The fate of everything.
Not going all out, in fact, is a kind of disappointment.
Stand at the starting point of fate.
No one knows if the other party is their right fate.
Only have been friends and treated each other sincerely.
Under the witness of time, everyone will see clearly whether the two people are suitable.
If they fit together, it's a blessing.
If the two sides continue to entangle, they will only accumulate more and more disappointment.
The best option, then, is to let it go.
1. Can't let go, is it because of love?
Love but can't.
It is a long-term phenomenon in fate.
When two people who have loved each other choose to separate, everyone often encounters such confusion:
For a long time, I couldn't move on from the past.
In response to this phenomenon, some friends will ask such questions: Two people have broken up, but they can't forget each other, is this because of love?
From a psychological point of view, it is nothing more than the "Zeignick effect" at work.
How do you understand that?
Two people who have loved each other, but they have not been able to walk into marriage hand in hand.
This kind of unsatisfactory love will make people regret and make people linger.
Therefore, everyone can't help but think back to the past and consider the possibilities between two people. As a result, it will make us imagine that the love between two people is still there.
In reality, it's just a memory effect.
Second, if you want to let go, please do 3 things.
After the breakup.
How can we free ourselves from the past?
1. See the reality clearly and understand that it is not worth it.
A lot of the time.
It is difficult for us to forget our predecessors because we have not seen the facts clearly.
Everyone is still trying to find a reasonable explanation, and they are still imagining various possibilities.
As everyone knows, everything has already become a foregone conclusion.
It has long been an indisputable fact that two people broke up. Only by accepting the facts can we look forward.
If a person loves you, he will not let you down.
If someone is determined to leave you, then it's not worth dwelling on.
Even if the other party is really good.
If the fate between you is over, you will not be able to keep each other's hearts.
Rather than lingering, why can't we let go of it as soon as possible.
2. Take care of yourself and keep growing.
After the breakup.
We will be faced with a change in habits.
During the time when two people fell in love, everyone developed the habit of treating each other.
When singleness resumed.
Many friends will fall into self-denial and feel that they are worthless.
However, this emotion only makes us more miserable.
To be a smart person, you should learn to love yourself and pay attention to your own growth from now on.
For example, take up some new hobbies, improve your skills and abilities, and make yourself better.
When you start focusing on your own growth.
You will find that the status of your ex will gradually decrease, and you will face the future with more confidence.
3. Grasp fate, don't refuse new love.
Saying goes:
"There is no old love that a new love can't replace."
If a fate is over.
Then let's not live in the past.
Instead, you should look forward, strive to meet a better version of yourself, and grasp the person who fits you.
If one day, you will meet a fate that is truly suitable.
Don't hesitate, don't be afraid of contact with love just because you've been hurt.
You know, everyone has a past.
Love itself is also a process of trial and error, and only by grasping the new fate in time can we truly let go.