not high, and it is very hard, but the younger brother can endure hardships, but he doesn't feel anything.
Both siblings worked, and my mother returned to her hometown to take care of my sick father. That year, my father had a stroke, and my brother and I paid for the family's living expenses, and the treatment also cost a sum of money, and life went on like this.
And my mother farms at home, raises pigs and ducks, and can't earn a few dollars a year.
But I still firmly believe that life will change for the better if you work hard.
03
After I got married, I rented a shop in the building materials market and started a door and window business with my husband.
Before, my husband was in this business, but he was just a worker, he had no skills, but he could only get a little salary, and he had long wanted to do it alone.
But doing business requires principal, and the little money we have in our hands is not enough.
After my mother and younger brother found out, they lent me all the savings of 50,000 yuan and 10,000 yuan for my younger brother, hoping to help my sister.
With the development of real estate, my husband and I are doing better and better, we have been married for more than 2 years, I am in my 40s, and my son is already in college.
My husband and I bought a 129.6-square-meter 4-bedroom apartment (the area on the house book) and lived a life with a car and a house. It's just that the son went to study, and the two of them live in a big house, which seems a little lonely.
And my younger brother is still working everywhere, and I don't know if he has saved money, he is 35 years old, and he feels that he is a hanger, and he calls him to come to me to learn the craft, but he doesn't come.
Of course, over the years, I have also helped the family, what I need to buy, and I give my parents living expenses every month, so I basically don't have to worry about my parents having no money to spend.
I thought about it, and asked my brother if he wanted to build a house, and he and he would each contribute a part of the money.
But this idea was quickly vetoed by Mom and Dad because they heard the news about the demolition......
04
"You move to an apartment and lend this 130-square-meter house to your brother before getting married!" Mom proposed.
The apartment my mother said was a duplex apartment that my husband and I bought two years ago near the university town, and it has been renovated and is going to be rented out.
My husband and I thought that when we get old, the rent of the apartment will be our pension, although it is not much, but it is also a fixed income.
"When your brother gets married, tell your brother-in-law about the situation, this house is yours anyway, and they can't take it away!"
My brother's character, I am very clear as an older sister, he is an honest man, introverted and wooden, he will not rob my house, but it does not mean that my brother-in-law will not.
After a little struggle, I still rejected my mother's offer.
They want to get married, I can give them a 58-square-meter apartment to get married, and they can live in it, but my house is mine, my husband, and children, and I can't borrow it.
On the contrary, if your brother and daughter-in-law don't leave, or if you know the truth and want to divorce, what should you do?
It's better to tell your brother-in-law the truth directly and let her make her own decisions.
"You're a white-eyed wolf, you're rich, and you're starting to worry about it!"
My mother didn't care about my feelings and scolded me directly.
Moreover, our family was demolished soon, but there is a resettlement house, or you can buy a new one, and your brother and sister-in-law will definitely not occupy your house.
05
But I still stuck to my position, this house can't be borrowed.
As an older sister, I should indeed repay my parents' and younger brother's kindness, and I can also give my brother a down payment to buy a house, as long as he is willing.
Mom cried, your sons are all in college, your brother is still single, your father is sick and lying in bed, if your brother is single for a lifetime, we will not be blind!
You are in such good conditions now, I can't count on you, how can you be so ruthless!
I told my husband about it, and my husband also supported my decision, since it is a marriage, my brother should be honest with my brother and daughter-in-law, what is such a deceived marriage.
I also plan to make it clear to my brother about this matter, there is only so much that my parents can do, and it is about the future affairs, so let him talk to his brother and daughter-in-law by himself.
I just don't understand, why does my mother have to use my house as my brother's wedding room?
I still don't understand?